Being a Happy, Healthy, Kind Mommy: it's a Balancing Act

As the coming months approach, I will again, be a new momma. My second baby boy will be born into the world. This brings much joy, excitement, love, appreciation and gratitude into my body. It also, unfortunately, brings a tinge of anxiety for many moms.

This post is all about exposing my secrets on "how I do it all" and still (attempt) to stay happy, healthy and kind. I hope this helps any of you weary about mommyhood and starting a family. I also hope this helps those of you that are struggling as moms and not quite sure how to find the time to be your best self. Philosophie Sophie is here to help!

 

Balancing Mommy Secret #1

You can't do it all. Take help when it's offered. Oh, AND, you need sleep.

For some reason mamas and papas just accept the fact that they won't sleep for the first two years or so (I've heard 5 from some parents! eek!). That's NOT an option in my world! In the first few months of a new baby being in your life, they need you ALL the time. They must nurse every few hours, they need a diaper change constantly and they need to bond with you. They have higher piles of dirty clothes than you do and you've already run out of diapers before you can blink twice. So where does sleep fit in?

For the first 6 months, my husband did at LEAST one night time feeding. It was calculated with the intention of me getting more sleep. So, let's say I did one last feeding at 9p, baby would be up again in 2-3 hours crying and hungry- that would be dads turn (or grandmas, best friends, etc). He would do the whole routine, feed him a bottle (of pumped breast milk), change him and tuck him into bed. I would sleep this entire time-until the following feeding-peacefully and soundly with earplugs shoved into both ears. By the time the next feeding came, I'd practically jump into my baby's moses basket to snatch him up because I had so much energy. Then we'd go back to sleep for a few hours and I'd be nearing 8 hours with barely any effort, and a bonus nap a few hours into the day if I wanted it! ALLOW people to help you. INSIST your husband/significant other participates in a REAL way.

When people want to bring you food, let them. When they ask if they can help at all, say yes. Have people help with laundry, cleaning the house, watching the baby for 1 hour while you get a nap/walk/shower/anything. Take care of your needs, you'll be taking care of that baby's for the next lifetime!

Secret #2, Breath: Yoga.

 Take time to go inward. To meditate, to breath, to journal.

It's so important to reflect on what's going on in your heart, mind and body. You just had a CHILD! You brought a LIVING, BREATHING HUMAN into this planet. It's time to open up and see what's going on inside.

If you don't practice yoga, purchase a yoga DVD online and get moving! Find a patch of carpet in your home when the baby is napping or in the swing and take some time for yourself. Even 25 minutes of yoga can shift your entire day energetically. It will bring bonus happiness that the physical body slims down while you're taking care of your spiritual self.

I went to a yoga class at my gym at least 2-3 times a week because they have a kids club/babysitting in the gym. I HIGHLY recommended looking into this amenity when selecting a gym to join. Often when Kai was still super little they would come get me halfway through class because he needed me, but I didn't care, I appreciated every minute I had to myself.

Secret #3: Pamper Mama.

Get manicures, pedicures, massages, facials. Have your best friend come give you a foot rub. Have your hubby give you a full body rub down. You DESERVE to take care of yourself, to love yourself, to indulge. I think I've gotten more treatments in the past 20 months then I ever did before. A 45 minute trip to the nail salon can turn out to be the best decision you've made all month. When they ask if you want 10 more minutes for a foot/shoulder/whatever rub, say "YES"! You are nurturing another human 24/7, responsible for that person, giving giving and giving some more.... the least you can do is nurture the source of all that energy. My sister is an amazing massage therapist if anyone that lives in LA wants to take advantage of her healing powers. Let me know and I'll hook it up :)

Secret #4: Get a good wrap/carrier

A big help in mommyland is having a good carrier to tote bebe around with you wherever you go.

I worked from home the first 6 months in the kitchen with Kai on me. I used the moby a LOT in the beginning and switched over to the Butterfly 2 later on when he got heavier. I STILL use the Butterfly 2 and he's almost 2 years old! It can be used on the front facing you (which is supposed to be better for baby then facing out) and it can also be used as a backpack with baby on your back. This allowed me the freedom to go for hikes and run errands without dealing with a hefty stroller. Plus, you have the added bonus of bonding with your baby while they are on you, listening to you talk, feeling your body heat, etc. I highly recommend purchasing a sling/pak/carrier from the wonderful mommy I bought mine from at paxbaby.com. She's extremely knowledgeable and has 5 children herself (wow!) so knows a thing or two about it! She will also custom make your sling for you with special patterns you get to chose!

