Unpopular Opinion: Choosing Moderation Over Sobriety

It’s not new to say that our society revolves around drinking and birthday parties, holidays, celebrations, heck, the weekend are all implied to include alcohol consumption. It’s why so many in our wellness community looking to live a “high vibe life” decide to choose sobriety over substances. I attended a beautiful panel with some of my closet friends all about alcohol and choosing sobriety—it got me thinking.


It went deep and offered a great starting point for this conversation. A conversation like many in this space is saturated with the shoulds and should not’s. Like celery juice, matcha lattes, intermittent fasting, and even superfoods I believe there is a time, a place and a balance to it all.


Which is why I choose conscious consumption over sobriety. Why, you ask?


I will say that I know many who choose to live a sober life and their lives are equally abundant, happy and loving. It’s true that society as a whole shouldn’t be alcohol-focused and the more conversations we have about sobriety the more we create a positive change. The more we’ll feel a release from societal pressures to choose alcohol or drugs because it’s what everyone else is doing. Instead, that choice will come back to our control. To following our intuition.

But, here it is. I’m against complete sobriety.

To preach sobriety could have a negative effect. It stigmatizes everyone who drinks a glass of wine at a family dinner or smokes a bit of marijuana to mellow out in the evenings are not living up to their fullest potential, are not living a life of bliss, of light and of profound love.


I find substances have a time and a place. We drink wine on Shabbat, for Passover and other holidays + celebrations. I use alcohol and drugs to enhance the intention behind it whether that’s to love what life has given me, deepen the connection with my husband or celebrate the joy and support I have in all my sisters.


It’s when drinking is used as a crutch to hide deeper issues that it becomes a problem. It’s when you depend on alcohol or drugs to numb whatever you’re afraid to confront. Once you’ve done the work, dug in, brought awareness to all that’s holding you back, and released it from your life then the balance can be restored and you can rely on your inner-knowing to use substances for connection and for celebration.

How can you begin to live a life of moderation rather than total abstinence?

Anything can be toxic and considered “poison” if used excessively and used to hide away from whatever is going on below the surface. This is the same for all the considerably “healthy” activities. The key is to use any substance or any experience with intent.


If you’re INTENTIONAL, the mechanisms in your brain will send messages to your operating system so the substances used will connect rather than disconnect. Any substance done with the intent behind it can be ceremonial - cacao, ashwagandha, MDMA, or psychotropic substances, to name a few - have been used in healing and grounding ceremonies for years. I use MDMA to deepen my connection with my husband and cacao is commonly used in heart-opening ceremonies and to deepen meditations. It’s using them for a PURPOSE, not a distraction.


The use of alcohol and drugs in this form will sustain all the magic and joy of the experience. Our minds and bodies are untapped and restrained so much of the day, using drugs and alcohol to only enhance the human body experience and expand the realm of possibilities in this universe is magic.   


If you find yourself wanting to be sober look into the WHY. Is there fear? Anxiety over the loss of control? This is where there the healing and growth work is begging to be done.


Abstinence isn’t the only answer!! If you want another option, check out The Abstinence Myth by Adi that offers an entirely new perspective to actually heal from abuse and addiction rather than numbing out and pushing it away.


Instead of choosing sobriety while you do the deep work within, experiment with being “sober curious.” In the IGNTD Recovery Secrets podcast, Adi connected with Ruby Warrington all about her new book, Sober Curious and her approach to going alcohol-free that is much more forgiving and empowering. Listen here!!


Remember loves, life isn’t all that serious. Enjoy it. Embrace it. Soak up every moment as they come. As long as you show up to yourself entirely you'll already be a more present, powerful and captivating soul.



Did any of this resonate with you? I would love your thoughts!! Share with me in the comments below or connect with me on Facebook using #PhilosophieLove.

Comments (3):

Edin on

I tend to be all-or-nothing in my personality, and therefore my interactions with my environment and emotions. Sometimes this is serving, but other times it can be unhealthy. Abstaining versus conscious consumption is a massive challenge for me, but a necessary journey to find balance (and not go from one extreme to the other). I love the reminder to check in with myself and ask myself why I want to do an “alcohol detox” because the answer is always more complicated than how I convinced myself to get there.

