Magic Tips for a Fulfilling Long-Term Relationship

11 years and what a journey it’s been! We’re more in love than ever and more in sync than ever but wow, it was NOT easy. We put the faking work IN and now we go on trips together, share more intimate moments and I get superfood coffee every morning (thank you, my love!). We show up for one another and for each other consistently even when we don’t want to. Even when we are tired.


You have many CHOICES in life. In serious relationships, you get to choose to be entirely with someone as your partner, or not. My biggest piece of advice for anyone in any type of relationship is to allow this choice to empower you to fully step into your love and relationship. Let it be a choice and a DECISION based on your own sanity.


At the beginning with Adi, I wasn’t 100% in. I had one foot out the door. He would say something that pissed me off and I would run away to my parent’s house for days or to a friend’s place. I kept this mentality of “one foot out the door” for a really long time. After years of this mentality and behavior, I truly decided to end this and to fully be present and committed to our love, marriage and life. 



This switch in my mental state to fully being in it without one foot out helped our relationship in SO many ways. It strengthened us. I feel so solid and in love and consistent now. Relationships are your CHOICE and DECISION which is EMPOWERING because it’s what you want.


So in honor of 11 years and this month of love, I’m sharing 11 magic tips for a lasting fulfilling marriage, from our hearts to yours.


RADICAL TRANSPARENCY

If you know us at all then you know this is what we’re all about and share in our IGNTD podcast! It’s the way we communicate within our relationship and builds residency for the long haul. Being radically transparent builds DEEP TRUST but it’s a practice like yoga or meditation, you have to keep showing up and leaning in. It keeps you authentic. Watch our IG video here more about it!


DO THE WORK 

Relationships don’t work unless you do. Come back to your toolbox whenever you need it without shame or guilt. This means therapists, healers, coaches, inner work and others you trust. Write down what’s on your heart when you’re frustrated and then share when you are less upset. 



RESPECT YOUR PARTNER'S PERSPECTIVE

You’re not going to always share the same perspective and opinions on things. That what makes it lit up! But even if you disagree with your partner, respect that they are allowed to have a different view on things.


DATE NIGHT

Have a babysitter/mom/dad/neighbor/aunt/bestie come for a weekly date night. Make it a non-negotiable.  Try new places, do new things and make it fun. Double date with inspiring couples who are in mad love and respect each other. If you’re not able to get a sitter, make a date night at home when your kids go to bed. Treat yourselves to dessert, watch a movie and go all out.



SEXY TIME 

I’m going to be real here, schedule it if you have to. Life gets full and sometimes intimacy can get pushed to the back burner. Prioritize your sexiness and closeness so you keep that fire alive. Try new things! Push your boundaries and stay open. We are grateful that we don’t take it personally, that we can just schedule it in and try our best to make it happen. For us, it’s scheduled once a week which hopefully allows for one extra night a week naturally.


MAKE TIME FOR FUN!

Laugh together. Put on wigs and be ridiculous. Dance around your house and keep the music flowing. Go on trips together and challenge each other. It doesn’t have to be so serious!


DO YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT OR DO YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY?

You need to ask yourself, “Do you want your relationship to thrive, or do you want to be right?” Sometimes it’s simply the choice between “winning” and argument or being kind and supportive. Lean in. And if you’re the thick of it? Take some time for space just like you would do if your kids were fighting. Parents need a “timeout” sometimes too! Go for a walk. Take a break. Go do something that makes you feel good that allows you to disengage from the argument and release some of the wounds. Own your emotions and feelings and trust that your partner can support them and show up to you. Adi and I go back to this phrase over and over again, “Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?” 


CONSTANTLY BE OPEN TO GROWING

We are ever-evolving creatures. Even when you feel stuck, stagnant or contracted it’s important to be open to the possibility of growth and use your partner and support system to challenge your growth edges. Don’t be afraid to have difficult conversations and make time for them. That’s where the boundaries are broken. 



