Magic Tips for a Fulfilling Long-Term Relationship

11 years and what a journey it’s been! We’re more in love than ever and more in sync than ever but wow, it was NOT easy. We put the faking work IN and now we go on trips together, share more intimate moments and I get superfood coffee every morning (thank you, my love!). We show up for one another and for each other consistently even when we don’t want to. Even when we are tired.


You have many CHOICES in life. In serious relationships, you get to choose to be entirely with someone as your partner, or not. My biggest piece of advice for anyone in any type of relationship is to allow this choice to empower you to fully step into your love and relationship. Let it be a choice and a DECISION based on your own sanity.


At the beginning with Adi, I wasn’t 100% in. I had one foot out the door. He would say something that pissed me off and I would run away to my parent’s house for days or to a friend’s place. I kept this mentality of “one foot out the door” for a really long time. After years of this mentality and behavior, I truly decided to end this and to fully be present and committed to our love, marriage and life. 



This switch in my mental state to fully being in it without one foot out helped our relationship in SO many ways. It strengthened us. I feel so solid and in love and consistent now. Relationships are your CHOICE and DECISION which is EMPOWERING because it’s what you want.


So in honor of 11 years and this month of love, I’m sharing 11 magic tips for a lasting fulfilling marriage, from our hearts to yours.


RADICAL TRANSPARENCY

If you know us at all then you know this is what we’re all about and share in our IGNTD podcast! It’s the way we communicate within our relationship and builds residency for the long haul. Being radically transparent builds DEEP TRUST but it’s a practice like yoga or meditation, you have to keep showing up and leaning in. It keeps you authentic. Watch our IG video here more about it!


DO THE WORK 

Relationships don’t work unless you do. Come back to your toolbox whenever you need it without shame or guilt. This means therapists, healers, coaches, inner work and others you trust. Write down what’s on your heart when you’re frustrated and then share when you are less upset. 



RESPECT YOUR PARTNER'S PERSPECTIVE

You’re not going to always share the same perspective and opinions on things. That what makes it lit up! But even if you disagree with your partner, respect that they are allowed to have a different view on things.


DATE NIGHT

Have a babysitter/mom/dad/neighbor/aunt/bestie come for a weekly date night. Make it a non-negotiable.  Try new places, do new things and make it fun. Double date with inspiring couples who are in mad love and respect each other. If you’re not able to get a sitter, make a date night at home when your kids go to bed. Treat yourselves to dessert, watch a movie and go all out.



SEXY TIME 

I’m going to be real here, schedule it if you have to. Life gets full and sometimes intimacy can get pushed to the back burner. Prioritize your sexiness and closeness so you keep that fire alive. Try new things! Push your boundaries and stay open. We are grateful that we don’t take it personally, that we can just schedule it in and try our best to make it happen. For us, it’s scheduled once a week which hopefully allows for one extra night a week naturally.


MAKE TIME FOR FUN!

Laugh together. Put on wigs and be ridiculous. Dance around your house and keep the music flowing. Go on trips together and challenge each other. It doesn’t have to be so serious!


DO YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT OR DO YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY?

You need to ask yourself, “Do you want your relationship to thrive, or do you want to be right?” Sometimes it’s simply the choice between “winning” and argument or being kind and supportive. Lean in. And if you’re the thick of it? Take some time for space just like you would do if your kids were fighting. Parents need a “timeout” sometimes too! Go for a walk. Take a break. Go do something that makes you feel good that allows you to disengage from the argument and release some of the wounds. Own your emotions and feelings and trust that your partner can support them and show up to you. Adi and I go back to this phrase over and over again, “Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?” 


CONSTANTLY BE OPEN TO GROWING

We are ever-evolving creatures. Even when you feel stuck, stagnant or contracted it’s important to be open to the possibility of growth and use your partner and support system to challenge your growth edges. Don’t be afraid to have difficult conversations and make time for them. That’s where the boundaries are broken. 



CHECK-INS

Save this post for this check you can do with your partner daily or as often as you need to align and connect. We picked evenings after the baby is asleep when we know the older boys are able to play independently or watch a show. During our check-ins, we let one person speak about whatever they want to share without judgment or speaking. Just HEARING and holding space for them. Then the other shares. It’s so nice to just be held and heard. We’ve realized going out for a walk is also an easy, DAILY way to check-in and have time together


YOU’RE NOT ALWAYS RIGHT

Your beliefs and opinions came from your experience, consider that a different perspective may bring different values. Recognize the both of you as parents have your own value systems and you can get defensive if your values are challenged. 


