Being a Happy, Healthy, Kind Mommy: it's a Balancing Act

As the coming months approach, I will again, be a new momma. My second baby boy will be born into the world. This brings much joy, excitement, love, appreciation and gratitude into my body. It also, unfortunately, brings a tinge of anxiety for many moms.

This post is all about exposing my secrets on "how I do it all" and still (attempt) to stay happy, healthy and kind. I hope this helps any of you weary about mommyhood and starting a family. I also hope this helps those of you that are struggling as moms and not quite sure how to find the time to be your best self. Philosophie Sophie is here to help!

 

Balancing Mommy Secret #1

You can't do it all. Take help when it's offered. Oh, AND, you need sleep.

For some reason mamas and papas just accept the fact that they won't sleep for the first two years or so (I've heard 5 from some parents! eek!). That's NOT an option in my world! In the first few months of a new baby being in your life, they need you ALL the time. They must nurse every few hours, they need a diaper change constantly and they need to bond with you. They have higher piles of dirty clothes than you do and you've already run out of diapers before you can blink twice. So where does sleep fit in?

For the first 6 months, my husband did at LEAST one night time feeding. It was calculated with the intention of me getting more sleep. So, let's say I did one last feeding at 9p, baby would be up again in 2-3 hours crying and hungry- that would be dads turn (or grandmas, best friends, etc). He would do the whole routine, feed him a bottle (of pumped breast milk), change him and tuck him into bed. I would sleep this entire time-until the following feeding-peacefully and soundly with earplugs shoved into both ears. By the time the next feeding came, I'd practically jump into my baby's moses basket to snatch him up because I had so much energy. Then we'd go back to sleep for a few hours and I'd be nearing 8 hours with barely any effort, and a bonus nap a few hours into the day if I wanted it! ALLOW people to help you. INSIST your husband/significant other participates in a REAL way.

When people want to bring you food, let them. When they ask if they can help at all, say yes. Have people help with laundry, cleaning the house, watching the baby for 1 hour while you get a nap/walk/shower/anything. Take care of your needs, you'll be taking care of that baby's for the next lifetime!

Secret #2, Breath: Yoga.

 Take time to go inward. To meditate, to breath, to journal.

It's so important to reflect on what's going on in your heart, mind and body. You just had a CHILD! You brought a LIVING, BREATHING HUMAN into this planet. It's time to open up and see what's going on inside.

If you don't practice yoga, purchase a yoga DVD online and get moving! Find a patch of carpet in your home when the baby is napping or in the swing and take some time for yourself. Even 25 minutes of yoga can shift your entire day energetically. It will bring bonus happiness that the physical body slims down while you're taking care of your spiritual self.

I went to a yoga class at my gym at least 2-3 times a week because they have a kids club/babysitting in the gym. I HIGHLY recommended looking into this amenity when selecting a gym to join. Often when Kai was still super little they would come get me halfway through class because he needed me, but I didn't care, I appreciated every minute I had to myself.

Secret #3: Pamper Mama.

Get manicures, pedicures, massages, facials. Have your best friend come give you a foot rub. Have your hubby give you a full body rub down. You DESERVE to take care of yourself, to love yourself, to indulge. I think I've gotten more treatments in the past 20 months then I ever did before. A 45 minute trip to the nail salon can turn out to be the best decision you've made all month. When they ask if you want 10 more minutes for a foot/shoulder/whatever rub, say "YES"! You are nurturing another human 24/7, responsible for that person, giving giving and giving some more.... the least you can do is nurture the source of all that energy. My sister is an amazing massage therapist if anyone that lives in LA wants to take advantage of her healing powers. Let me know and I'll hook it up :)

Secret #4: Get a good wrap/carrier

A big help in mommyland is having a good carrier to tote bebe around with you wherever you go.

