Being a Happy, Healthy, Kind Mommy: it's a Balancing Act

As the coming months approach, I will again, be a new momma. My second baby boy will be born into the world. This brings much joy, excitement, love, appreciation and gratitude into my body. It also, unfortunately, brings a tinge of anxiety for many moms.

This post is all about exposing my secrets on "how I do it all" and still (attempt) to stay happy, healthy and kind. I hope this helps any of you weary about mommyhood and starting a family. I also hope this helps those of you that are struggling as moms and not quite sure how to find the time to be your best self. Philosophie Sophie is here to help!

Balancing Mommy Secret #1

You can't do it all. Take help when it's offered. Oh, AND, you need sleep.

For some reason mamas and papas just accept the fact that they won't sleep for the first two years or so (I've heard 5 from some parents! eek!). That's NOT an option in my world! In the first few months of a new baby being in your life, they need you ALL the time. They must nurse every few hours, they need a diaper change constantly and they need to bond with you. They have higher piles of dirty clothes than you do and you've already run out of diapers before you can blink twice. So where does sleep fit in?

For the first 6 months, my husband did at LEAST one night time feeding. It was calculated with the intention of me getting more sleep. So, let's say I did one last feeding at 9p, baby would be up again in 2-3 hours crying and hungry- that would be dads turn (or grandmas, best friends, etc). He would do the whole routine, feed him a bottle (of pumped breast milk), change him and tuck him into bed. I would sleep this entire time-until the following feeding-peacefully and soundly with earplugs shoved into both ears. By the time the next feeding came, I'd practically jump into my baby's moses basket to snatch him up because I had so much energy. Then we'd go back to sleep for a few hours and I'd be nearing 8 hours with barely any effort, and a bonus nap a few hours into the day if I wanted it! ALLOW people to help you. INSIST your husband/significant other participates in a REAL way.

When people want to bring you food, let them. When they ask if they can help at all, say yes. Have people help with laundry, cleaning the house, watching the baby for 1 hour while you get a nap/walk/shower/anything. Take care of your needs, you'll be taking care of that baby's for the next lifetime!

Secret #2, Breath: Yoga.

 Take time to go inward. To meditate, to breath, to journal.

It's so important to reflect on what's going on in your heart, mind and body. You just had a CHILD! You brought a LIVING, BREATHING HUMAN into this planet. It's time to open up and see what's going on inside.

If you don't practice yoga, purchase a yoga DVD online and get moving! Find a patch of carpet in your home when the baby is napping or in the swing and take some time for yourself. Even 25 minutes of yoga can shift your entire day energetically. It will bring bonus happiness that the physical body slims down while you're taking care of your spiritual self.

I went to a yoga class at my gym at least 2-3 times a week because they have a kids club/babysitting in the gym. I HIGHLY recommended looking into this amenity when selecting a gym to join. Often when Kai was still super little they would come get me halfway through class because he needed me, but I didn't care, I appreciated every minute I had to myself.

Secret #3: Pamper Mama.

Get manicures, pedicures, massages, facials. Have your best friend come give you a foot rub. Have your hubby give you a full body rub down. You DESERVE to take care of yourself, to love yourself, to indulge. I think I've gotten more treatments in the past 20 months then I ever did before. A 45 minute trip to the nail salon can turn out to be the best decision you've made all month. When they ask if you want 10 more minutes for a foot/shoulder/whatever rub, say "YES"! You are nurturing another human 24/7, responsible for that person, giving giving and giving some more.... the least you can do is nurture the source of all that energy. My sister is an amazing massage therapist if anyone that lives in LA wants to take advantage of her healing powers. Let me know and I'll hook it up :)

Secret #4: Get a good wrap/carrier

A big help in mommyland is having a good carrier to tote bebe around with you wherever you go.