Secret #5: Balance mommyhood and livelihood

 Your life now contains a baby, your life is NOT a baby.

Sometimes you may feel like your entire BEING is being a momma. That life is all things baby and that's the way it's going to be for years to come.

With a few really easy steps, you too can feel like there's more to life than diaper changes and playdates.

1) Find a babysitter you love and GET OUT! You need time to yourself. You need to meet up with friends for lunch/coffee/juice/yoga and NOT have your tot with you. Especially later when the baby has set naps, you don't want to selfishly screw up their day so that you can see your friends... so having a sitter take care of babes helps. Run errands, do some work, go for a long walk in nature, whatever you need to feel like YOU again. I promise, you won't regret leaving them for a few hours once you just GO!

2) Schedule Date-nights: my hubby and I schedule once a week date nights. It's imperative we schedule this in because if we don't, weeks will pass and we won't take that special time for us. Sometimes it's something bomb like a concert and other times it's just dinner at our favorite sushi place or a movie. Regardless, we see each other, outside of the house, and have time to bond as two lovers and friends, not just as mommy and daddy. (although I must admit we probably talk about Kai the majority of the time and share pics and videos!) We also schedule time with couple friends, groups of friends and our family as often as we can so we can feel connected to our loved ones.

Secret # 6: SLEEP TRAIN YOUR CHILD!

I can't say enough about this! At 6 months, we sleep trained Kai. After two days of letting him "cry it out" (there are several techniques, we chose this one) he was trained. For over 15 months now, he has slept through every single night (unless he was sick/teething) for 11 HOURS STRAIGHT. He is a happy, joyful, rested child and I owe this to his sleep. Get books, do research and figure out what's best for you and your baby.

Secret #7: Be Present

When you're with baby, try and be as present as possible. At the dinner table, keep phones away. When you're spending one on one time or time as a family, try to stay in the moment. Kids can feel when you're not connected and really love it when you are. Obviously you'll have to take a phone call here and there and connect to the outside world, but just be sure when you're giving time to your little one that you're doing the best you can to give them all of you. If you're balancing your time by pampering yourself, journaling, getting enough sleep and exercising, you should be more than happy to give a few hours to your sweet love!

Being a mama is no doubt a balancing act. But part of being a wonderful mother is being a wonderful person. You can't be a person in the universe if you never take time for YOU and the things you love. So we adapt! Love to hike? Strap that baby onto your body! Love to practice yoga? find a gym that watches babies. Want to be a working mommy? Find a sitter you absolutely love and trust and get your hubby on board to help when he can. It can ALL be done, being a happy mommy, wife, friend and careerwoman...  you just need to take the time to dream it into reality (and get creative!). Journal, reflect and connect to your truest and best self as often as you can to stay centered and true to you. Everyone around you will notice the difference, I promise!

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Heart of the Week: Athleisure

In an age of influencers, it’s so much harder to find brands you can trust and separate the truth from the sell. I’m bold and true in everything I do; if I don’t truly believe in something then I’m done with it. That said, here are a few of my all time favorite athleisure brands. They’re mostly smaller, fair trade companies that give back and empower you to be your best self. 

 

Athleta

Support fair trade businesses! Especially ones as amazing as Athleta. Everything about this brand is perfection, from their unique colors to the way their fabrics sculpt your body. You deserve to feel beautiful even when you’re lounging around eating yummy Philosophie superfood smoothie bowls.


Year of Ours

I love this brand because it’s one that I can trust. Not only are their clothes comfy and stylish, they’re all made in America by a group of boss women. They sell everything from sports bras to velour sweats, giving you a variety of chic activewear style options for any occasion. My favorite thing about Year of Ours is the way they’ve designed their clothes to fit any body type, including one that gets rounder every week!


Electric and Rose

I’m in LOVE with this athletic gear. I found them a few years ago and can confidently say at least half my wardrobe is Electric and Rose. They’ve got it all: bras, leggings, hoodies, tanks, pants, shirts and dresses. I adore their vibrant patterns and designs that bring out my energy and encourage my body to move. The co-founders are an adorable couple from Venice with a simple story and big manifestations. Small businesses are able to capture a signature look and voice that truly inspires authenticity.


