Unpopular Opinion: Choosing Moderation Over Sobriety

It’s not new to say that our society revolves around drinking and birthday parties, holidays, celebrations, heck, the weekend are all implied to include alcohol consumption. It’s why so many in our wellness community looking to live a “high vibe life” decide to choose sobriety over substances. I attended a beautiful panel with some of my closet friends all about alcohol and choosing sobriety—it got me thinking.


It went deep and offered a great starting point for this conversation. A conversation like many in this space is saturated with the shoulds and should not’s. Like celery juice, matcha lattes, intermittent fasting, and even superfoods I believe there is a time, a place and a balance to it all.


Which is why I choose conscious consumption over sobriety. Why, you ask?


I will say that I know many who choose to live a sober life and their lives are equally abundant, happy and loving. It’s true that society as a whole shouldn’t be alcohol-focused and the more conversations we have about sobriety the more we create a positive change. The more we’ll feel a release from societal pressures to choose alcohol or drugs because it’s what everyone else is doing. Instead, that choice will come back to our control. To following our intuition.

But, here it is. I’m against complete sobriety.

To preach sobriety could have a negative effect. It stigmatizes everyone who drinks a glass of wine at a family dinner or smokes a bit of marijuana to mellow out in the evenings are not living up to their fullest potential, are not living a life of bliss, of light and of profound love.


I find substances have a time and a place. We drink wine on Shabbat, for Passover and other holidays + celebrations. I use alcohol and drugs to enhance the intention behind it whether that’s to love what life has given me, deepen the connection with my husband or celebrate the joy and support I have in all my sisters.


It’s when drinking is used as a crutch to hide deeper issues that it becomes a problem. It’s when you depend on alcohol or drugs to numb whatever you’re afraid to confront. Once you’ve done the work, dug in, brought awareness to all that’s holding you back, and released it from your life then the balance can be restored and you can rely on your inner-knowing to use substances for connection and for celebration.

How can you begin to live a life of moderation rather than total abstinence?

Anything can be toxic and considered “poison” if used excessively and used to hide away from whatever is going on below the surface. This is the same for all the considerably “healthy” activities. The key is to use any substance or any experience with intent.


If you’re INTENTIONAL, the mechanisms in your brain will send messages to your operating system so the substances used will connect rather than disconnect. Any substance done with the intent behind it can be ceremonial - cacao, ashwagandha, MDMA, or psychotropic substances, to name a few - have been used in healing and grounding ceremonies for years. I use MDMA to deepen my connection with my husband and cacao is commonly used in heart-opening ceremonies and to deepen meditations. It’s using them for a PURPOSE, not a distraction.


The use of alcohol and drugs in this form will sustain all the magic and joy of the experience. Our minds and bodies are untapped and restrained so much of the day, using drugs and alcohol to only enhance the human body experience and expand the realm of possibilities in this universe is magic.   


If you find yourself wanting to be sober look into the WHY. Is there fear? Anxiety over the loss of control? This is where there the healing and growth work is begging to be done.


Abstinence isn’t the only answer!! If you want another option, check out The Abstinence Myth by Adi that offers an entirely new perspective to actually heal from abuse and addiction rather than numbing out and pushing it away.


Instead of choosing sobriety while you do the deep work within, experiment with being “sober curious.” In the IGNTD Recovery Secrets podcast, Adi connected with Ruby Warrington all about her new book, Sober Curious and her approach to going alcohol-free that is much more forgiving and empowering. Listen here!!


Remember loves, life isn’t all that serious. Enjoy it. Embrace it. Soak up every moment as they come. As long as you show up to yourself entirely you'll already be a more present, powerful and captivating soul.



Did any of this resonate with you? I would love your thoughts!! Share with me in the comments below or connect with me on Facebook using #PhilosophieLove.

Comments (3):

Edin on

I tend to be all-or-nothing in my personality, and therefore my interactions with my environment and emotions. Sometimes this is serving, but other times it can be unhealthy. Abstaining versus conscious consumption is a massive challenge for me, but a necessary journey to find balance (and not go from one extreme to the other). I love the reminder to check in with myself and ask myself why I want to do an “alcohol detox” because the answer is always more complicated than how I convinced myself to get there.