I worked from home the first 6 months in the kitchen with Kai on me. I used the moby a LOT in the beginning and switched over to the Butterfly 2 later on when he got heavier. I STILL use the Butterfly 2 and he's almost 2 years old! It can be used on the front facing you (which is supposed to be better for baby then facing out) and it can also be used as a backpack with baby on your back. This allowed me the freedom to go for hikes and run errands without dealing with a hefty stroller. Plus, you have the added bonus of bonding with your baby while they are on you, listening to you talk, feeling your body heat, etc. I highly recommend purchasing a sling/pak/carrier from the wonderful mommy I bought mine from at paxbaby.com. She's extremely knowledgeable and has 5 children herself (wow!) so knows a thing or two about it! She will also custom make your sling for you with special patterns you get to chose!

Secret #5: Balance mommyhood and livelihood

 Your life now contains a baby, your life is NOT a baby.

Sometimes you may feel like your entire BEING is being a momma. That life is all things baby and that's the way it's going to be for years to come.

With a few really easy steps, you too can feel like there's more to life than diaper changes and playdates.

1) Find a babysitter you love and GET OUT! You need time to yourself. You need to meet up with friends for lunch/coffee/juice/yoga and NOT have your tot with you. Especially later when the baby has set naps, you don't want to selfishly screw up their day so that you can see your friends... so having a sitter take care of babes helps. Run errands, do some work, go for a long walk in nature, whatever you need to feel like YOU again. I promise, you won't regret leaving them for a few hours once you just GO!

2) Schedule Date-nights: my hubby and I schedule once a week date nights. It's imperative we schedule this in because if we don't, weeks will pass and we won't take that special time for us. Sometimes it's something bomb like a concert and other times it's just dinner at our favorite sushi place or a movie. Regardless, we see each other, outside of the house, and have time to bond as two lovers and friends, not just as mommy and daddy. (although I must admit we probably talk about Kai the majority of the time and share pics and videos!) We also schedule time with couple friends, groups of friends and our family as often as we can so we can feel connected to our loved ones.

Secret # 6: SLEEP TRAIN YOUR CHILD!

I can't say enough about this! At 6 months, we sleep trained Kai. After two days of letting him "cry it out" (there are several techniques, we chose this one) he was trained. For over 15 months now, he has slept through every single night (unless he was sick/teething) for 11 HOURS STRAIGHT. He is a happy, joyful, rested child and I owe this to his sleep. Get books, do research and figure out what's best for you and your baby.

Secret #7: Be Present

When you're with baby, try and be as present as possible. At the dinner table, keep phones away. When you're spending one on one time or time as a family, try to stay in the moment. Kids can feel when you're not connected and really love it when you are. Obviously you'll have to take a phone call here and there and connect to the outside world, but just be sure when you're giving time to your little one that you're doing the best you can to give them all of you. If you're balancing your time by pampering yourself, journaling, getting enough sleep and exercising, you should be more than happy to give a few hours to your sweet love!

Being a mama is no doubt a balancing act. But part of being a wonderful mother is being a wonderful person. You can't be a person in the universe if you never take time for YOU and the things you love. So we adapt! Love to hike? Strap that baby onto your body! Love to practice yoga? find a gym that watches babies. Want to be a working mommy? Find a sitter you absolutely love and trust and get your hubby on board to help when he can. It can ALL be done, being a happy mommy, wife, friend and careerwoman...  you just need to take the time to dream it into reality (and get creative!). Journal, reflect and connect to your truest and best self as often as you can to stay centered and true to you. Everyone around you will notice the difference, I promise!

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Heart of the Week: Postpartum Lactation Support Products

My little angel is a little over three months and time is already moving way too quickly. It’s such a treasure to watch her grow every day. I still can’t get over it. She’s here. She has truly completed our little family and I feel so honored to provide for her.

Yet, motherhood never ceases to be a challenge. No matter if it's your first or sixth. It’s DRAINING; you’re constantly being stretched, used and tested. Your sources are depleted. It’s all the more important to take care of yourself so you can fully care for your child.

During this postpartum period, I look for really clean ingredients that help me feel balanced and strong. Many of these ingredients help boost milk supply and an overall healthy body. A lot of these products are influenced by Ayurveda science, which is what my postpartum doula specialized in. A lot of these products have herbs, spices and ingredients from the Ayurveda diet, which encourages a healthy milk supply. It's also important I incorporated good healthy fats, carbs and protein into my diet along with lots of water to be sure I'm getting all of what I need to provide life force and energy for baby, to give her my all since she's taking so much.