I worked from home the first 6 months in the kitchen with Kai on me. I used the moby a LOT in the beginning and switched over to the Butterfly 2 later on when he got heavier. I STILL use the Butterfly 2 and he's almost 2 years old! It can be used on the front facing you (which is supposed to be better for baby then facing out) and it can also be used as a backpack with baby on your back. This allowed me the freedom to go for hikes and run errands without dealing with a hefty stroller. Plus, you have the added bonus of bonding with your baby while they are on you, listening to you talk, feeling your body heat, etc. I highly recommend purchasing a sling/pak/carrier from the wonderful mommy I bought mine from at paxbaby.com. She's extremely knowledgeable and has 5 children herself (wow!) so knows a thing or two about it! She will also custom make your sling for you with special patterns you get to chose!

Secret #5: Balance mommyhood and livelihood

 Your life now contains a baby, your life is NOT a baby.

Sometimes you may feel like your entire BEING is being a momma. That life is all things baby and that's the way it's going to be for years to come.

With a few really easy steps, you too can feel like there's more to life than diaper changes and playdates.

1) Find a babysitter you love and GET OUT! You need time to yourself. You need to meet up with friends for lunch/coffee/juice/yoga and NOT have your tot with you. Especially later when the baby has set naps, you don't want to selfishly screw up their day so that you can see your friends... so having a sitter take care of babes helps. Run errands, do some work, go for a long walk in nature, whatever you need to feel like YOU again. I promise, you won't regret leaving them for a few hours once you just GO!

2) Schedule Date-nights: my hubby and I schedule once a week date nights. It's imperative we schedule this in because if we don't, weeks will pass and we won't take that special time for us. Sometimes it's something bomb like a concert and other times it's just dinner at our favorite sushi place or a movie. Regardless, we see each other, outside of the house, and have time to bond as two lovers and friends, not just as mommy and daddy. (although I must admit we probably talk about Kai the majority of the time and share pics and videos!) We also schedule time with couple friends, groups of friends and our family as often as we can so we can feel connected to our loved ones.

Secret # 6: SLEEP TRAIN YOUR CHILD!

I can't say enough about this! At 6 months, we sleep trained Kai. After two days of letting him "cry it out" (there are several techniques, we chose this one) he was trained. For over 15 months now, he has slept through every single night (unless he was sick/teething) for 11 HOURS STRAIGHT. He is a happy, joyful, rested child and I owe this to his sleep. Get books, do research and figure out what's best for you and your baby.

Secret #7: Be Present

When you're with baby, try and be as present as possible. At the dinner table, keep phones away. When you're spending one on one time or time as a family, try to stay in the moment. Kids can feel when you're not connected and really love it when you are. Obviously you'll have to take a phone call here and there and connect to the outside world, but just be sure when you're giving time to your little one that you're doing the best you can to give them all of you. If you're balancing your time by pampering yourself, journaling, getting enough sleep and exercising, you should be more than happy to give a few hours to your sweet love!

Being a mama is no doubt a balancing act. But part of being a wonderful mother is being a wonderful person. You can't be a person in the universe if you never take time for YOU and the things you love. So we adapt! Love to hike? Strap that baby onto your body! Love to practice yoga? find a gym that watches babies. Want to be a working mommy? Find a sitter you absolutely love and trust and get your hubby on board to help when he can. It can ALL be done, being a happy mommy, wife, friend and careerwoman...  you just need to take the time to dream it into reality (and get creative!). Journal, reflect and connect to your truest and best self as often as you can to stay centered and true to you. Everyone around you will notice the difference, I promise!

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Taurus Moon Magic

I’ve been thinking about the moon a lot lately...my birthday is coming up on April 30th, my moon + sun signs are in Taurus, and the New Moon is in Taurus on the 26th! Over the past 3 years, I’ve actually done a lot of personal study on the moon and just signed up to be officially trained in June! I couldn't be more excited. I've been hosting moon circles – both full moon and new moon gatherings – for the past 2 years, and I want to continue offering such a beautiful ritual to my sisters and community.

Keep reading though to learn more about the Taurus Moon + how you can harness its powerful energy! 

This is a general reading, as your sun sign is going to interact specifically with this moon in more unique ways. In astronomy, the New Moon is the first phase of the Moon, when its orbit is seen from the earth –  the moment when the moon + the sun have the same ecliptic longitude. During this phase, the moon is farthest away from us on earth.