Jessica on

Loved this! I do feel like this should be discussed more openly. There is a sense of feeling like you can’t be a healthy balanced person while drinking wine and smoking weed. It truly is about intent. That’s a great way to put it! Thanks for writing about this.

Tawana G on

This article was great! I’m that person who likes to have a drink on the weekends or partake in other substances. Not because I’m trying to numb, but because I want to quiet my mind or celebrate. I love your perspective that teaching just sobriety puts a negative stance on those that want to partake but not in excess. Thank you Sophie for another out of the box side of things.

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Do the Work // George Floyd Support + Anti-Racism Resources

It’s time to roll up our sleeves, people. Somehow, SIXTY years after the civil rights movement we STILL have a racism issue. We STILL have an IGNORANCE issue.


This will be an ongoing list of the things you can do TODAY. Here are some ideas to help you get started: share, share, share, educate yourself, educate someone else, help, help, help, stand on front lines, end a vicious cycle, do the right thing, share a story, lift someone who’s suffering, donate to causes that support, sign a petition, learn to recognize + understand your own privilege & teach your children, look at your own biases & consider where they originated, find out how your company or school works to expand opportunities for minorities, list goes on.... let’s hear yours!


“Civil rights didn’t change anything. We are all racist inside. It’s a sickness our European ancestors took on for access to property. It’s ingrained in America. It’s important to grieve this.”



EDUCATE YOURSELF


The following is from this article in Harper’s Bazaar:

DONATE

  • Floyd's brother, Philonise Floyd, has started a GoFundMe to assist his family in their time of grief and need. DONATE HERE
  • The Minnesota Freedom Fund, a grassroots organization currently working with the National Lawyers Guild and the Legal Rights Center, will use donations to bail out arrested protestors and to supply those on the field. DONATE HERE
  • Reclaim the Block, a grassroots organization based in Minneapolis, will use funds to address community needs. DONATE HERE
  • Black Visions Collective, which is based in Minnesota, focuses its work on transformative justice in the state. DONATE HERE
  • North Star Health Collective is a group of street medics, radical health organizers, and community health trainers based in Minneapolis and St. Paul, and will use funds for gear and medical supplies on the field. DONATE HERE
  • Organizers in Louisville, Kentucky–the city that Breonna Taylor lived in–have created a community bail fund for protestors. DONATE HERE

CALL GOVERNMENT REPRESENTATIVES

  • Contact Minneapolis Mayor Jacob Frey to demand justice. You can also call his office at 612-673-2100. REACH OUT HERE
  • Demand County Attorney Mike Freeman charge the officers with murder by calling him at 612-348-5550.

SIGN PETITIONS

  • Color of Change's petition demands that Frey block the involved officers from receiving their pensions and ban them from being able to become police officers again, as well as demands that Freeman charge the officers with murder. You can also text "FLOYD" to 55156 to sign the petition. SIGN THE PETITION HERE
  • Another petition posted on Change.org is also trying to get the attention of Frey and Freeman. It currently has more than two million signatures and is aiming for at least three million. SIGN THE PETITION HERE

Text FLOYD to 55156 for George

Text ENOUGH to 55156 for Breanna

Text JUSTICE to 55156 for Ahmaud

 

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Natural Ways to Boost Immunity + Find Your Flow

Over the last few months, we’ve had information overload with tons of ways to navigate these times, boost your health, support immunity and restore balance. There’s SO much energy in the world right now and I want to make sure I’m doing my best to share a ton of valuable content on what is helping ME stay balanced, tips + tricks for what’s keeping my immune system supported and how I’m moving my body and finding peace within a FULL home. 


Most importantly, this is a time to listen to yourself and your needs. You and you alone speak to yourself. Be kind. Be gentle. Be understanding. It’s more about aligning with your flow and tapping into your highest power. 


These are the tools and rituals that help boost immunity and allow me to tap into my F L O W.