GO IN FOR THE PUNCH 

Instead of shying away from confrontation, lean in, even if you’ll get hit on the way. Adi and I do a lot of work with people in relationships through IGNTD and how to heal pain, trauma or open up more love and it always goes back to communication. Open communication can help you grow as you approach from the level of support you need instead of coming from a place of negativing or blame. We’re in relationships to be better humans, so we need to be each other’s support system, whether it’s in parenting or simply in life. Everything should come from a place of love. 


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How to Block Out the Negative Self Talk

How to Block Out the Negative Self Talk

Here's the deal.

If you don't start speaking to yourself with love, you will never ever see yourself as beautiful, fit, toned, pretty, smart, fast…whatever it is you want to look or feel like.

If you are desiring to change an aspect of yourself, FANTASTIC. We are here to grow, evolve, and change, always. But you will absolutely not truly see yourself as that evolved new person if you are continuing to speak negatively about yourself.

In our modern world of social media and technology, we’re CONSTANTLY feeling defeated, less than, judged. Everything you put on your feed is risked for judgment and negative comments. It almost forces you to create the image you want people to see. Out of fear of being hurt and insulted you want to take 1,000 selfies in order to put up the one that catches the dimples perfectly in your cheeks. I think this is absolutely the wrong way to go.

I encourage everyone to remain authentic. The true you is so beautiful and the world deserves to know it. By opening up and being the REAL YOU, you can inspire others in such a profound way. If I walk away each day inspiring one person to live their truth and walk their own path, I feel aligned with the truest version of ME. And that, feels awesome. 

Drink a large cup of SUNSHINE with our Liquid Chlorophyll Sunshine Drops and block out the hate!

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Here are some simple steps to help you get away from this negative habit:

BUILD AWARENESS

Begin by jotting down in a notebook or on your phone each time you say something unkind to yourself. No matter what it is, take notes and build awareness for 3 FULL DAYS. Just the annoyance of needing to continuously write it down should help minimize the amount you do!

BELIEVE “THERE IS NO PERFECT”

Give yourself a break! It's enormously freeing and not to mention, a huge stress reducer, to stop holding yourself to insanely high standards. Perfect isn't real. Perfectionism is a dangerous place so when you recognize it in yourself, take action to relax your standards just a little. If you give yourself the same empathy you'd show a friend, it will be so much easier to take on the unkind voice and win.

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DEFY SHAME

My hubby speaks to shame a lot.When you feel silly or dumb or like you said something ridiculous, instead of beating yourself up over it, call a friend and tell them how you're feeling. "Hey, I feel so silly, but I'm stuck in a downward spiral and it's only getting worse. Here's what happened..." By saying it out loud, you realize how SMALL of an issue it is and your friend will be there to support you. Shame only works if we keep it a secret! Be vulnerable and see what happens.

REPLACE NEGATIVITY WITH POSITIVITY

In place of negative thoughts and habits, cultivate healthy positive habits:

  • Start a gratitude journal.
  • Create an at-home yoga retreat for yourself where you can relax + zen out.
  • Sign yourself up for a new fitness class or a half-marathon.
  • Put on a cute outfit even if you have no intention of leaving the house.
  • Pick up a positive affirmation card each morning.
  • Take notes to witness your growth in any area of your life + build self-love!
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At this point, the only challenge you’re left to face is blocking out negative talk and surrounding yourself with support and love. This took years of practice but what we can tell you is to remind yourself of all the love you're worth.

Repeat this mantra: I am SO worthy of love.

Turn to self-care and know when to step away from a situation or maybe, when you may even need to let go of a relationship. Develop healthy boundaries with people and environments. Be careful about the circles you enter and what you follow on social media. If you’re in need of a little body positivity then follow a boss lady who’s all about it. For myself, I’m a new mama again and my feed is covered with other conscious moms practicing what I preach every day. We lift each other up constantly.

Accessing your vulnerability is a challenge but once you do, it can be so liberating. The world will open up and you’ll find an inner strength you never knew you had.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”" —Marianne Williamson, Founder of The Peace Alliance 

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The Magic of Superfoods: Camu Camu

Berry Bliss Superfoods

As a small business, we often get asked how Philosophie was created. The idea actually came to our founder, Sophie Jaffe right in her kitchen. As a working mama wearing many hats, she realized how wonderful it would be to have a product that would make her life and many others’ lives easier. She decided to have ALL of her beautiful superfoods rolled into one simple package.


