Being a Happy, Healthy, Kind Mommy: it's a Balancing Act

As the coming months approach, I will again, be a new momma. My second baby boy will be born into the world. This brings much joy, excitement, love, appreciation and gratitude into my body. It also, unfortunately, brings a tinge of anxiety for many moms.

This post is all about exposing my secrets on "how I do it all" and still (attempt) to stay happy, healthy and kind. I hope this helps any of you weary about mommyhood and starting a family. I also hope this helps those of you that are struggling as moms and not quite sure how to find the time to be your best self. Philosophie Sophie is here to help!

 

Balancing Mommy Secret #1

You can't do it all. Take help when it's offered. Oh, AND, you need sleep.

For some reason mamas and papas just accept the fact that they won't sleep for the first two years or so (I've heard 5 from some parents! eek!). That's NOT an option in my world! In the first few months of a new baby being in your life, they need you ALL the time. They must nurse every few hours, they need a diaper change constantly and they need to bond with you. They have higher piles of dirty clothes than you do and you've already run out of diapers before you can blink twice. So where does sleep fit in?

For the first 6 months, my husband did at LEAST one night time feeding. It was calculated with the intention of me getting more sleep. So, let's say I did one last feeding at 9p, baby would be up again in 2-3 hours crying and hungry- that would be dads turn (or grandmas, best friends, etc). He would do the whole routine, feed him a bottle (of pumped breast milk), change him and tuck him into bed. I would sleep this entire time-until the following feeding-peacefully and soundly with earplugs shoved into both ears. By the time the next feeding came, I'd practically jump into my baby's moses basket to snatch him up because I had so much energy. Then we'd go back to sleep for a few hours and I'd be nearing 8 hours with barely any effort, and a bonus nap a few hours into the day if I wanted it! ALLOW people to help you. INSIST your husband/significant other participates in a REAL way.

When people want to bring you food, let them. When they ask if they can help at all, say yes. Have people help with laundry, cleaning the house, watching the baby for 1 hour while you get a nap/walk/shower/anything. Take care of your needs, you'll be taking care of that baby's for the next lifetime!

Secret #2, Breath: Yoga.

 Take time to go inward. To meditate, to breath, to journal.

It's so important to reflect on what's going on in your heart, mind and body. You just had a CHILD! You brought a LIVING, BREATHING HUMAN into this planet. It's time to open up and see what's going on inside.

If you don't practice yoga, purchase a yoga DVD online and get moving! Find a patch of carpet in your home when the baby is napping or in the swing and take some time for yourself. Even 25 minutes of yoga can shift your entire day energetically. It will bring bonus happiness that the physical body slims down while you're taking care of your spiritual self.

I went to a yoga class at my gym at least 2-3 times a week because they have a kids club/babysitting in the gym. I HIGHLY recommended looking into this amenity when selecting a gym to join. Often when Kai was still super little they would come get me halfway through class because he needed me, but I didn't care, I appreciated every minute I had to myself.

Secret #3: Pamper Mama.

Get manicures, pedicures, massages, facials. Have your best friend come give you a foot rub. Have your hubby give you a full body rub down. You DESERVE to take care of yourself, to love yourself, to indulge. I think I've gotten more treatments in the past 20 months then I ever did before. A 45 minute trip to the nail salon can turn out to be the best decision you've made all month. When they ask if you want 10 more minutes for a foot/shoulder/whatever rub, say "YES"! You are nurturing another human 24/7, responsible for that person, giving giving and giving some more.... the least you can do is nurture the source of all that energy. My sister is an amazing massage therapist if anyone that lives in LA wants to take advantage of her healing powers. Let me know and I'll hook it up :)

Secret #4: Get a good wrap/carrier

A big help in mommyland is having a good carrier to tote bebe around with you wherever you go.