Turning my HIGH ENERGY + stress into helpful action. I’ve been teaching almost every Sunday for the past three months an intuitive yoga movement class and sharing all the stress-relieving tips that work for me. It’s a beautiful way to connect with my community and has been a reminder of how much I find joy in teaching.


Try out this free intuitive movement class on my YouTube!

High Vibrational + Alkalizing Nourishment. The food we eat is our first form of defense, medicine and support. 80% of our immune cells are in the gut so by strengthening gut health you boost immunity. When you choose whole, real foods you are supporting your whole health. I fuel my body with smoothies, salads, broths, grains, veggies and SUPERFOODS (the most efficient + effective way to restore the body) every day. 

 

To make sure your body is receiving all of the nourishment it needs to keep you free from sickness and GLOWING, make it a daily ritual to whip up an energizing smoothie filled with fruits + veggies, Philosophie superfoods, and coconut water or nut mylks. Try this Dragonfruit Smoothie Bowl!

Take a relaxing walk. Have you ever noticed that after a low-intensity workout or yoga flow, you actually feel energized? According to a University of Georgia study, a light workout can boost your energy by 20%.

 

Take in as much natural vitamin D as you can even if it’s just for a 10-minute walk in your neighborhood. I love being outside. I try to get outside at least once a day even if it’s just a short morning walk around the neighborhood with my kiddos. Being in nature can be calming and nurturing to your soul, spirit and body.

 

A spoonful of raw superfood honey a day keeps the flu away! The moment you feel a scratchy throat, try Philosophie Green Bee Honey or Berry Bee Honey (loaded with extra vitamin C) to lubricate the throat and boost your immune system with superfoods and adaptogens to heal you quickly.

Take a power nap. Overloading our brains with new info and then analyzing and storing all of that data can zap some of our energy. The National Institute of Mental Health has found that by taking short + sweet 60-minutes naps, we can restore our energy and actually better retain any new info we’ve gathered during the day.

 

Drink your chlorophyll water! Chlorophyll helps to eliminate harmful bacteria from the body, hydrates + heals the skin and boosts your energy.

Playroom Storage Hacks + Elevated Design Tips

My kiddos are growing up and I wanted to create a space that supported this next level of their evolution. We all needed a bit of a distraction and creating this playroom has been such a fun project during these months in quarantine. I’m so excited to share this space with you and hope it inspires you!


Here’s the story: our last au pair left early this year. She was living in a spare bedroom we had upstairs down the wall from the master bedroom and kids’ rooms. The “playroom” for the boys was downstairs but it just became a dumping ground for lost toys and things. When our au pair left we felt it was best to switch the playroom with her room so it was more accessible to the kids, more connected to us adults, but the kids still had a space all their own.


I worked with my love, Dany of Spatial Soulutions who helped to completely transform and up-level our entire home. Dany is a holistic stylist on a mission to help people create conscious, beautiful and functional spaces. She’s offering virtual sessions if you want to get started now while you’re at home.

THE WHY BEHIND THE SPACE

When you have three kiddos at home all under the age of 10 - messes happen. I’ve always believed the sign of a mess is the sign of life fully being lived and experienced. Yet as a Taurus, I thrive off creating warm, grounded energy in my home and having a clean space does ease my stress. I wanted a playroom that encouraged their play, imagination and growth but didn’t become a room of constant mess. The organization, simplifying, and intentional design was key so I partnered up with Pottery Barns Kids to take this room to the NEXT LEVEL.


We wanted the playroom to be soothing and open which is why we stuck to a very neutral color palette. We dedicated the closet to board games + costumes – items that are more colorful and harsh on the eye. We got this mid-century toy chest from Pottery Barn Kids (obsessed!) for all the dress-up accessories to live in right next to the closet. 

ORGANIZATION IDEAS THAT WORK FOR YOU + FAM

When it comes to rooms for your littles, SIMPLE is always best. We started by doing an entire cleanout everything and removed items that had somehow made their way to this room where they didn’t belong. We donated a ton of old toys, books and games the kids no longer played with and no longer inspired new levels of growth. 


What we kept we organized into a specific place. If you’re organizing a playroom of your own, don’t dump ALL the toys in one large bin or toy chest. It’ll turn into a mess. When you store each toy in its own place it helps maintain the space and the kids can help clean up because they will know where things go. 


