Being a Happy, Healthy, Kind Mommy: it's a Balancing Act

As the coming months approach, I will again, be a new momma. My second baby boy will be born into the world. This brings much joy, excitement, love, appreciation and gratitude into my body. It also, unfortunately, brings a tinge of anxiety for many moms.

This post is all about exposing my secrets on "how I do it all" and still (attempt) to stay happy, healthy and kind. I hope this helps any of you weary about mommyhood and starting a family. I also hope this helps those of you that are struggling as moms and not quite sure how to find the time to be your best self. Philosophie Sophie is here to help!

 

Balancing Mommy Secret #1

You can't do it all. Take help when it's offered. Oh, AND, you need sleep.

For some reason mamas and papas just accept the fact that they won't sleep for the first two years or so (I've heard 5 from some parents! eek!). That's NOT an option in my world! In the first few months of a new baby being in your life, they need you ALL the time. They must nurse every few hours, they need a diaper change constantly and they need to bond with you. They have higher piles of dirty clothes than you do and you've already run out of diapers before you can blink twice. So where does sleep fit in?

For the first 6 months, my husband did at LEAST one night time feeding. It was calculated with the intention of me getting more sleep. So, let's say I did one last feeding at 9p, baby would be up again in 2-3 hours crying and hungry- that would be dads turn (or grandmas, best friends, etc). He would do the whole routine, feed him a bottle (of pumped breast milk), change him and tuck him into bed. I would sleep this entire time-until the following feeding-peacefully and soundly with earplugs shoved into both ears. By the time the next feeding came, I'd practically jump into my baby's moses basket to snatch him up because I had so much energy. Then we'd go back to sleep for a few hours and I'd be nearing 8 hours with barely any effort, and a bonus nap a few hours into the day if I wanted it! ALLOW people to help you. INSIST your husband/significant other participates in a REAL way.

When people want to bring you food, let them. When they ask if they can help at all, say yes. Have people help with laundry, cleaning the house, watching the baby for 1 hour while you get a nap/walk/shower/anything. Take care of your needs, you'll be taking care of that baby's for the next lifetime!

Secret #2, Breath: Yoga.

 Take time to go inward. To meditate, to breath, to journal.

It's so important to reflect on what's going on in your heart, mind and body. You just had a CHILD! You brought a LIVING, BREATHING HUMAN into this planet. It's time to open up and see what's going on inside.

If you don't practice yoga, purchase a yoga DVD online and get moving! Find a patch of carpet in your home when the baby is napping or in the swing and take some time for yourself. Even 25 minutes of yoga can shift your entire day energetically. It will bring bonus happiness that the physical body slims down while you're taking care of your spiritual self.

I went to a yoga class at my gym at least 2-3 times a week because they have a kids club/babysitting in the gym. I HIGHLY recommended looking into this amenity when selecting a gym to join. Often when Kai was still super little they would come get me halfway through class because he needed me, but I didn't care, I appreciated every minute I had to myself.

Secret #3: Pamper Mama.

Get manicures, pedicures, massages, facials. Have your best friend come give you a foot rub. Have your hubby give you a full body rub down. You DESERVE to take care of yourself, to love yourself, to indulge. I think I've gotten more treatments in the past 20 months then I ever did before. A 45 minute trip to the nail salon can turn out to be the best decision you've made all month. When they ask if you want 10 more minutes for a foot/shoulder/whatever rub, say "YES"! You are nurturing another human 24/7, responsible for that person, giving giving and giving some more.... the least you can do is nurture the source of all that energy. My sister is an amazing massage therapist if anyone that lives in LA wants to take advantage of her healing powers. Let me know and I'll hook it up :)

Secret #4: Get a good wrap/carrier

A big help in mommyland is having a good carrier to tote bebe around with you wherever you go.

I worked from home the first 6 months in the kitchen with Kai on me. I used the moby a LOT in the beginning and switched over to the Butterfly 2 later on when he got heavier. I STILL use the Butterfly 2 and he's almost 2 years old! It can be used on the front facing you (which is supposed to be better for baby then facing out) and it can also be used as a backpack with baby on your back. This allowed me the freedom to go for hikes and run errands without dealing with a hefty stroller. Plus, you have the added bonus of bonding with your baby while they are on you, listening to you talk, feeling your body heat, etc. I highly recommend purchasing a sling/pak/carrier from the wonderful mommy I bought mine from at paxbaby.com. She's extremely knowledgeable and has 5 children herself (wow!) so knows a thing or two about it! She will also custom make your sling for you with special patterns you get to chose!

Secret #5: Balance mommyhood and livelihood

 Your life now contains a baby, your life is NOT a baby.

Sometimes you may feel like your entire BEING is being a momma. That life is all things baby and that's the way it's going to be for years to come.