I worked from home the first 6 months in the kitchen with Kai on me. I used the moby a LOT in the beginning and switched over to the Butterfly 2 later on when he got heavier. I STILL use the Butterfly 2 and he's almost 2 years old! It can be used on the front facing you (which is supposed to be better for baby then facing out) and it can also be used as a backpack with baby on your back. This allowed me the freedom to go for hikes and run errands without dealing with a hefty stroller. Plus, you have the added bonus of bonding with your baby while they are on you, listening to you talk, feeling your body heat, etc. I highly recommend purchasing a sling/pak/carrier from the wonderful mommy I bought mine from at paxbaby.com. She's extremely knowledgeable and has 5 children herself (wow!) so knows a thing or two about it! She will also custom make your sling for you with special patterns you get to chose!

Secret #5: Balance mommyhood and livelihood

 Your life now contains a baby, your life is NOT a baby.

Sometimes you may feel like your entire BEING is being a momma. That life is all things baby and that's the way it's going to be for years to come.

With a few really easy steps, you too can feel like there's more to life than diaper changes and playdates.

1) Find a babysitter you love and GET OUT! You need time to yourself. You need to meet up with friends for lunch/coffee/juice/yoga and NOT have your tot with you. Especially later when the baby has set naps, you don't want to selfishly screw up their day so that you can see your friends... so having a sitter take care of babes helps. Run errands, do some work, go for a long walk in nature, whatever you need to feel like YOU again. I promise, you won't regret leaving them for a few hours once you just GO!

2) Schedule Date-nights: my hubby and I schedule once a week date nights. It's imperative we schedule this in because if we don't, weeks will pass and we won't take that special time for us. Sometimes it's something bomb like a concert and other times it's just dinner at our favorite sushi place or a movie. Regardless, we see each other, outside of the house, and have time to bond as two lovers and friends, not just as mommy and daddy. (although I must admit we probably talk about Kai the majority of the time and share pics and videos!) We also schedule time with couple friends, groups of friends and our family as often as we can so we can feel connected to our loved ones.

Secret # 6: SLEEP TRAIN YOUR CHILD!

I can't say enough about this! At 6 months, we sleep trained Kai. After two days of letting him "cry it out" (there are several techniques, we chose this one) he was trained. For over 15 months now, he has slept through every single night (unless he was sick/teething) for 11 HOURS STRAIGHT. He is a happy, joyful, rested child and I owe this to his sleep. Get books, do research and figure out what's best for you and your baby.

Secret #7: Be Present

When you're with baby, try and be as present as possible. At the dinner table, keep phones away. When you're spending one on one time or time as a family, try to stay in the moment. Kids can feel when you're not connected and really love it when you are. Obviously you'll have to take a phone call here and there and connect to the outside world, but just be sure when you're giving time to your little one that you're doing the best you can to give them all of you. If you're balancing your time by pampering yourself, journaling, getting enough sleep and exercising, you should be more than happy to give a few hours to your sweet love!

Being a mama is no doubt a balancing act. But part of being a wonderful mother is being a wonderful person. You can't be a person in the universe if you never take time for YOU and the things you love. So we adapt! Love to hike? Strap that baby onto your body! Love to practice yoga? find a gym that watches babies. Want to be a working mommy? Find a sitter you absolutely love and trust and get your hubby on board to help when he can. It can ALL be done, being a happy mommy, wife, friend and careerwoman...  you just need to take the time to dream it into reality (and get creative!). Journal, reflect and connect to your truest and best self as often as you can to stay centered and true to you. Everyone around you will notice the difference, I promise!

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Superfood Donut Recipe

Today we were inspired to make healthy donuts that can double as a nutritious snack! Last night, Leo saw a donut shop and got very emotional because "You never let us get donuts.” So my amazing assistant Taylor and I created these grain-free, paleo, superfood-dense, homemade beauties! 

To make them super light + fluffy, we used egg whites, which along with the Green Dream, Berry Bliss, and almond flour, create a breakfast or snack that's PACKED with protein. 

If you don't have almond flour on hand, you could definitely sub it out for a gluten-free, all-purpose flour. We also doubled this recipe so that we would have plenty for breakfast this weekend. (Pro-tip: Pair them with this Vegan Bulletproof Coffee for an uh-mazing brekie in bed).