We used Pottery Barn Kids’ 3x3 Cameron wall system because it has incredible open and closed storage. This whole system is modular which makes it really easy to personalize it to your space. We used this system to streamline the majority of the boys’ toys. We used the Quinn baskets in various sizes inside of the cubbies for manipulatives (blocks, legos, etc), small card games and building accessories like people + animals. We also displayed the boys’ books inside of the Cameron wall system. We put their school materials inside of the cabinets of the wall system. This piece is great because it also has the concealed storage of the cabinets. We also got the Seagrass and Metal storage baskets for large blocks to be displayed out for easy building access, and these items are safe for Noa to play with too! 


We already had a gray art cart, so we found the Carolina Play Table in gray and some cute metal play chairs for the boys to work/create at. We also put this large lidded basket next to the table to house their coloring books + sketchbooks. 


For Noa, we found these perfect double market bins with dividers and placed them on the floor so she is able to get her toys herself at eye level. She is obsessed with feeding us, so we literally have play kitchens for her all over the house. For the playroom, we went with the stunning Chelsea All-in-1 play kitchen for her to enjoy and got her an adorable shopping cart to add to her pretend play area. 

ELEVATED DESIGN TOOLS 

The neutral color palette of this room allows them to go wild with their toys, games and art. When they leave things out it doesn’t feel like too much of a mess because the room is soft as it is. We found a perfect rug from Pottery Barns Kids in 8 x 10. The Korey rug is so cozy, and also has the neutral yet playful boho feel I love. 


We wanted to add neutral, functional, yet fun decor into the space. Here are some of my favorite items we selected to help give you some ideas:

Animal decal - We cut it up and put the pieces in different areas around the room. It was Adi’s idea to break up the decal and we really love it!

Magnetic strip with Clips - To display their creations in a functional + fun way!

Navy Campaign Pinboard - Another way to display their art, and put up their schoolwork/schedules/etc. This has been insanely helpful while they have school at home.

Giraffe + Peace Sign wall art - Playful and neutral pieces to add to the space. 


We are SO in love with how this room turned out and it was been such a blessing to have it completed during these months at home. They have a designated space for homeschooling and playtime while I work. I also love that I can easily go play and create with them. So magical!


Thanks to Pottery Barns Kids, who collaborated with me to really take this room to a whole new level! I’m obsessed with it!


What do you love most about this space? Any ideas you’re going to implement in your own homes or ideas of your own? Share with me below!

Resources for HOME with Your Kiddos

What a crazy time we’re in! So many moms and dads out there are adjusting to a new normal of having their kiddos home with them 24/7 and things can get tense if you’re not used to it. Both my partner, Adi and I work out of the home so we’re figuring out the balance of running businesses, being parents and now home school teachers? Whew!


I have a crazy awesome support system and a live-in nanny helping us out at the home but I’ve also pulled together some resources and tips that are working for us right now. I hope this helps all the other parents out there trying to keep a house under control and diffuse the tension.


We will get through this! I challenge you to change your perspective on this *extra* time at home with your kids as a fun stay-cation! Try new games, experiment with new family-fun recipes like Green Dream Waffles (we have a TON on this site), take long neighborhood walks, play outside if you can and make dinner time fun! We’re also watching a lot more movies with the kids and that’s okay!!

Healthy Snack Time, ALWAYS!

As your kiddos are now home all day and there are no nights out for dinner, planning meals and snacks can get stressful. Anyone else finish the day with a HUGE spoonful of nut butter straight out of the jar? Yup! Make this a time to create meals with your kids and involve them in cooking. Experiment with food and STOCK UP on all the healthy, feel-good snacks.


We have shelves FULL of LesserEvil snacks to help us through these times at home. It’s the perfect healthy snack during days of homeschool and playtime and the whole family LOVES them (especially Noa, she demands it). 