CHECK-INS

Save this post for this check you can do with your partner daily or as often as you need to align and connect. We picked evenings after the baby is asleep when we know the older boys are able to play independently or watch a show. During our check-ins, we let one person speak about whatever they want to share without judgment or speaking. Just HEARING and holding space for them. Then the other shares. It’s so nice to just be held and heard. We’ve realized going out for a walk is also an easy, DAILY way to check-in and have time together


YOU’RE NOT ALWAYS RIGHT

Your beliefs and opinions came from your experience, consider that a different perspective may bring different values. Recognize the both of you as parents have your own value systems and you can get defensive if your values are challenged. 


GO IN FOR THE PUNCH 

Instead of shying away from confrontation, lean in, even if you’ll get hit on the way. Adi and I do a lot of work with people in relationships through IGNTD and how to heal pain, trauma or open up more love and it always goes back to communication. Open communication can help you grow as you approach from the level of support you need instead of coming from a place of negativing or blame. We’re in relationships to be better humans, so we need to be each other’s support system, whether it’s in parenting or simply in life. Everything should come from a place of love. 


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Simple Steps to Let Go of Stress

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Stress is pretty much unavoidable. Between traffic, busy schedules, and the many responsibilities that come along with the various roles each of us play from parent, spouse, business-owner or employee, it’s no wonder that we often find ourselves dealing with high levels of tension, either mentally, emotionally, or physically.

As natural as it is to feel this stress, if we allow it to become a constant in our lives, it can lead to a variety of negative effects including headaches, digestive trouble, elevated blood pressure, pain in muscles and joints, problems with sleep, fatigue, and mood disturbances. That doesn’t mean, however, that you’re doomed to suffer if you experience stress in your day-to-day life. Investing time in soothing and balancing practices can help you release the build-up of stress from your body and your mind.

There are tons of way to let stress go, and different people will find that some methods are more effective for them than others. If you find yourself struggling with stress on the regular, try out some of these simple stress-relieving practices to feel a greater sense of ease and peace in your daily life!

 

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De-stress in the Kitchen

Cooking can be a wonderful way to relieve stress because it can help you focus your attention on something positive and nourishing. Many of the things that you do to prep a meal, snack, or treat involves some sort of repetitive process like chopping, stirring, or washing produce. These actions have a simple rhythm to them that can be soothing and almost meditative. Baking, in particular, is a great kitchen activity for releasing tension because the unique sensations of working with dough and batters with your hands can get you out of your head and back into your body very quickly. Not sure what to make? Try your hand at some delicious baked goods, like our Superfood Collagen + Cacao Date Nut Loaf Cake

Superfood Collagen + Cacao Date Nut Loaf Cake

Just Say "Om"

Developing a steady meditation practice is one of the very best things you can do to let go of stress in your life. It cultivates a deep inner peace and the ability to let distressing thoughts go instead of circling them obsessively. There are tons of different types of meditation practices, but even taking just a few minutes a day to sit quietly and focus on your breath can have dramatically positive impacts.

 

Spend Time with Friends

There are some people that always just leave you feeling refreshed and more positive and those are the people you want to spend time with when you start to feel the pressures of life building. Whether you choose to talk about what is troubling you, or you prefer to focus on what’s going on in their life, spending time with a grounded friend can help you get perspective on the issues that you’re struggling with.

 

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 Have a Dance Party

This may sound like a silly suggestion, but I dare you to try it. Next time you’re feeling frustrated or overwhelmed, step away from the source of the stress for a few minutes, turn on your favorite beats, and rock out. It may not feel entirely natural at first, but if you allow yourself to connect with the music and really let your body express any pent up feelings through your movements, you just might find that you can completely turn your mood around in just a matter of minutes!

 

Get Out in Nature

Another thing that can help you get perspective is getting out of the hustle and in to nature. There’s something about the simplicity and beauty of the natural world that reminds us that our ultimate purpose in life is to simply be the best us we can be. All of the added stresses and strains of modern life feel far away when you’re out on a long hike or floating in the ocean’s waves, and that little bit of space can help make stressful situations seem much more manageable.