The New Moon is therefore a great time for setting new intentions, for attracting new people into your life, for beginning new projects, for interviewing for jobs, and for simply allowing new opportunities to unfold.

This earthy new moon in Taurus is here to help you ground and reconnect with your inner pleasure goddess and passionate being. We are taking the energy and seed that was planted from the Spring Equinox and are beginning to crack open and extend our intentions toward the warming sun. Take the energy of Spring and allow it to inspire you, like a strong beautiful tree.

How can you make your world more beautiful? How can you make your life more beautiful? Start with your home and work outwards. Spring cleanse your entire home, ridding yourself of what no longer serves you. Haven't worn it in months? Donate it. Haven't played with it in awhile? Give it away. From there, start to work through your behaviors and patterns. What isn't serving you any longer? Maybe this is a time to do a 5-Day Philosophie cleanse.

Really take this New Moon energy in Taurus to challenge yourself to grow into a new being. You have the opportunity to connect with a new version of yourself. This will include some uncomfortable moments, as healing and change always does, but it will be so worth it. Give yourself permission to be free and create a life of joy, something that only YOU know to be your dream reality.

During this time, use our Magic Moon Satchels to connect more deeply with the moon and her power. The moon is a celestial anchor that will help you make more sense of your world, both inner and outer. All you have to do is tune in.

What magical new beginnings are you creating while the New Moon is in Taurus? Share with me on Facebook with #MyPhilosophie!

 

5 Ways to Teach Your Kids to Love Mother Nature

My home extends beyond my house and into the world – into this incredible, vast earth. While I do love the concrete jungle of L.A., I can never get enough of nature, of days spent on the beach, in the forest, and anywhere that I can touch the soil and soak up the sky.

Just as I look after my house and fill it with positive energy by lighting candles, keeping it nice + tidy, and decorating with magical items that give me and my family so much joy, I feel the same way about our planet! We need to protect, preserve, and nurture our world so that it can continue being a lovely home for all of us, as well as for our kids and their kids.

One of the best ways to ensure that our earth stays beautiful is by teaching our babies to love and care for it as much as we do. Here are 5 ways that I share my passion for Mother Nature with Kai and Leo and hope to pass it on to them:

1) Play with your kids OUTSIDE.

Nature walks. Beach sandcastles. Wave jumping. Yoga in the garden. Camping trips. These are all fantastic ways to get your kids to learn that some of the greatest moments are when we connect to our roots and play outside, wild + free.

2) Cultivate their curiosity and sense of wonder.

Take you kiddies to natural history museums, science centers, and national parks. Make the library a weekly treat and help them check out books on their favorite animals or faraway places. Snuggle up and watch Planet Earth or March of the Penguins. Ignite their love for the world and all it has to offer.

3) Show your kids where their food comes from.

Take them to a blueberry farm. Swing by an aqueduct on a family road trip. Make your kids regulars at the farmers market. While this sparks an early appreciation for earth and its super yummy gifts, it also helps kids eat more nourishing, colorful fruits + veggies!

4) Teach your kids to thoughtfully collect, use, and let go of items.

Guide them in choosing quality over quantity, show them that less is more, and explain that we must take care of what we do own so that it lasts longer. Fast fashion and takeout containers aren’t good for our world so we should teach them to opt for goods that last, can be repaired, or can be thoughtfully given away, recycled, or composted when it’s time to part ways.

5) Share what’s going on in the news.
Point out the honey bees in your yard and explain how their hard work connects to the food we eat.Talk to your kids about climate change. Explain the positive impact we have on the drought when we take a shorter shower. Most importantly, remember to explain that no matter how sad or frustrating the news can be, there’s ALWAYS something we can do to help and make a difference :) 

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I’d love to hear your tips on how to pass on a love for the planet to the next gen–share them with me on Twitter with #MyPhilosophie + #EarthOptimism!

Cacao Magic + Chameleon Cold-Brew Smoothie Recipe

Head over heels for cold brew AND nourishing superfood smoothies? I partnered with Chameleon Cold-Brew for National Cold Brew Day to bring you this special sponsored post featuring a super energizing, utterly divine Cacao Magic meets Chameleon Cold-Brew Smoothie!