With a few really easy steps, you too can feel like there's more to life than diaper changes and playdates.

1) Find a babysitter you love and GET OUT! You need time to yourself. You need to meet up with friends for lunch/coffee/juice/yoga and NOT have your tot with you. Especially later when the baby has set naps, you don't want to selfishly screw up their day so that you can see your friends... so having a sitter take care of babes helps. Run errands, do some work, go for a long walk in nature, whatever you need to feel like YOU again. I promise, you won't regret leaving them for a few hours once you just GO!

2) Schedule Date-nights: my hubby and I schedule once a week date nights. It's imperative we schedule this in because if we don't, weeks will pass and we won't take that special time for us. Sometimes it's something bomb like a concert and other times it's just dinner at our favorite sushi place or a movie. Regardless, we see each other, outside of the house, and have time to bond as two lovers and friends, not just as mommy and daddy. (although I must admit we probably talk about Kai the majority of the time and share pics and videos!) We also schedule time with couple friends, groups of friends and our family as often as we can so we can feel connected to our loved ones.

Secret # 6: SLEEP TRAIN YOUR CHILD!

I can't say enough about this! At 6 months, we sleep trained Kai. After two days of letting him "cry it out" (there are several techniques, we chose this one) he was trained. For over 15 months now, he has slept through every single night (unless he was sick/teething) for 11 HOURS STRAIGHT. He is a happy, joyful, rested child and I owe this to his sleep. Get books, do research and figure out what's best for you and your baby.

Secret #7: Be Present

When you're with baby, try and be as present as possible. At the dinner table, keep phones away. When you're spending one on one time or time as a family, try to stay in the moment. Kids can feel when you're not connected and really love it when you are. Obviously you'll have to take a phone call here and there and connect to the outside world, but just be sure when you're giving time to your little one that you're doing the best you can to give them all of you. If you're balancing your time by pampering yourself, journaling, getting enough sleep and exercising, you should be more than happy to give a few hours to your sweet love!

Being a mama is no doubt a balancing act. But part of being a wonderful mother is being a wonderful person. You can't be a person in the universe if you never take time for YOU and the things you love. So we adapt! Love to hike? Strap that baby onto your body! Love to practice yoga? find a gym that watches babies. Want to be a working mommy? Find a sitter you absolutely love and trust and get your hubby on board to help when he can. It can ALL be done, being a happy mommy, wife, friend and careerwoman...  you just need to take the time to dream it into reality (and get creative!). Journal, reflect and connect to your truest and best self as often as you can to stay centered and true to you. Everyone around you will notice the difference, I promise!

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6 Wellness Essentials for Your Handbag

When you’re nesting at home, you have your comforting oasis of apothecary bottles, superfood treats, and swoon-worthy prints of uplifting mantras. But the moment you step out the door into the hustle and bustle of the outside world, it helps to have more than your keys, wallet, and smartphone–especially if you’re trying your best to maintain zen vibes throughout the whole day. To help you stay on top of your wellness game while you’re doing the 9-5, are at the gym, or on the subway, make sure you’ve got these 6 must-haves on standby in your favorite tote or handbag.

1) Organic Lip Balm

We’ve all been there. You’ve left the house and realize your lips are chapped and badly in need of some TLC–and the kicker is you won’t be home for hours. While ducking into the drugstore is always an option, it helps to have your favorite coconut or mango butter balm on hand to instantly smooth things over and have you ready for any kisses that might be coming your way.

2) Nourishing Snack

Nothing derails a clean eating plan like ravenous hunger. Always have a wholesome, protein-packed snack tucked into your bag (like an Elemental SeedBar, a DIY trail mix of goji berries and almonds, a few spoonfuls of coconut butter saved in a small container, or a baggie of spirulina kale chips) to hold you over until your next meal and save you from caving for a cheese-covered pretzel.

3) Bottle of Essential Oil

When your inbox is out of control, your desk a mess, and your stress levels on the rise, a quick reset is essential. Keep a mini bottle of a revitalizing scent that’ll whisk you away to a serene state of mind while you take a breather and find balance. A drop or two of lavender, peppermint, or rose essential oil can work wonders, especially if you pair it with a 5 or 10 minute meditation.

4) Lucky Crystal

Carry a crystal or gemstone with you throughout your day to serve as a lucky charm and also remove any old or negative energy you may be holding. If you’re placing it in your prized handbag (or one that is especially delicate), it’s best to use a tumbled crystal that’s smooth and shaped like a small skipping stone. Plus, they’re so lovely to hold!

5) Extra Hair Tie

Whether you’re prone to busting out handstands wherever you feel like it (the yoga studio, the park, or the steps of your bank–why not?), are one to do an impromptu workout, or just happen to be at a happy hour that turns into a dance party, a hair tie is a must for no-holds-barred flowing, spinning, lifting, moving, dancing, or sheer living.