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Drink Water

Drink your water! Our lives can be so full, chaotic, and beautiful that sometimes stress, fear, worry or anxiety arises because we aren’t caring for our physical needs. A big glass of cold water can be SO healing. We love ours with a little bit of sunshine. What about you?

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Strawberry Banana Green Smoothie

Strawberry Banana Green Smoothie

When your kiddos (or you!) are craving something sweet, but still want to sneak in some nutrients THIS is the smoothie you need. 


It’s loaded with a blend of coconut water giving it a touch of sweetness from the coconut, banana to make it thick promotes healthy digestion, greens, strawberries, and both Philosophie Berry Bliss (vitamin C + plant protein) and Green Dream (iron support, energy + plant protein)! Another plus about this drink is that it really alkaline's the system and it is incredibly cleansing for the system.


You can take away the banana for less sugar or add more to make it sweeter. You'll still get the beautiful benefits of all the superfoods and greens.

Green Superfood Smoothie

Gather This:

Heaping spoonfuls of Berry Bliss + Green Dream

Spoonful of Cosmic Elixir (collagen + adaptogens!)

1-2 tbsp Coconut Magic or coconut butter

8 oz coconut water 

Handful of strawberries (tip: keep the stems on for extra greens!)

Banana

Handful of greens (we used spinach)


Do This:

Combine all ingredients in a high-speed blender then pour into your favorite glass and top with bee pollen and a scoop of Culina yogurt alternative. ENJOY!

Strawberry Banana Green Superfood Smoothie

7 Health Goals to Set for Yourself This Year

Philosophie Superfoods

People often think an intention or resolution has to be a giant life change, but we believe in keeping things simple and setting attainable goals. Let’s start to think of this time as another opportunity to check in with ourselves and manifest our dream lives–one small, loving step at a time.


What did we accomplish last year? How did we feel defeated? What did we LEARN about ourselves? What do we want to take into the next chapter, and what do we want to leave behind?


Let this year be all about you and your authentic self. The very best YOU can be.

Cosmic Elixir + Tarot Cards

If you need a little inspiration for your health and wellbeing this year, we have you covered. We’re sharing 7 health goal examples to motivate you but your health is all about YOU. Find what works for you. Take the habits you’re doing already and ADD to them to more align with how you want to feel in life. Do the things that feel GOOD to you.


DRINK MORE WATER

Swapping out sugary, caffeinated, or alcoholic drinks for water is a great first step to better health. Elevate your water with Liquid Chlorophyll Sunshine Drops for better digestion, more energy and detoxification.


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GET ENOUGH SLEEP

Sleep is SO important to our mind, body and soul and deep, restorative sleep should be an absolute non-negotiable but often gets pushed to the back of your mind. Sleep is connected to so much in our body including our eating habits. Studies have shown that those who are well-rested have better portion control and will select healthier food options than those who are sleep-deprived! READ THIS POST for our tips to better sleep!


CLEANSE & RESET YOUR SPACE

Clutter in your physical space can create clutter in your mind, making you unable to concentrate on the things that actually matter in the present moment instead you’re focusing on the chores that need to be done, the work piling up or that box downstairs that was yet to be put away. Magic happens as you clear out the clutter that has been weighing you down mentally, physically and emotionally.


TAKE TIME FOR SELF CARE

Make sure to put yourself first by practicing self-care. Doing so allows you to take intentional time away from stress so you can be more resilient when you’re facing challenges. Know what your boundaries are and set functional limits in order to operate at capacity in all of the areas of your life.


Tarot Cards & Self Care

GET TO KNOW WHAT WORKS FOR YOUR BODY - INTUITIVE EATING!

Listen to your body instead of all the nutrition noise because you can. Why let your power go to the diet industry when you are lucky enough to be able to give your body what it is truly craving on a spiritual and cellular level? READ THIS POST for our tips on clean eating and attaining more nourishment.