And instead of regular ol’ frosting, glaze these yummy donuts with Philosophie Coconut Butter to help balance blood sugar levels and keep everyone full and happy LONG AFTER after their superfood pastries are all gone!


 

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Add dry ingredients into one bowl and mix together. Mix wet ingredients in another bowl, and then add the wet combo to the dry combo. Mix the egg whites in, pour into donut molds (greased with coconut oil!), and then bake at 350 degrees for 12-15 minutes. Feel free to use any toppings you want (we used bee pollen, goji berries, and coconut shreds).



 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Toast Tuesday: Hummus + Avocado Chia Toast Recipe

Take your avocado toast to the next level with a layer of homemade Green Dream Hummus!

I ❤️  making my own fresh hummus – it’s so easy and so much better for you (+ better tasting!) than store-bought spreads. This wholesome recipe features garbanzo beans (a.k.a. chickpeas), which are not only a fabulous plant-based source of protein, but also help control blood sugar and insulin secretion. The best part is that it only takes 1/3 of a cup of beans per day to reap all of the benefits!

Tahini (a sesame paste + one of my pantry staples) is next on the list. A star player in Middle Eastern and Mediterranean cooking, tahini is a must in hummus. To make your spread super detoxifying + alkalizing, squeeze in fresh lemon juice, and then add a few cloves of garlic to give it BIG flavor and anti-inflammatory powers. As a finishing touch, add a spoonful of our Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend. The gorgeous emerald hue in Green Dream comes from spirulina, an antioxidant-rich, blue-green algae that is packed with nutrients including iron, magnesium, manganese, zinc, copper, selenium, chromium, vitamin B-12, and protein.

Once you’ve whipped up and spread on your supercharged hummus, add the avocado slices to give your skin a beautiful glow – and make your toast ultra delicious. To top it all off, add a sprinkling of chia seeds. In addition to providing a nutritious crunch, they prevent premature aging of the skin, support digestive health, AND boost your energy and metabolism! How’s that for a superfood breakfast?

 

Gather This:

For the Green Dream Hummus:

 

For the Toast:

 

Do This:

Pop the bread in the toaster. Combine all ingredients for the hummus in the food processor and pulse until creamy. Salt+pepper the hummus to desired taste. Spread the hummus on the toast, and then top with avocado and chia seeds!

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When Women Support Each Other, Incredible Things Happen

For me, Monday vibes are all about radiating #MondayInspiration! Start the week off strong with these EMPOWERING words of wisdom about female relationships from my friend Marissa Cohen, a member of our beautiful Philosophie Tribe! 

Female relationships have always been important to me. I am one of three sisters, eight of my first cousins are girls, and I have incredible female role models in my life (I’m looking at you, Soph!). International Women’s Day seemed like a second Christmas this year. I could feel the hands of my sisters reaching out across nations to join together as one. But what if I told you that despite my passion for women’s empowerment and regardless of all the incredible relationships that I have with women, women scare me.

Through our lifetimes, we all experience some level of “cattiness” with other women. Perhaps the prettiest girls in elementary school left you out on the playground, or maybe within your circle of friends in high school you felt a sense of competition. While I am not a mother myself, I know that many working mothers and stay home mothers victimize the other group for their choices in raising their children. Today, we don’t only look to the women in our immediate life, but we are vulnerable to the depths of the internet. Social media can be a source of inspiration, but it is also a pit for comparison. She looks like that? Those are her friends? Her boyfriend took her where and bought her what? She works that job and manages to be the life of the party? “She” has it all. Her life is perfect. Sometimes I find myself in a trap of feeling bad about myself and not being able to feel happy for “her.” And that – choosing to compare instead of connect, and criticizing instead of celebrating – is what I think may be the one factor holding us women back from reaching our full potential.

There is nothing more draining than a group of women putting one another down. Despite the ratings that The Real Housewives episodes receive, in real life no one wants to be a part of a circle of gossip. But, miraculously, there is nothing more igniting than a team of women all loving one another, challenging each other to be the best versions of themselves while honoring their present state, and releasing the façade of their insecurities to allow their authentic self to shine. Now, more than ever, we need a space for women to unite and experience the wonders of sisterhood. We need each other.