Here are some of my favorite products I incorporate into my diet for postpartum lactation support:

Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend - I crafted this superfood blend with a mama’s need in mind. It came to me while pregnant with Kai because my body didn’t feel like it was getting all the nutrients and substance it needed to support a growing human alongside my own life force. It’s key ingredient, spirulina, is antioxidant-rich and packed with nutrients like vitamin B12, which is especially important for breastfeeding mothers.

Coconut Bliss Coconut Butter - I love, love, love healthy fats! Healthy fats are essential to providing mama and baby with the best nutrition possible. I’m constantly craving a sweet treat and being able to enjoy a spoonful of Coconut Bliss satisfies my craving while still providing essential nutrients to baby girl. Our Berry Bliss blend is a vitamin C powerhouse so I can continue to fight off any sickness while providing for Noa.

Nettle Leaf (Organic) - This dark, leafy green plant is high in iron and is known to stimulate healthy milk production. I add some to my homemade tea blends and drink it throughout the day or when I’m in a mood for it. It combines beautifully with our superfood honey - my favorite combo is nettle leaf and Berry Bee Honey. So calming!

Banyan Fenugreek Seed - Not only does this spice help with digestion and metabolism, but it has a nice pop of flavor that adds a nice quality to any meal. Even better, it helps nourish rasa dhatu (fluids in the body), supporting the healthy production of breast milk and acting as a rejuvenative to the female reproductive system. My doula added this to the Birth Recovery Stew and it was SO good. It can also be seeped as a tea but I enjoy it as a spice in my soups.

MUSH - These overnight oats are so great to grab on the go and are soaked in dairy-free mylk and blended with real, whole ingredients like apple crisp, vanilla bean and cacao. Oats have a strong source of iron making it a great support for lactation. This  simple little pleasure is something I can shamelessly grab on my way out the door without the worry that it would later harm baby. It’s a great snack to enjoy whether you’re breastfeeding or not!

Countertop Mother’s Breakfast - Incorporating herbs, spices and supplements that boost milk production is important, but you also need products that boost the quality of your milk supply. It’s where your baby is getting all the essential vitamins and nutrients for a strong, healthy body! I’ve started using Mother’s Breakfast in almost everything - oatmeal, smoothies, teas and coffees. Some of its ingredients include turmeric, fenugreek, ginger, cumin, cardamom and nutmeg. 

Majka Bites - I’m OBSESSED with these delicious lactation cookies. They are by far the best lactation cookies I’ve ever had. They are made from entirely natural ingredients and superfoods like chia seeds, coconut, and flaxseed. I take them with me everywhere!

Breastfeeding mamas, what are some of your must-have foods and ingredients? Share with me on Facebook using #PhilosophieMama or #PhilosophieLove.

 

Recipe Round-up: 5 Superfood Packed Packable Lunches

The boys are back in school and I’m feeling this major energy shift to get back to hustlin’. This calls for all the potent, nutrient-dense lunches full of all the delicious superfoods I could ever need. Philosophie Babe, Marissa Cohen, scoured our Philosphie recipe database for some of our all-time packable favs.


While we’re still soaking up every last bit of the summer sun, fall is just around the corner. Making the transition back to school, college, and work schedules can be stressful. Packing a nourishing lunch is a great way to fuel your day and give yourself something to look forward to before that mid-afternoon lull. Here are my top 5 packable Philosophie superfood lunches to enjoy all week long.

Monday – Winter Superfood Salad

Start your week off right with this delicious salad. With a hearty mix of veggies, wild rice, eggs, and a delicious Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend infused balsamic dressing, this salad will keep you satisfied through your busiest afternoons.