UNPLUG MORE

Putting away your phone or laptop isn’t just good for your mental health, it’s good for your physical health as well. Download our Digital Detox Guide with tips for your own digital detox including a letter from Sophie Jaffe, a meditation ritual, and 5-minute check-in practice.


EMBRACE AGING

Being able to embrace yourself will help you become stronger. Our #1 secret to aging gracefully? SUPERFOODS, of course! Beauty starts within and when you load your body up with nutrient-dense, high-vibrational SUPER foods, your body just loves them. Our superfood blends contain highly potent ingredients like reishi, spirulina, goji berry and collagen to support longevity, skin elasticity, and vitality.

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Winter Wellness Rituals to THRIVE in the Cold

Sophie Jaffe Winter Rituals

Winter is the season of softness and pause. It kicks off with the holidays where we loosen up on our routine and rituals and take off time for the holidays, celebrations and indulgences. We're all about indulging with intention here at Philosophie but find it so important to invest in wellness rituals to THRIVE during the winter instead of letting it wear you down.

Implement some winter wellness rituals into your routine so you can be at your BEST during the winter season and be present to all the wonderful celebrations during this time of the year. Following these tips can help you keep your body, mind, and soul strong during the cold & winter season. 

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SIP ON YOUR FAVORITE LATTES & ELIXIRS

There's nothing like a warm coffee, superfood elixir, latte or tea to warm you up during the winter. Transform your daily coffee into a superfood coffee or blend up Cacao Magic or Berry Bliss with milk and a little honey for an instant superfood elixir. A hot beverage instantly allows us to unwind. If you’re not a coffee drinker, tea or hot cocoa are great alternatives to keep you toasty.

 

CARVE SOME TIME OUT OF EACH DAY FOR SELF LOVE

Even if it’s just five minutes, finding some time in your day for some winter self love & care will can instantly elevate your mood and self-image. The cold often strips skin of moisture and with the dropping temperature we are more susceptible to colds & flus. And with the less daytime hours many experience a seasonal depression so caring for your energy, mental wellbeing and self-care are needed.

Using a deep-moisturizing mask or Chrysalis Water are great ways to rectify scaly, sullen skin. Many skincare enthusiasts also recommend dry body brushing in the winter, to exfoliate the skin and to increase circulation.

 

Chrysalis Water Healing Mist

SLEEP, SLEEP & MORE SLEEP 

In winter, the days become shorter, and our bodies begin to crave a little more rest and relaxation. To avoid midwinter exhaustion, ensure you’re getting a good 7-9 hours of sleep per night. Ease your body to relaxation with chamomile tea and a spoonful of raw high vibrational, nutrient-dense honey.

 

GET FUN & FESTIVE IN THE KITCHEN

A favorite holiday tradition is baking with the family. Baking is a great way to practice following directions and build self-esteem. When a recipe is baked perfectly, you have achieved a great goal for your mental health. The best part is you get to enjoy the delicious warm food. Plus, who doesn’t want their home to smell like freshly baked cookies?

 

Cacao Walnut Vegan Brownies

MOVE YOUR BODY

Winter tends to bring out the worst in the couch potatoes among us: as soon as the weather drops, we’re in front of the TV refusing to budge. Unfortunately, that’s possibly the worst thing we could do for our bodies and minds in the winter.

Since we need endorphins all year round, we’ve got to keep up our exercise in the colder months. Whether it’s a crisp winter walk or a group yoga class done in the comfort of a studio (or even at home), getting your body moving is vital.

 

FIND THE THING THAT RELAXES YOU

It’s so important to keep sight of the strategies and habits which curb our stress levels in the winter. For you, stress release might mean writing in your journal, or listening to music, or taking a long stroll on the beach – whatever it takes to get your mind off everyday stresses.