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Some Resources I’m Loving

FOR HOMESCHOOLING

  • Depending on your kid’s school they may be asked to join classes via Zoom or Google Classrooms or they were sent distance learning packets (our boys received both) and it’s a good idea to set a place and time in your home for school. Create a schedule that aligns with your routine so when you’re working your kiddos are practicing quiet time, creative playtime or working on school work. 
  • Webinars + Audiobooks. Our kid’s love online drawing classes and listening to audiobooks is a great way to keep them entertained and engaged. Children’s author Mo Willems is offering “Lunch Doodles” and Penguin Kids is hosting online storytime!
  • Print Activity Sheets! Check online for a ton of free printable worksheets including these Coronavirus activity sheets by Elise Gravel

GAMES & ACTIVITIES

“TRAVEL” AND EXPLORE

  • Visit the Zoo and Aquarium! Virtually, that is! The Georgia Aquarium and the San Diego Zoo has webcams of their animals online for you to watch all day, throughout the day! 
  • Travel the world with your kids without leaving your home through Airpano and their 360° photos and videos from all over the planet

This is a gift and SACRED PAUSE to slow down and appreciate what’s most important in life: family, loved ones and staying safe. Use this time to connect with your kiddos in so many magical ways but don’t forget to care for you and YOUR needs. Take a couple of hours off for self-care with the delicious Chrysalis Bath Soak or cozy up with a book or even a reality TV show and a superfood latte. Whatever you need!!

 

We’re in this together! If you need support or have questions on anything, please reach out! Here for you!!

3 Exercises That'll Help You Master Chaturanga Pose

The Chaturanga! So, so foundational in every yoga flow you do but oddly difficult to master. POPSUGAR asked me to share 3 exercises to help build your strength and ability to easily flow in and out of Chaturanga. I’m sharing them with you all!

 

Read the full article on POPSUGAR here. Finish your workout with a Berry Bliss smoothie loaded with immune-boosting properties to keep any flu/cold/sickness FAR away!

 

"According to Sophie Jaffe, a certified yoga instructor and owner of Philosophie, the foundational yoga pose is all about using strength from your core while activating leg-and-arm balance. I figured a new strength-training routine would do some good, so with that, Jaffe offered up some core and triceps-focused moves that can be done at home, in the gym, or on the go. Hopefully, now my Sun Salutations will be seamless the next time I'm in the studio."


Triceps Dips

Grip the edges of a stable bench or chair about shoulder-length apart.

Hover just off and in front of your seat, keeping your feet flat and legs bent or legs extended for more intensity.

Straighten your arms with a slight bend to keep tension away from your elbow joints and onto your triceps. This is your start position.

Bend your elbows and lower your body until your arms form about a 90-degree angle.

Then, engage your triceps and push back up to the start position. This is one rep.

Keep your shoulders down as you raise and lower, and keep your back close to the bench or chair.


Aim for three sets of 10-15 reps.

Plank

Begin on the floor on your hands and knees.

Place your hands directly under your shoulders.

Step your feet back one at a time with your toes flexed. Your hands and toes should entirely support the weight of your body.

For stability and a modification, bring your feet a bit wider apart. Intensify the pose by bringing them closer together.

Keep a straight line from your heels to your back and up through the top of your head.

Activate your core and tighten your entire midsection.

Hold for 20-60 seconds, and don't forget to breathe.


Repeat for a total of three planks. As you get stronger, aim to do the plank for longer than a minute.

Push-Ups

Begin in a plank position with your arms straight.

Keep your shoulders over your wrists to avoid injury and maintain a straight line throughout your body.

Engage your core, and don't let your hips sag.

Slowly bend your elbows until they reach about a 90-degree angle and lower your chest toward the floor.

Then, press back up into the starting plank position.


Aim to complete three sets of 8-10 reps.

 

 

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Vibrational Healing - How Does it Work?

I’ve been having so much fun playing with my Crystal Light & Sound Quartz Crystal Singing Bowls and experiencing the healing tones of the bowls radiating throughout my home. Whether it’s taking some time for myself to drop in and connect to my spirit or creating sound for my loved ones and hold space for them, I’m so appreciative that I can experience this healing. 