Philosophie blends were born and each are incredibly versatile and only enhance a dish, never overpowering it! A trip to Thailand inspired the creation of Berry Bliss.


Berry Bliss is high in antioxidants, protein, vitamin A, and contains camu camu—one of the world's most abundant forms of vitamin C. No fillers means you only need a small amount of this perfect mix to feel a shift in your energy! Plus we've added the highest quality, sprouted, raw brown rice protein powder to this incredible blend, which adds a creamy light flavor and a nourishing boost of gamma-aminobutyric acid.


Not only is Berry Bliss great for your health, but it is delicious too—all without any added sugar! In this post, we’re exploring more about camu camu and its vast health benefits.

Camu Camu

CAMU CAMU

Acai, Goji berry and Camu Camu are all exotic, enchanting fruits that are extremely high in vitamin C and A, giving them lots of antioxidant superpowers. Antioxidants help prevent aging and disease by combating the effects of oxidation in our body tissues. Camu Camu is a small red berry that grows in the Peruvian jungle, and has the highest vitamin C content of any fruit on the entire planet – over 20 times the C found in two pounds of oranges!  You’ll find that these superfoods come in many forms including powders, pills and frozen. All can be added to juices, smoothies, or even added to oats or greek yogurt. 


Camu Camu is an exotic, enchanting fruit that is extremely high in vitamin C and A, giving it lots of antioxidant superpowers. Antioxidants help prevent aging and disease by combating the effects of oxidation in our body tissues. Camu Camu is a small red berry that grows in the Peruvian jungle, and has the highest vitamin C content of any fruit on the entire planet – over 20 times the C found in two pounds of oranges (wow)!  


Our blend, Berry Bliss, is SUPER high in antioxidants, vitamin A, and protein, and also contains camu camu—one of the most abundant sources for vitamin C in the world!


A fruit that’s native to the Peruvian Amazon, Camu Camu is a potent source of vitamin C (one serving contains 1100 percent of your daily required dose, which is more than nine times the amount found in a medium orange) and may be able to reduce inflammation and oxidative stress in the body. Mix it into smoothies, oatmeal or yogurt or even add it to your tea (so long as the water isn’t boiling hot).

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How To Use Camu Camu

Camu camu powder has the highest food-based form of vitamin C of any food known on this planet. Camu camu is also high in antioxidants, which can fight off free radicals that can lead to inflammation and disease. Enjoy in your morning yogurt or smoothie with fruits & honey to balance the tart flavor.


Because it’s a whole food, you’re getting phytonutrients, antioxidants, and co-enzymes, which makes it really nutritious for the body.


Camu camu powder is POWERFUL for colds and overall wellness

Of course, most agree that vitamin C is great for immunity, and since camu camu has a TON of vitamin C, it makes sense that it could help with sickness & colds. 

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What Foods To Fill Up Your Life This Spring

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The season of spring is a beautiful time to refresh your diet and routine. All around us the world is waking up from the rest & restoration of winter. This season, embrace a mindset of cleansing and resetting your body, mind & energy which can all start with the foods you eat and your daily habits & routines. This is the time of the year to cleanse, simplify, and return to the foods & habits that make you glow from within all year long. 


Spring is a perfect time to support the natural detoxification happening within your body and nourish your beauty from the inside out with spring beauty foods. During the winter, we enjoy warm, cooked meals but spring is a time to eat colorful, crisp & green beauty foods like leafy greens. 


The shift in seasons is also a great opportunity to go on a mind and body reset. You can join us at Philosophie in picking up either our 5 Day Reset, 10 Day Refuel or 14 Day Rejuvenation reset guides. A reset with your health and nutrition offers space to detox and heal your body. 

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SHOP THESE SPRING FOODS

Arugula

Wild arugula is foraged in spring and fall. It’s a cool-weather crop that is full of antioxidants, helps with digestion, is good for your skin and is a great detoxifier.


Leafy Greens

Green nourishes the skin with powerful vitamins for a youthful and vibrant glow. Dark green vegetables are also high in fat-soluble vitamins such as vitamins A, K, D, and E. 


Mint

This herb doesn’t get enough credit for its healing properties. Mint contains an antioxidant that may relieve seasonal allergies and can also soothe an upset stomach.


SHOP OUR MINT + LIQUID CHLOROPHYLL DROPS

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Strawberries

There’s nothing better than enjoying strawberries in their peak season from late spring to early summer. It’s highly-antioxidant and can balance blood sugar, support immunity, boost healthy cell renewal, and many other benefits.