I am so excited be be joining Sophie and Rachelle Tratt for their IGNTD Women Nourish Your Soul 2-week online program.  Starting April 1, these two soul-charging babes will be leading six Facebook live streams to cultivate an online community for support and accountability. There will be daily intentions, challenges, yoga, HIIT, and meditation classes, and so much more. Later that month, they will also be hosting their Nourish Your Soul Weekend Retreat from April 29-30 in Venice, CA. So whether you’re an LA local or there is a coast or an ocean between Sophie, Rachelle, and yourself, there is a space for you to cultivate your tribe. You are worthy of giving yourself this experience. The world needs you, my sister, to be your best self. Let’s carry each other to the top instead of pushing each other down. 

Inspired to join our Nourish Your Soul online program or retreat? Tweet at me with any questions with #MyPhilosophie! 

Heart of the Week: Waldorf Schools

I love Kai’s Waldorf School so much! We actually moved to our new beautiful home in Culver City last fall from the Valley just so that he could attend. Since Kai was in utero, I've been slightly stalking Waldorf schools. I would go online, research, and dream. The cost for Waldorf schools is typically between $20-30k per year, which is not a real option for our family. I filled out financial aid forms and never turned them in, dreaming on my own, slowly planting the seeds.

When Kai was 5, I went to the local kindergarten near our school in the Valley for a tour and went through all the motions of meeting the teachers, touring the classrooms, etc. I was crying the entire time. The school didn't feel right. Everything inside of me felt like screaming. I knew Kai would be amazing anywhere and survive, but I know he's meant to thrive. I then found out via a close friend about a Waldorf school on the Westside, that is *FREE*. It's a LAUSD public charter school, specializing in WALDORF! I couldn't believe my ears. Adi and I immediately went for a tour and applied, putting our names down for a lottery. That was last February. In June, they called to let us know they were opening a new kinder class and asked if we wanted Kai to be included. I snatched up the spot immediately and cried tears of gratitude.

The school was over an hour and 15 minutes each direction so we moved in the fall. My heart is so complete. With their vibrant gardens and outdoor play area, baskets of wooden toys, and rows of books, they’re incredible at promoting creativity and encouraging active, hands-on learning.

At Waldorf, the kids sing songs, tell stories, do dramatic performances, and memorize fun rhymes and verses! I like that the teachers also pair language arts and music with specific movements, games, and patterns to boost coordination, concentration, and support different types of learners.

They weave math organically throughout the day with fun activities so that the kids learn to love it at an early age and really see its value! Kai and his class play with shells, stones, and beans to learn patterns of organization and also get to design necklaces, finger knit, sew, and count with circle games.

And of course, art is huge at Waldorf. Kai absolutely loves drawing and watercolor painting time! They also offer modeling with BEESWAX. (What other school does that?!)

As I mentioned earlier, gardening and the outdoors is integral to the Waldorf curriculum and serves as a beautiful intro into the science world. As a zero waste school (where EVERYTHING is reusable!), they cultivate an early appreciation for nature and teach the kids that the world is innately good and needs us all to work together to protect and support it. This has helped ME be less wasteful and more mindful of every single thing we use and don't use in our home.

Leo will go there as well in the fall as a T-K student, and the school goes until 8th grade. I feel so content and at peace. When I pick Kai up in the afternoon, he’s always bursting with excitement to tell me what he did that day – I couldn’t ask for more in a school.

If you have any interest in learning more, I encourage you to look into Waldorf-inspired preschools/schools in your area. You'd be surprised how many schools there are (or even after school activities with a similar theme). Please feel free to ask any and all questions – I hope this helps!

I'd love to hear what you do as mamas + papas to give your kiddies the best education possible! Please share with me on Facebook with #MyPhilosophie! 