"If we accept that sound is vibration, and we know that vibration touches every part of our physical being, then we understand that sound is heard not only through our ears but through every cell in our bodies. Sound enters the healing equation from several directions: It may alter cellular functions through energetic effects; it may entrain biological systems to function more homeostatically; it may calm the mind and therefore the body; or it may have emotional effects, which influence neurotransmitters and neuropeptides, which in turn helps to regulate the immune system--the healer within." Dr. Mitchell Gaynor 


In ancient civilizations, the practice of using sound to heal and achieve balance from within has existed for many centuries. In fact, Tibetans still use bells, chimes, bowls, and chanting as the foundation of their spiritual practice that celebrates a direct link between different parts of the body and specific sounds. 


Sound is powerful and brings us together as a collective. 


How Do Sound Vibrations Work to Heal?

Everything in the universe vibrates at its own unique frequency called a “resonant frequency.” All the cells, tissues, and organs in our bodies vibrate their unique resonant frequency. When we are healthy, everything in the body is vibrating in harmony. Dis-ease results when a part of our body begins to vibrate at a different rate, out of harmony with the rest. Through the concept of resonance, sound can be used to change the vibration of the dis-eased part to bring back a healthy state of being. 


As Crystal Singing Bowls are played and sounded, the powerful rhythmic vibrations resonate throughout the body. These harmonic vibrations stimulate the alpha and theta brain waves associated with deep meditative and peaceful states which promote healing. They also slow down the heart and respiratory rate, creating a therapeutic effect upon the mind and body. When the brain waves and the body are synchronized, balance can be restored and stress is released.  


Why Use Healing Frequencies? 

Vibrational healing is based on scientific principles that all matter vibrates and has a frequency. Sound and music have profound effects on our physiology by awakening the memory of wholeness and guiding our body toward harmony and balance. Sound vibrations have the ability to restore and revive the human body.


When you experience the healing frequencies, you can achieve a greater sense of balance and higher consciousness. Sound and vibration play a fundamental role in your life by affecting the physical, mental, and spiritual levels of your human essence.


Crystal Singing Bowls and Their Power 

Over 4,000 years old, Crystal Singing Bowls are an ancient Chinese healing technology. The use of sound to alter brain waves creates a sense of well-being and delivers a natural, organic, overwhelming feeling of peace. 


By aligning the chakras, sound vibration acts to distribute the human life force energy across the entire grid, to create the intended natural response. Crystal Singing Bowls help you create a sound with a moving bandwidth that never becomes static, despite the droning sound that you hear. This vibrato effect dances around the human body like a current of water gently washing the energy. The healing possibilities become endless from this state of being. 


Quartz Crystal Singing Bowls produce a single, pure, continuous tone. The sound is relaxing and soothing, as it penetrates deep into the physical body. The sound reaches into the depths of the subconscious to cleanse away emotional blocks or limiting beliefs. 


Quartz Crystal Singing Bowls come in a variety of different sizes and pitches, and can be used to target specific chakras. They’re beautiful meditation aids, enhancing the meditative experience when listened to or played while meditating. If you haven’t experienced a sound bath, GO! It’s so nurturing to your being.

Sound and Color for Balancing Energy Centers 

Each bowl corresponds to the 7 major Energy Centers or Chakras. 

  • Root is balanced with the C note and the color red 
  • Adrenal glands are balanced with C# (ohm bowl) and the color red/orange 
  • Sacral is balanced with the D note and the color orange 
  • Lower glands (sexual) are balanced with D# and the color orange/yellow 
  • Solar Plexus is balanced with the E note and the color yellow 
  • Heart is balanced with the F note and the color green 
  • The Thymus is balanced with F# (sometimes call high heart) and the color blue/green 
  • Throat is balanced with the G note and the color blue 
  • The Thyroid gland is balanced with G# and the color mid blue 
  • Mind’s Eye is balanced with the A note and the color indigo blue 
  • The Pineal and Pituitary glands are balanced with the A# and the color blue violet 
  • Crown is balanced with the B note and the color purple 

You can learn more about Sound Vibration Therapy at The IEL Institute for the Spiritual Arts.


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Content provided by IEL Institute for the Spiritual Arts and Russell Forsyth.