Whip up this dreamy, dairy-free smoothie as a nutrient-dense breakfast or midday snack when you want to boost your energy levels, sans any jitters. Plus, the low acid levels ensure no tummy troubles whatsoever. This high-vibrational cold brew seriously helps me make the most of my day and HUSTLE to share Philosophie love with the world.

I especially love that Chameleon Cold-Brew steeps their organic, consciously-sourced beans for 16 HOURS. It definitely shows in the high quality flavor profile. The ultra smooth taste is why this is hands down my favorite cold brew, which makes perfect sense since they’re from Austin, Texas – a leader in all thing things hip + amazing.

For this protein-packed cacao cinnamon smoothie, I poured in a couple ounces of the Chameleon Cold-Brew Vanilla Concentrate, which actually features ZERO SUGAR. I love this because I can control the sweetness of my smoothie (or iced cold brew drink) and add a touch of our Cacao Bee Honey, if my sweet tooth calls for it.

If you happen to prefer a warm, soothing drink over an iced cold brew or frosty smoothie though, you can also heat up their cold brew and make a magical tonic or elixir!

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Add all ingredients to a high-speed blender and blitz. Pour into your favorite glass and enjoy!

I’d love to see your superfood shakes, iced lattes, and tonics featuring Chameleon Cold-Brew! Follow them on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest + tag us in your pics with #PhilosophieSuperfoods and #ChameleonColdBrew!

 

Zola Acai Smoothie Bowl Recipe

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If you don't have frozen acai on hand, you can always use a bottle of acai juice. I love Zola's, which features organically grown and sustainably harvested acai berries bursting with antioxidants and omega fatty acids. It also contains zero cholesterol, preservatives, gluten, dairy, GMO or BPA, so I know I'm getting nothing but the good stuff. 

I also like Zola's Coconut Waters, which are full of essential electrolytes including potassium, calcium, phosphorus, and magnesium. On top of the fruit and the juices, I toss a handful of leafy greens into the mix and add a spoonful of Berry Bliss. This potent blend of superfoods packs more vitamin C than 10 oranges and is a phenomenal immune system booster. 

Once your smoothie's in the bowl, be sure to sprinkle on an assortment of superfoods like cashews and dried coconut for a satisfying crunch!

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Blend all ingredients in a high-speed blender, pour into your favorite bowl, and top with superfoods like chia seeds, coconut shavings, + blueberries!

I'd love to see pics of your gorgeous acai bowls! Please share them with me on Instagram with #MyPhilosophie + #PhilosophieSuperfoods! 

Heart of the Week: Yoga Books for Kids

I'm often asked what yoga books I use with my kids so I wanted to share my favorites as today's Heart of the Week!

I've been reading these 4 books with Kai since he was a baby. Now he and Leo read them together, and I'll often come in and join them for a flow. It's so fun for all of us! 

When Kai was 4, he was even LEADING Leo through 25 minute yoga classes without any breaks! It's been one of the most beautiful + impressive things I've ever witnessed and just goes to show that it's NEVER too early to teach them.

Get started with your kiddies with these 4 incredible yoga books: 

1) Yoga Pretzels by Tara Guber and Leah Kalish

 

2) You Are a Lion! And Other Fun Yoga Poses by Taeeun Yoo

 

3) Babar's Yoga For Elephants by Laurent de Brunhoff

4) Little Gurus - A Yoga Discovery Book by Olaf Hajek (gorgeous pictures, no words but great for imaginative yoga)

I'd LOVE to see cute pics of your kids doing yoga. Please share them with us on Instagram with #MyPhilosophie!

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Not only does the brekie have plenty of lemon zing, it's also super creamy, courtesy of cashews, coconut, Coconut Dream, and almond mylk. And if you want to give your immune system a boost – especially if you're headed out to the desert for some wild living at Coachella, this is THE drink for you. It's got a spoonful of turmeric (which also adds a pop of golden color) and Berry Bliss, which features camu camu, one of the world's most abundant providers of vitamin C! 
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