Asparagus

Fantastic for detox support. It's also low in calories and packed with essential vitamins and antioxidants. It’s also a great source of fiber, promoting strong digestive health. It’s affordable, easy to prepare and a yummy, high-vibe addition to any dish!

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There are so many other beautiful ways to open and welcome this revitalizing season of transformation + growth.


Set Intentions by asking what you want to create in this new season. Envision the opportunities and magic you want to manifest and invite them to unfold. 


Release old energy and anything that is no longer bringing light, joy, and radiant energy into your life. Spring's a wonderful time to recognize a mindset, habit, or relationship that is no longer serving you and to let it go.

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5 Winter Self-Care Tips to THRIVE During the Cold

For many of us, winter brings increased stress, dry skin, and a general impulse to count down the days until things get a bit more sunny and warm. But since we can’t wish away the chilly months every year, we’ve got to find ways to THRIVE through the season.

 

It’s time to implement some winter self-care rituals into your routine. And now is as good a time as any to start giving yourself some TLC. Following these self-care tips can help you keep your body, mind, and soul in tip-top shape this cold season.

 

ENJOY WARM DRINKS

It’s winter, so it is cold out. A hot beverage like coffee has plenty of benefits. Coffee is proven to lower rates of certain illnesses and inspire alertness! That means that not only does it improve physical health, but mental clarity and calm. Especially when the cold makes our bodies tense, the hot beverage instantly allows us to unwind. If you’re not a coffee drinker, tea or hot cocoa are great alternatives to keep you toasty.

 

 

CARVE SOME TIME OUT OF EACH DAY FOR PAMPERING

Even if it’s just five minutes, finding some time in your day for some winter pampering will do wonders for your mood and self-image. Winter is notorious for stripping skin of moisture, and the decreased hours we spend soaking up the sun’s glorious rays don’t improve matters either (hello, paleness!).

 

Using a deep-moisturizing mask or nourishing face oil are great ways to rectify scaly, sullen skin – and who doesn’t love slathering deliciously-scented products on their faces in the evening?  Many skincare enthusiasts also recommend dry body brushing in the winter, to exfoliate the skin and to increase circulation.

 

GET ENOUGH SHUT-EYE

In winter, the days become shorter, and our bodies begin to crave a little more rest and relaxation (it’s one of those annoying evolutionary tendencies). To avoid midwinter exhaustion, ensure you’re getting a good 7-9 hours of sleep per night.

 

 

TRY SOME BAKING

Baking is not always easy; however, the oven can keep you warm, even if the recipe doesn’t go well. Baking is a great way to practice following directions and build self-esteem. When a recipe is baked perfectly, you have achieved a great goal for your mental health. The best part is you get to enjoy the delicious warm food.

 

MOVE YOUR BODY

Winter tends to bring out the worst in the couch potatoes among us: as soon as the weather drops, we’re in front of the TV refusing to budge. Unfortunately, that’s possibly the worst thing we could do for our bodies and minds in the winter.

 

Since we need endorphins all year round, we’ve got to keep up our exercise in the colder months. Whether it’s a crisp winter walk or a group yoga class done in the comfort of a studio (or even at home), getting your body moving is vital.

 

 

FIND THE THING THAT RELAXES YOU

It’s so important to keep sight of the strategies and habits which curb our stress levels in the winter. For you, stress release might mean writing in your journal, or listening to music, or taking a long stroll on the beach – whatever it takes to get your mind off everyday stresses.

 

EAT MINDFULLY

Just because it’s not summer anymore doesn’t mean you should let go of your balanced diet. In fact, it’s perhaps even more critical in the winter to eat healthy and mindfully. To ward off all of those unwanted colds and flu, choose hearty, tummy-warming foods such as vegetable stew which will keep you satisfied and energized through lethargic winter days.


Remember to stay hydrated, too – all those cold winds can really whip the moisture out of us! To support your immune system further, you might also want to supplement your diet with a multivitamin, if you’re not taking one already.

 

What are your some of your favorite self-care tips in winter? Share yours with me in the comments below!

Why Antioxidants Matter

So what’s the secret to longevity, vitality and radiance? Simple, eat more antioxidants. 


Antioxidants are molecules that fight free radicals in your body. Free radicals are compounds that can cause harm if their levels become too high in your body and are produced naturally within the body in response to environmental toxins like cigarette smoke, sunlight, chemicals, radiation, exercise and inflammation.Free radicals are linked to multiple illnesses, including diabetes, heart disease, and cancer.