6) Your Favorite Jam

Find the song that makes you feel like you can take on the world and make sure that it’s downloaded on your phone. Even if you find yourself in a spot with no service, you can still summon the power of music to put you into a carpe diem, “life is beautiful” mood.

Sophie’s 6 Tips on Starting Up Your Own Company

More than anything, I LOVE supporting people in making their mark on the world. And I know that we’re best at sharing our incredible gifts + talents when we’re full of energy, which is why I created Philosophie. Today, I’m sharing six tips I’ve learned while building my company that I hope will help all of you incredible entrepreneurs in our Philosophie Tribe!

1 When inspiration strikes or you have that “a-ha!” moment, take it and RUN WITH IT.

Philosophie began with me simply wishing that I could have an amazing blend of superfoods and proteins together in one, convenient jar. I didn’t want to run out of camu camu or another individual ingredient and then feel like my smoothie wasn’t complete, so I went all over LA searching for high quality, fair-trade, organic superfoods and began packing them into mason jars and little bags. Hoping to share the magic of superfoods with others, I then started giving the blends to friends and family and making everyone workout and nutrition guides.

One day, I was in the sea in Tel Aviv with my husband, Adi, and he turned to me and said, “You should really grow what you’re doing and share it with more people, make it a company.” And since that day, Philosophie has blossomed into something much bigger than I had ever imagined. Our products have helped everyone from George Clooney to my own dad and are continuing to help so many more people discover wellness and feel as vibrant + alive as they can.

2) There’s no need to get overwhelmed at the thought of creating your own business–break everything down into BABY STEPS.

Once I got home from Israel, I started simple. What did I want to call my company? After I created the name “The Philosophie,” I got the domain for my website. Then I ordered business cards. From there, I created free events on Meetup.com so I could make treats in my kitchen and introduce superfoods to new people.

While some days, it may seem like you have 500 things you need to do all at once, simply take a deep breath, find a notepad, and write down the top 3 things you want to tackle that day or week. Baby steps every day lead to miles over time.

3) Stay authentic to your vision and mission.

Build a dream team and support system that lights you up with energy. Work with brands and people that align with your overall vision. Co-create magic with others who have the same values and principles as you. Don't say yes to everything. The moment you don’t love something, stop to think about how you can either pivot or let go.

5) Slow and steady wins the race.

I never brought in an investor, which made it really hard to build quickly, so I often feel like the tortoise of the tortoise and the hare. However, moving slower helps me also do things with greater intention, so that everything I do is right for Philosophie and right for me. It’s definitely been a blessing in disguise! 

3) Create a gratitude journal to track your wins, whether it’s talking to a new person about your company or making your first sale!

Having your own business can definitely feel frustrating or like a constant uphill battle, but when you carve out 5 minutes to reflect on what’s going right and what you HAVE accomplished, you’ll see how far you’ve come and also how limitless your potential truly is!

6) Balance your personal life and your business.

This is SO important. To avoid burn-out, you must find and draw boundaries. You have to actively plan out personal time. Take out your calendar and choose time that is for self-care and time for friends and family. Weekends are sacred, and I usually don't work on them at all if i can avoid it. I work when my kids are at school and then be really present in the afternoon and evenings until they go to sleep–then I go back to work or spending time with my hubby! You’ll always be more productive and more successful when you feel well-rested, fully nourished, and full of love.

 

Are you thinking of starting your own company? Or are you an entrepreneur with amazing tips for others? Comment on our Facebook page and tell me what you’re working on!

Berry Melon Collagen Smoothie Recipe

If you like beautifying smoothies, you’ll love this berry melon drink featuring collagen. By adding it to my morning smoothies on a daily basis, it gives my skin a glow, combats inflammation, and is also a natural anti-ager. As a busy mama, I will take all the help I can get when trying to look and feel my best!

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For this smoothie, I also wanted to include healthy fats by blending in our Coconut Bliss Coco Butter and this yummy Berry Almond Butter from Jem Organics. To top it all off, I added in tocos! This magical ingredient not only gives smoothies their creamy texture, but is also exceptional for your skin and connective tissue!

 

Gather This:

 

Do This:

Blitz all ingredients in a high-speed blender, pour into a beautiful glass, and top with your favorite superfoods!


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Berry Bliss Vegan Cheesecake Recipe

As the weather starts to warm as we move closer to summer, I start to crave super light, cool treats to top off a nourishing dinner. These raw, vegan Berry Bliss Cheesecakes made with wholesome ingredients hit the spot EVERY time.  