 

EAT WITH LOVE & INTENTION

Just because it’s not summer anymore doesn’t mean you should let go of your balanced diet and intuitive eating. In fact, it’s perhaps even more critical in the winter to eat healthy and mindfully. To ward off all of those unwanted colds and flu, choose hearty, tummy-warming foods such as vegetable stew which will keep you satisfied and energized through lethargic winter days.

Remember to stay hydrated, too! To support your immune system further, you might also want to supplement your diet with a multivitamin, if you’re not taking one already.

 

What are your some of your favorite self-care tips in winter? Share yours with me in the comments below!

Summer HIIT Workout With Bodyweight

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During these summer days when the weather is still gorgeously beautiful we love to get outside for a quick workout. Try out this 20 minute 4x4 workout - no equipment needed! Do these 4 toning and strengthening exercises for 1 minute each for a total of 4 rounds, capping off your HIIT sesh with a bonus round of push-ups. 


Moving the body helps to keep us mentally and physically strong, balanced and grounded. Remember to cool down with some yummy yoga stretches and then mix up a superfood smoothie using Philosophie superfoods! Try out this Blissful Berry Pineapple Smoothie for a post workout treat!

 

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1) Jumping Jack Squats

Do as many as you can for 1 minute.

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2) Side Plank

Hold on each side for 10 seconds, then switch back and forth for a full minute. Build that strength from within. Lift your top leg and hold!

 

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3) Front Leg Lift Into Warrior 3

Extend your leg behind you, flexing the foot as if it's against an imaginary back wall. Repeat on both sides for 1 minute.

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4) Side Lunges

Alternate your feet for these lunges. Go for 12 on each leg!

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Bonus 

Push Ups – do as many as you can do for 1 minute. 

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Cool down + stretch. 

Starting in Child's Pose, flow through some yoga asanas on your own to stretch out your joints and muscles. 

5 Benefits of Chlorophyll

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It’s no secret that keeping your body well-hydrated does wonders for your overall health and wellbeing. It keeps us well-balanced and overflowing with energy. When you harness the power of plants you provide your body with vibrant skin, optimal digestion, a strong gut, and immunity.


Liquid chlorophyll is a fantastic detoxification and energizing supplement for the body and can help reset the system to get it back on track. Chlorophyll cleanses your system, boosts your energy, and hydrates and by adding fresh lemon juice with some mint you’re making a drink that tastes great and totally hydrates and boosts your body. If you’re someone who isn’t a big fan of the taste of chlorophyll, sneaking a few drops into your morning smoothie is an excellent way to get all the benefits of chlorophyll.


Our Sunshine Drops with liquid chlorophyll & mint essential oils help to eliminate harmful bacteria from the body, hydrates the skin, boosts your energy and ignites your senses!

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Here are 5 benefits of chlorophyll:

Helps with Hunger and Cravings

The best you can do for your body is to focus on a nourished, well-balanced diet and physical activity. There have been studies that compounds containing chlorophyll can help to suppress hunger and therefore, support weight loss.  


Changes Your Body Odor

Chlorophyll is good for the body from the inside out. Body odor is caused, not by sweat itself, but by the bacteria on your skin that feed on the sweat. When you consume chlorophyll, you are flooding your body with the molecule. The chlorophyll then binds to the compounds that would otherwise feed bacteria and cause bad odors.


Supports Cleansing & Detoxifying

We are CONSTANTLY taking on external & environmental pollutants like toxic metals. Chlorophyll has been shown to bind with toxic metals to lessen absorption. Chlorophyll has also been shown to support the liver’s natural ability to remove toxins and waste from the body, which is known as detoxification.

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Relieves Systemic Redness and Swelling

Traditional medicine has long used green leaves for infections. Modern approaches with limited effectiveness and a list of side effects, natural remedies are back in the spotlight. Studies have found that consuming your greens help reduce swelling and redness in the body.


Helps with Skin Health

Chlorophyll is rich in vitamins A, C, E, and K, which all play an important role in the radiance, rejuvenation and vitality of your skin.

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