Gather This:

FOR THE SALAD

2 cups organic mixed greens

1 cup cooked black wild rice

1 soft boiled egg

4-5 slices of cucumber

1 spoonful of sauerkraut

S + P

FOR THE DRESSING

¼ cup olive oil

2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar

1 teaspoon Green Dream Superfood + Protein Powder

S + P


Do This:

Toss all of your salad ingredients into a large bowl. In a separate bowl, gently whisk all of your wet ingredients together until the dressing emulsifies. Add extra salt, pepper, additional olive oil, or vinegar as needed! Toss your salad + dressing, and devour!


Tuesday – Empty the Fridge Curry

Batch cooking is a must for busy weeks. This curry recipe uses whatever you have on hand for a flavorful, wholesome meal. It is perfect lunch as we transition into the cooler autumn months. From an energetic perspective, root vegetables and spices like turmeric and ginger have grounding properties to keep you calm during stressful days at the desk.


Gather This:

4 cans coconut milk

3 sweet potatoes

1 parsnip

2 C carrots

2 C green beans

1 C snap peas

1 medium white onion

3 small squash

S + P

1 ½ tsps crushed garlic

1 inch fresh ginger (chopped)

Pinch of garam masala, tumeric + cumin

Bragg's Sea Kelp Seasoning

Curry leaves

1 tsp Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend


Do This:

Add all ingredients (vegetables, milk, then spices) to a crockpot and cook on high for approximately 4 hours. After your curry's cooked, add the Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend, serve up in your favorite bowl, and ENJOY!

Wednesday – Green Dream Quinoa Stuffed Bell Peppers

This one will make your co-workers jealous. Stuffed peppers are simple and delicious. Try making this recipe for dinner one night and bringing the leftovers the next day.


Gather This:

4 bell peppers

4 C quinoa or rice (cooked)

½ C chopped onion

10 cloves garlic, minced

1 tbsp Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend (divided)

S + P (to taste)

Cheese (optional)


Do This:

Preheat oven to 375 degrees fahrenheit. Sauté garlic and onions in a splash of olive or coconut oil then mix in the quinoa and add the seasonings to taste. Cut off the top of the bell peppers and remove any seeds. Stuff the bell peppers with quinoa mix, cover with foil and bake for 10 mins. Then uncover and bake for 15 more mins. Add cheese when desired, while baking for golden brown, or immediately after pulling out from oven. Finish with a sprinkle with Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend.

Thursday – Zoodle Pesto Pasta

Who doesn’t love pasta? This Zoodle Pesto Pasta is full of fiber, plant based protein, and healthy fats, unlike traditional boxed pasta. Get creative and add toppings like hemp seeds, herbs, sun-dried tomatoes, pine nuts, and tempeh to suit your liking.


Gather This:

2 zucchinis (one per person for zoodles)

1/4 C olive oil

3/4 C cashews

1/2 C pine nuts

1 C basil

2 T water

1 T nutritional yeast

1 tsp Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend

1 clove of garlic

1 tsp garlic powder (optional)

1 tsp sea salt

1 tsp Bragg's Organic Sea Kelp Delight (optional)

1 tsp hemp seeds for seasoning

 

Do This:

Cut both ends off of the zucchini. Follow the directions for your spiralizer and transform your zucchini into thin ribbons, placing the final product into two large bowls. Mix all of the pesto ingredients in a high-speed blender. If the mixture isn’t incorporating properly, feel free to add more water and/or olive oil to get things moving. Divide the pesto sauce evenly amongst the “pasta” and stir it all together! Optional (but delicious) toppings include: hemp seeds, herbs, sun-dried tomatoes, pine nuts, and tempeh!


Friday – Brain Boosting Smoothie

On days when you can’t be bothered to chop or roast veggies (we feel you), depend on your blender. Smoothies are a great meal replacement if they have the right balance of carbohydrates, protein, and healthy fats to sustain you. This Brain Boosting Smoothie checks all of the boxes. Chocolate for lunch is perfectly acceptable when it comes from our high-vibe Cacao Magic Superfood + Protein Blend. Make it even more delicious with an extra spoonful of one of the Philosophie coconut butters for extra brain power.