While your body has its own antioxidant defenses to help keep free radicals under control you can also find antioxidants in fruits, veggies and SUPERFOODS



What are superfoods?

Superfood is a term sometimes used to describe food with high phytonutrient content that may provide health benefits as a result. For example, blueberries are often considered a superfood (or superfruit) because they contain significant amounts of ANTIOXIDANTS, vitamin C, manganese, and dietary fiber. You don't need specific foods for specific ailments. A healthy diet incorporating a variety of the following superfoods will help you maintain your weight, fight disease, and live longer. 


Here are a few of our favorite superfoods that you can easily work into your daily diet without breaking a sweat. 


Acai, Goji berry and Camu Camu

These are all exotic, enchanting fruits that are extremely high in vitamin C and A, giving them lots of antioxidant superpowers. Antioxidants help prevent aging and disease by combating the effects of oxidation in our body tissues. Camu Camu is a small red berry that grows in the Peruvian jungle, and has the highest vitamin C content of any fruit on the entire planet – over 20 times the C found in two pounds of oranges (wow)!  You’ll find that these superfoods come in many forms including powders, pills and frozen. All can be added to juices, smoothies, or even added to oats or greek yogurt. You can also get all three of these superfoods in a powder blend, like our Berry Bliss Superfood Blend.



Blueberries

If you’re adding superfoods to your overnight oats or yogurt, go ahead and sprinkle some blueberries on them! When it comes to fresh fruit, blueberries win the prize for the highest antioxidant content of them all! It also helps boost your immune system which prevents you from getting sick. Blueberries are excellent for the brain, memory, and vision!  And they are becoming known for a wealth of anti-aging benefits, too. Who knew the fountain of youth would taste so delicious!


Raw Cacao

One of the most abundant sources of antioxidants in the world (far more than blueberries and red wine) and will give you amazing energy and mental clarity. It also has a great amount of Magnesium in it, which most people are deficient in and don’t even know it. Cacao has natural mood-boosting compounds, which help restore natural energy and ease mood imbalances. I love using cacao in my morning coffee and in my favorite sweets and baked goods. 


Raw cacao is a star ingredient to our Cacao Magic blend, which provides the blend’s chocolate flavor. It tastes AMAZING and also provides an energizing, caffeine-free power boost. Just add a spoonful of Cacao Magic to get your protein, calcium, and yummy chocolate fix! 

The Beauty-Boosting Benefits of Collagen

Philosophie Cosmic Elixir

Collagen. A beauty myth or fact? A superfood blend infused with collagen like our Cosmic Elixir is an easy way to help promote vibrant skin, as well as balance and support your mood in your everyday life. Collagen is the most abundant source of protein in your body. It’s a major building block of bones, skin, muscles, tendons and ligaments and helps keep skin glowing and smooth. 


Why do you need Collagen?

The body naturally produces collagen on its own but over time it slowly loses the ability to synthesize enough of it on its own. In supplementing your diet with an adaptogenic and collagen blend you’re supporting your body’s natural ability to produce collagen and keep you feeling blissful longer!


Truthfully: Our body doesn’t need collagen since our body produces an abundance of it when we’re young but by our early twenties the body’s collagen production starts to slow down. And when you factor in environmental and lifestyle factors like sun exposure, air pollution, diet, stress, water intake, and sleep can lead to skin issues, hair health damage and more. With the support of Collagen you can stay feeling confident, glowing and beautiful.

Collagen Beauty Benefits

The Beauty Benefits of Collagen

Skin health is the most well-known benefit of taking collagen. Collagen strengthens, hydrates and supports the elasticity of skin, keeping your complexion looking youthful and glowing. Collagen also supports stronger hair and nails and helps maintain bone and joint health.


Easy Ways to Use a Collagen Superfood Blend

We are so excited by this adaptogen, collagen blend because not only does it taste amazing but it makes it so easy to incorporate extra nutrients into your daily routine. Here are some easy ways to incorporate it into your routine plus two of our new favorite recipes!


✔ Make a grounding morning or evening latte by blending with your favorite nut mylk

✔ Add to ice, milk & organic fruit/veggies to create a tasty smoothie

✔ Add to any batter for a delicious take on pancakes, waffles or any baked goods, or other tasty treats

✔ Add to water, ice and citrus to make an herbal water cocktail

✔ Add to oat bowls and other brekkie creations

 

How do you plan on using our Cosmic Elixir Adaptogenic + Collagen Blend? Tag us on Instagram @philosophielove and let us know!