Jessica on

Loved this! I do feel like this should be discussed more openly. There is a sense of feeling like you can’t be a healthy balanced person while drinking wine and smoking weed. It truly is about intent. That’s a great way to put it! Thanks for writing about this.

Tawana G on

This article was great! I’m that person who likes to have a drink on the weekends or partake in other substances. Not because I’m trying to numb, but because I want to quiet my mind or celebrate. I love your perspective that teaching just sobriety puts a negative stance on those that want to partake but not in excess. Thank you Sophie for another out of the box side of things.

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My Fall Favorites for the Ultimate Coziness

I’m all about FALL - it’s a wonderful time for turning inward, finding gratitude, expressing love and cozying on up! I need this energy so much in my life right now so I’m making this season count and taking full advantage of the cozy vibes.


Along with joining my Philosophie fam on a GROUP FALL RESET (starting on the Autumn Equinox on Monday, 9/23) these are some of my favorite essentials I keep around the home all throughout this season for my own self-care and healing.


1) Books! And one of my go-to's for DROPPING IN is Mamaste by Lori Bregman

A beautiful read about supporting motherhood from within and finding community along the way. Some others in my essential reads are: The Book of Awakening, Ram Daa Be Here Now, Untethered Soul, I Am Her Tribe, Yoga Journal


2) Palo Santo 

A MUST for creating positive energy. I use Palo Santo during the cooler months because we’re home more and have a tendency to invite over more friends + family for the holidays so I want to make sure we invite in positive, uplifting energy in our space. 


3) Liquid Sunshine Chlorophyll Drops

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4) Green Dream Savory Blend

An essential for easy nutritious + tasty dinners for you and the family! I use it on all my favorite roasted veggies, soups and savory meals! So yummy!

5) Superfood Lattes

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7) Chrysalis Healing Water

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8) Candles and I’m loving Dehv!

A good candle can completely change the energy of a room and I love using candles that are made consciously and so full of love like Dehv. Their packaging is also insanely gorgeous!

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Refusing To Cover Up + Products With A Purpose

As a mama and, truthfully, a woman, I’m told a lot about what I should and shouldn’t be doing in order to have a perfect, healthy life. After years of work in establishing boundaries and leaning in fully to my intuition, I’m not easily swayed by the rules and labels put on women. I’ve created such a strong circle that I barely come across products and stigmas that don’t align with my life. But, I know they exist and my hope is to help other women cut through all that noise and come back to their own body in a beautiful, gentle and loving way. I REFUSE to shrink and label myself to do things that make me look, feel or SMELL better. The second we try to hide what we’re made of is the second we create a toxic cycle within our bodies. 


This is why I’m challenging myself to commit to certain clean, non-toxic products that enhance my natural body’s makeup for the next few months and see how I feel and where I end up. I would love for you to join this movement with me!


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Mindful movement: Moving your body in a way that feels good deep within your bones like a morning yoga flow, a midday afternoon jog around the neighborhood or a HITT class at your local gym.

Daily nourishment: Eating lots of fresh fruits + veggies and TONS of superfoods because it gives you long-lasting energy and boosts your body’s nutrients. Eating all the colors because it’s fun, delicious and rewarding.

Conscious consumerism: Using trusted and safe products like type:A to support natural body functions (aka sweat!) makes you GLOW from the inside out.


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If you’d like to join me and try type:A for yourself, use my code “SOPHIE20” for 20% off! So excited to see how my body feels after these few months and I’ll continue to update you all throughout this journey!

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Anything I’m missing? Anything you use? Share in the comments below!

Cutting Cords Energetically to Align with Your Highest Self

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What are some signs of unwanted energy cords?

Obsessive thoughts or behaviors around a person or thing

Negative self-talk or feelings with that relationship

Feeling drained with a person or a thing

You don’t feel like your true self around that person or with that thing

You hold onto to the hurt or pain in a low vibrational way

The relationship makes you physically anxious, tired or sick


The same way we can energetically attach to people, places or things, we can also physically attach. It’s our choice and birthright to cut any forms of an unhealthy attachment. Through connecting to your intuition and maintaining nourishing self-care rituals and practices you’ll recognize where energy cords are strengthening or depleting you.