Gather This:

1 C nut milk

1 frozen banana

2-3 T chopped walnuts

1 T Cacao Magic Superfood + Protein Blend

1 T coconut oil

1 T unsweetened coconut flakes

1 tsp Cacao Bee Honey

1 tsp cinnamon

Two handfuls ice

Organic pomegranate seeds, cacao nibs, or chopped walnuts (for toppings)


Do This:

Add all ingredients (except your toppings) to a high-speed blender and blend until creamy and smooth. If it’s too thick, add a bit more nut milk. Pour into your favorite glass, add your toppings, and enjoy!



We hope these lunch ideas inspire you as much as they excite us. If you make any of these recipes or create your own Philosophie-infused lunchbox meals, be sure to tag us on social media and use #philosophielove!

Blackberry Bliss Waffle Toast

We’ve decided. Waffle Toasts are the official morning boost over here at Philosophie! We’ve been luh-luh-loving them! Give me a delicious grain-free waffle smothered in Philosophie superfoods any day.

This delectably dark beauty is loaded with our Berry Bliss Superfood + Protein Blend and Coyo Coconut Yogurt for some high-vibe nutrients to power you through the day. Did you know that our Berry Bliss Blend contains camu camu which is one of the world’s most abundant forms of vitamin C? Amazing! I have this immunity-booster on the daily.

If you’re still recovering from the weekend out in the sun like me then this little snack creation is just the answer!


Gather This:

1 Kitchfix Grain-free Waffle

1/2 cup Coyo Coconut Yogurt

1 tsp Berry Bliss Superfood + Protein Blend

1 tsp Berry Bee Honey

A handful of smashed organic blackberries

1/2 cup Kitchfix Grain-free Granola

Organic Blackberries

Bee Pollen


Do This:

Toast waffle. In a bowl, mix the coconut yogurt, Berry Bliss Superfood + Protein Blend + Berry Bee Honey. Add in smashed blackberries to create the beautiful purple color. Spread mixture on the toasted waffle and top with a sprinkling of granola, blackberries and bee pollen. ENJOY!

How do you cleanse your body after a weekend away? Share your superfood recipes with me on Instagram using #PhilosophieLove or #PhilosophieSuperfoods.

Honoring the New Moon in Virgo

Hi, loves! Dropping by with a little note to welcome you to this magical New Moon AND Jewish New Year. The mystic event occurs in the house of Virgo and let me tell you, it’s a special one. This is all about really centering yourself and beginning to do the work you've been avoiding. The time is now.

Are there dreams you're longing for or a future you aspire to create? This cycle is calling on you to make definite steps toward this goal and put in the work. This past season was a time of shedding and as we welcome fall we enter a season of growth and rebirth. 

New Moons are full of delicious potent energy even though the sky is dark and clouded, it’s a time of creation and intention as you prepare for the upcoming moon cycle. Representative of fertility, the New Moon births dreams and goals into the front of your mind. It's a time to nest and bring in organization to your home and work space. New Moon energy is more introverted so use this grounded Earth energy to create your sanctuary. How do you want it to feel from the inside out? Make your home this space.

A New Moon is a time to create your visions, setting new intentions and manifest. Look internally and come to terms with what's blocking you and holding you back. What do you need to release? It's time to expand. Raise your frequency and step up into the goddess self you’re meant to be. It begs a magical moon ritual to honor the occasion.

NEW MOON RITUAL

This ritual is all about setting intentions for what you’d like to learn, create, see or experience in this moon cycle. What do you want to see come to fruition over the coming month?

Here are some of my favorite New Moon ritual essentials:

Candles: sets the stage + environment by bringing in calming energy

Crystals/Stones: set out any crystals/stones that call you in this upcoming cycle; a Virgo set includes: Smoky Quartz (grounding), Dumortierite (create order), Pink Calcite (call in love), Amazonite (calmness), and Unakite (remove blockages)

Sage/Palo Santo: cleansing energy and creates a sacred space in your moon circle

Moon Deck: pull for setting intentions or clearing your mind and raising any thoughts + emotions that you need to release

Journal + pen: free-form writing, or journal about questions, thoughts, or intentions that arise during your ritual

Tea or water: sip on a herbal tea with Philosophie honey or a warm cup of water with lemon

Tip: you can find most of my favorite must-haves in our Magic Moon Satchel for you babes!