I love the crispy crust on pies and cakes, so I created a guilt-free version by combining raw nuts, dates, and coconut. Not only is this crust absolutely delicious, it's also full of fiber and essential minerals!

To make a vegan "cheese" filling, cashews are my go-to! Once they've been soaked for 1 hour, they can be blended into a beautiful cream that tastes delicious once whipped up with lemon juice, Cacao Bee Honey, coconut oil, vanilla, Berry Bliss, and a dash of sea salt. 

Finally, frozen berries and dates make for a divine sauce to spread on top of your cheesecake, before pilling on fresh berries + bee pollen! 

Makes: 24 slivers of a large pie (or 4 smaller pies with 6 slices)

Gather This: 

 For the Crust:

  • 2 cups raw macadamia nuts OR a blend of almonds, walnuts, and pecans
  • 1/2 cup dates, pitted
  • 1/4 cup dried coconut

 

For the Filling:

  • 3 cups chopped cashews, soaked for at least 1 hour
  • 3/4 cup lemon juice (or lime juice –I used limequats for this!)
  • 3/4 cup Cacao Bee Honey
  • 3/4 cup coconut oil
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla
  • 1 teaspoon Berry Bliss Superfood + Protein Blend
  • 1/2 teaspoon celtic sea salt (optional)

 

For the Berry Sauce:

  • 1 bag frozen raspberries (or blackberries/strawberries)
  • 1/2 cup dates

 

For the Toppings:

  • fresh berries of your choice
  • bee pollen

 

Do This:

1) To make the crust, process the nuts and dates in the food processor. Sprinkle dried coconut onto the bottom of an 8 or 9-inch springform pan. Press crust onto the coconut (this will prevent it from sticking).

2) To make the filling, blend the cashews, lemon, honey, gently warmed coconut oil (don't microwave it!), vanilla, sea salt, and 1/2 cup of water. Blend until smooth and adjust to taste.

3) Pour the mixture onto the crust. Remove air bubbles by tapping the pan on a table. Place in the freezer until firm. Remove the whole cake from the pan while frozen and place on a serving platter. Defrost in the refrigerator. The more defrosted it is, the better the taste will be!

4) To make the raspberry sauce, process raspberries and dates in a food processor until well blended. Don't use a blender for this or the raspberry seeds will become like sand ;) Spread the sauce on top of the cakes, sprinkle with more fresh berries, and enjoy!

 

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A Day in My Shoes!

I never know what magic my day will hold. Given my ever-changing schedule, I may be sharing the power of superfoods with new friends, teaching a vinyasa yoga class, or cooking up a storm with my two boys and hubby. 

MORNING

The first 30 minutes are when I meditate + stretch to start my day off on the right foot. I then step into the kitchen to whip up a nourishing smoothie filled with our Philosophie Superfood + Protein Blends, nut mylk, leafy greens, and a whole lotta fruit!

I then get ready – LOVE a cute pair of overalls and YOU by Skechers shoes. They’re so versatile, comfy, and cute that I can go from home to a photo shoot to a superfood demo to a beach walk with friends!

Once I drop the kids off at school, I’ll head to the gym for a HIIT workout or go for a sprint through the park, followed by a short + sweet yoga flow. From there, I’m back home to freshen up, knock out some emails, and write up a new recipe or wellness article for my blog.

AFTERNOON

For lunch, I like to really fill up with tons of nutrients so I can power through the afternoon. If I’m at home, I’ll toss up a huge salad the size of my head, with tons of fresh greens and sprouted nuts and seeds. If I am getting something on the go, I love Fala Bar in L.A. for their yummy veggie burgers. 

Afternoon’s are for creative brainstorms when I meet up my team or collaborate with wildly gifted photographers or friends, who have their own amazing companies. A lot of the times, I’m on my feet – especially if I’m doing a Facebook Live to share a new recipe, demoing how to use our superfoods, or teaching a yoga or HIIT class! Afterwards, I’ll pick up the kiddos, help them with their homework, make a wholesome snack, or do some yoga on the lawn together – they love poses like Warrior 1 and “Airplane”!


EVENING

For dinner, I’ll make our family grilled salmon or a filling soup, and lots of greens and roasted veggies. Since I have such a sweet tooth, we’ll also have a heavenly dessert like vegan ice cream or chia pudding.

If there’s still a bit of light outside, we’ll go for an evening walk. Beyond fresh air and light exercise, these walks provide a space for togetherness and reflection that allow us to truly reconnect. I definitely think my family feels that freedom—we talk about moments in the day we’re grateful for and what our hopes are for the next!

What's a day like in YOUR shoes? Let me know on Instagram with #MyPhilosophie!

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Once my skin is nourished + happy, I make my way to bed for some calming, restorative yoga poses that helps me drift off to dreamland. 

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