Green Dream Cauliflower Smoothie Bowl Recipe

I loved how dreamy + nutritious last month's Cacao Magic Cauliflower Smoothie Bowl was, so this week I decided to whip up a Green Dream rendition. I also decided that I wanted this one to be super coconutty, so I added a cup of coconut milk, shredded coconut, AND Coconut Dream–one of our luscious coco butters supercharged with the detoxifying powers of Green Dream

And it did not disappoint! I recommend creating this oh-so-yummy bowl when you're looking for an ultra nutritious breakfast or when you know that you'll be eating out later in the day and want to ensure your bod is super happy + nourished. 

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Blend all ingredients in a high-speed blender. Top with cacao nibs, hemp seeds, bee pollen, shredded coconut, and sliced berries and bananas! 

What veggies do you like to sneak into your smoothies or smoothie bowls? Let me know on Twitter with #MyPhilosophie!

3 Dreamy Philosophie x Cafe Gratitude Brunch Recipes

Last month, we teamed up with Cafe Gratitude and had the most magical brunch that I’m still in awe over. I’m pretty positive the Acai Berry Bliss Parfaits were made of unicorn poo (aka: Berry Bliss, wild berries, frozen acai, gluten-free granola, and pure love!).

I’ve been going to Cafe Gratitude for 9 years, when the only location was in San Francisco. I would visit my older sister when she lived there and take a public transportation adventure through the city to get there.

When they came to LA, I burst with excitement. I’ve probably been to the Larchmont location 500 times. It’s been a huge part of my world for a decade, and now I’m collaborating with them in the most dreamy of ways!

And now I’d love for you, my ever expanding Philosophie family + community, to try this trio of beautiful brunch superfood recipes created by Cafe Gratitude’s Chef Dreux Eliis.

Acai Berry Bliss Parfait

For the Berry Bliss Coconut Yogurt:

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Mix together in a bowl.

For the Parfait:

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  • 1 teaspoon Berry Bliss Superfood + Protein Blend and 3 goji berries (topping)
  • 2 tablespoons granola
  • 1 RS mixed berries
  • 1 GS acai
  • 1 RS mixed berries
  • 1 GS Berry Bliss Coconut Yogurt
  • 2 tablespoons granola
  • 2 tablespoons Berry Bliss Coconut Yogurt

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Layer it up, starting from the bottom of the ingredient list and working your way up. Garnish with the Berry Bliss and 3 goji berries.

Green Dream Chopped Salad

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  • 1 teaspoon olive oil
  • 1/4 teaspoon garlic, chopped
  • 1 pinch salt
  • 1/2 cup blanched broccolini
  • 2 pieces blackened tempeh, rough chopped
  • 1 RS sun-dried tomato and olive tapenade
  • 1 cup chopped romaine
  • 1 cup chopped massaged kale mix
  • 1/2 teaspoon smoked salt
  • 2 ounces ramekin escabeche, chopped
  • 1 ounce ramekin toasted pistachios, chopped
  • 1/2 ounce Lucky Vinaigrette, mixed with 1 teaspoon Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend
  • 1 PS cashew mozzarella
  • 1 teaspoon gremolata
  • 1/2 teaspoon Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend

Do This:

Saute the olive oil, garlic, salt, and broccolini. After heating well, add the tempeh and tapenade. Transfer to a bowl and toss together with the romaine, kale mix, smoked salt, escabeche, pistachios, and vinaigrette. Garnish with the mozzarella and gremolata and dust the plate with the Green Dream.

Cacao Magic Buckwheat Pancakes

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  • 4 ounces Cacao Magic Buckwheat Pancake Batter
  • 1 ounce maple syrup, swirled
  • 1/2 ounce maple syrup, on pancake
  • 1 teaspoon bee pollen
  • 1 half banana, sliced
  • 1 tablespoon almond butter
  • 1 teaspoon shredded coconut
  • 1 ounce chocolate sauce

Do This:

Grill the batter on a flat top. Transfer the pancake t’o a plate, add ½ ounce of maple syrup, and then swirl 1 ounce of maple syrup on top. Garnish with the bee pollen, banana, almond butter, coconut, and chocolate sauce in stripes.

I can’t wait to see your gorgeous brunch pics! Please share them with me on Instagram with #MyPhilosophie + #PhilosophieSuperfoods!