NEW MOON IN VIRGO

This New Moon rests in the house of Virgo, the goddess herself. Virgo allows us to tap into the gifts that make us unique. It’s a time of unbounded self-love and truly honoring our inner selves. This New Moon is all about reminding us of the powerful, beautiful goddess that exists in all of us.

I’m a Virgo rising. My husband, Adi, and Kai are both Virgos as are my step-mom and many of my best friends. Since I’m an earthy Taurus in sun and moon, I really feel at home and comforted when Virgo moves into cycle. It brings out all the love and support that surrounds me.

Tap into that powerful Virgo energy! Leave space for your vision and have the confidence to conquer any obstacles in your way. What new opportunities and successes are you actively calling on and working towards? Whatever you choose to put your focus on, you will have the energy of this New Moon to power and ignite you.

Virgo energy is one that thrives off of the natural and organic, making it a delicious time to really nourish yourself inward and outwardly. Pay special attention to each meal you create and give it a little love with Philosophie superfoods. Daily self-care will also give you the focus + love needed to shape strong intentions for this next cycle.

Ask yourself: Have you been putting your wellbeing and self-love first?

To harness the magic of the New Moon, this honest reflection is how you can truly show up to create the life you want as well as be there for others to your fullest capacity.

How do you plan to celebrate and honor tomorrow’s New Moon in Virgo? Let me know on Facebook using #PhilosophieLove or #MyPhilosophie.

Chlorophyll Green Dream Tonic Recipe

Sometimes coffee and caffeinated teas are too much for the system, but I think we can all agree that we all love something warm and soothing to wake us up. It’s a necessity to go on about the day. When I’m fretful of a caffeinated buzz I turn to warm tonics filled with superfoods and adaptogens to give me the gentle push I need.


Chlorophyll powder is a great detoxification supplement for your body and is used to regenerate your system and get it back on track. A great choice for a pick-me-up after a night out. Spirulina, the start ingredient in our Green Dream blend, is loaded with protein and is a great source of beta-carotene. It’s a delicious supplement for weight-loss.


Enjoy this elixir on slow mornings when you’re in need of a mental and physical reset.


Gather This:

1 cup Vita Coco pressed coconut water

1 tsp Green Bee Honey

1 scoop collagen

1 tsp Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend

1 tsp Tocos

1 tsp Chlorophyll


Do This:

Blend all ingredients in a blender, enjoy! To warm, heat on stove top.

What tonics do you turn to when your body needs a physical reset? Share with us on Twitter using #PhilosophieSuperfoods or #PhilosophieLove.

Cooking with Brandless

As a busy mama with a newborn and two boys running around our home, it’s hard to find meals I can easily cook that are well-balanced and loaded with nutrients. I love brands that make it super simple and offer the best ingredients for my family.

We recently tried out Brandless, an online grocery hub that offers all the food and household items you could ever need. The best part about it is their organic, sustainable and eco-conscious items are actually AFFORDABLE. It’s a dream. 

We decided to have a quinoa bowl dinner night with the kiddos and Adi. Brandless made it super easy because everything was delivered to my doorstep at a fraction of normal pricing. We added roasted almonds, cranberries, chickpeas and a delicious teriyaki sauce all from Brandless. When I say “we” I actually just mean Kai, let’s be honest, he’s turning into the chef in our house. I’m NOT complaining.

Their website is really simple to find exactly what we're looking for and you can even search for vegan, cruelty-free, tree-free or gluten-free options. Whatever your vibe is, they got you!

Also, they offer sustainable and biodegradable household items like toilet paper and tableware. They also sell personal care items and office supplies. It’s truly a one-stop-shop. I highly encourage all you busy mamas out there to check it out - it’s a life saver!

We finished the night with the most delectable gluten-free brownies (all ingredients courtesy of Brandless) for dessert for Kai’s birthday!

Have you tried Brandless? I’d love to hear what meals you made with their items! Share with me on Instagram using #PhilosophieLove or #PhilosophieMama.



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