The best thing you can do is let go of feeding that person, place, trauma or hurt your energy through thought or emotion. Forgive them, forgive yourself and LET GO.

A ritual for energetic cord-cutting

Find a quiet place and light some candles then clear away negative energy with Palo Santo (available here). Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Then perform this visualization exercise:

Picture a thick cord coming from the center of your body, traveling deep into the earth and tying you safely to the core. Grounding you and protecting you.

Now imagine the person, place or thing you wish to let go.

Visualize a physical cord with this relationship and imagine cutting it. Tell this person, place or thing that you love them and are grateful for them but will no longer be tied to them. 

Remove the cords.

Visualize the cord you tied to the earth coming back to your center. 

Bring your awareness back to reality and move your body (try a quick yoga flow or delicious stretch).


Finish by lighting some Sweet Grass (available here) and bring in new, vibrant positive energy into your home and the energy within. 



How do you challenge your growth and reach toward your highest self? Share in the comments below or connect with me on Instagram using #PhilosophieLove.

Magical Moon Talk: Cancer New Moon & Solar Eclipse

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Channel all this magical energy through a vibrant yoga flow to help get out of your head and back into your back. I shared a 15 min. HITT Vinyasa Yoga Flow now up on my YouTube channel.



Grab a Magical Moon Satchel or “intuition kit” to help uplift your energy today and every day.

Happy New Moon and Solar Eclipse!

Sophie’s Podcast List

I’ll be the first to admit that I was pretty hesitant to jump on the podcast bandwagon. It wasn’t until I was a guest on some truly amazing podcasts and then took the HUGE leap and started my own with Adi (IGNTD podcast) that I began to truly appreciate the magic of this kind of storytelling. Podcasts have the unique way of bringing people together and sharing stories in an honest, authentic way as long as you come to it with the right intention. It’s incredibly rewarding and I feel so honored to be able to connect with my community in this way.


Now, I look forward to these talks with other women, content creators and entrepreneurs excelling at what they do. The feedback I receive whether it’s from our IGNTD podcasts or a podcast I’m a guest on is amazing and so entirely worth it.


Here’s a little round-up of all the podcasts I’m featured on and how you can tune into the IGNTD podcasts!


Love, Light & Lace with Marissa Lace // Vulnerability, Relationships, Honoring YOURSELF, + being a powerful mama

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The Alchemized Life with Ava Johanna // Why we all should practice radical transparency, a no BS gratitude practice, and conscious parenting

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Claim It! Podcast with Your Joyologist // A conversation on balance, living with intention, boundaries, motherhood, becoming an entrepreneur and what ignites joy

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Healthier Together with Liz Moody // Myself & Courtney Swan on things you’re not supposed to talk about—money, sex, & body image

Listen here


Off the Record // Life as a child, shame, intimacy, a "passion for fashion," and transforming tragedy into triumph

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Manifest This with Ashley Wood // Manifestation, magic and mindful motherhood

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Bring Your Own Kombucha // A chat on all things motherhood, balance, and living your best life!

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The Influencer Podcast with Julie Solomon // The importance of speaking your truth to grow your influence

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Almost 30 // A conversation about balance, motherhood, and saving a marriage

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Soul On Fire with The Balanced Blonde // A talk on friendships, balancing it all, motherhood, our food philosophy, life and so much more

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Dynamic Lifestyle // How to IGNITE your relationships, career, and well-being

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#Nofilter with Zack Peter // How to overcome cheating & F*ck Shame

Listen here

Adi and I starting IGNTD together, out of our home, was a huge leap for us and our partnership. It was tough in the beginning but now I look forward to every single conversation on our podcast with some amazing guests. We’ve created the space to be deep, vulnerable, honest and intentional.


The IGNTD Relationships podcast is an exploration of all things relationships whether that’s money, family, career, love and more - there’s nothing we won’t shy away from.


LISTEN HERE


Recovery Secrets offers an entirely new look at the addiction problem with my husband Adi.


LISTEN HERE


What podcasts do you listen to? Any shows you’d like me to appear on or any guests you’d like to see on the IGNTD podcast? We want to know!!