Varley

As a mom-preneur myself, seeking brands with the same kind of foundermade as my own is so important to my everyday life. I go out of my way to seek brands that fit so nicely into my own beliefs and values as a social impactor. Varley was created by a young, London-based mom who fell in love with Santa Monica and wanted to blend the two worlds. She’s a mom who put so much love into her brand that Varley is now carried by retailers worldwide. She’s an inspiration and her clothes are supportive for a mama to be.


Outdoor Voices

This one is simple. They have a section for dog walking! Need I say more? They’re all about getting your body moving in any way possible no matter how small the activity is and I support any brand with that mission statement.


Here are some honorable mentions that don’t shine like the ones above, but still offer a good deal.

Lululemon

ALO

Show Me Your MuMu

Spiritual Gangster


At the end of the day, finding your athleisure brand requires listening to your body’s needs. Follow your intuition before you throw money and energy at a brand that doesn’t support you back.


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Toast 4 Ways Recipe

I’m feeling extra rejuvenated after the long weekend spent away with my family. Escaping with Adi and the boys allows us to relax and take things slow all the while making memories together in pure bliss. I always leave these trips ready to tackle the week ahead with newfound energy and ambition. Of course, I take this energy to the kitchen. There’s really no other better food base to experiment on than a warm toast. It’s the perfect canvas, especially when you still need to go grocery shopping and have to use whatever is still lying around.

A good toast is a perfect snack after a long weekend and you can make a wide variety (as I did here) for your whole family. For these toast variations we used all different spreads and toppings for whatever mood you or your family + friends are in! You can break this out after a sleepover or a workout class with the girls and everyone can mix & match! All of these toasts use Philosophie Superfoods in some form for an extra superfood + nutrient boost.


Gather This:

4 slices of toast (we love Canyon Bakehouse GF or BarelyBread)


1 tbsp Almond Butter

1 sliced banana

1 tbsp Cacao Bee Honey


2 tbsp Beet Hummus (RECIPE)

1 tbsp Trader Joe's Everything But the Bagel Seasoning 

A sprinkling of bean sprouts

Sprinkling of Berry Bliss Superfood + Protein Blend


1 tbsp Kite Hill Chive Cream Cheese

½ avocado sliced

Green Dream pesto (RECIPE)

A handful of sprouts


2 tbsp Hummus

2 roasted carrots, sliced

A handful of sprouts

1 tsp Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend


Do This:

Toast all bread.

Slather almond butter, sliced banana and a drizzle of Cacao Bee Honey on one piece of bread. Spread beet hummus, bean sprouts seasoning, and Berry Bliss Superfood + Protein Blend on the second. Add cream cheese to the third piece, a sliced avocado, a dollop of pesto, and a sprinkling of both Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend and sprouts. Lastly, spread hummus, slice the roasted carrots, and a sprinkle of sprouts and Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend.

ENJOY

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Spoiling Your Inner Valentine

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Self-love is simply about wielding your power to act from a place of kindness + respect toward your entire SELF.

So on a day all about love, how do you honor your true valentine? You spoil and treat yourself all day! Play your favorite song in the morning, wear your favorite outfit, take yourself out on a date, and above all else indulge in some sweets and self care rituals. Act as if you're having a love affair … with yourself.

Take your morning slow. Light some Palo Santo and journal a love note to yourself. Talk about your favorite physical attributes and what you’re proud of to show off. Write all of your dreams over the month + year and all the qualities you possess to accomplish these goals.

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Second: Take 1-2 tbsp Berry Bee Honey and apply to clean face for no less than 30 min.

A true lover wants to take care of you in every way possible. So take care of yourself by putting yourself first. Life is meant to be good. Crazy, sexy, ridiculously good. When you take care of yourself, everything improves dramatically and the romantic partnership, body confidence, and dream career … all come naturally.

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National PIZZA Day!

 

Today is National Pizza day and you know we're all about BALANCE here at Philosophie Superfoods, so without a doubt we're celebrating this holiday hard! Our bellies did a serious happy dance once we started noshing on this yummy combination! PLUS this stunner is loaded with tons of health benefits thanks to the addition of Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend, arugula and cauliflower. 

 

Check out this majorly flavorful gluten-free/dairy free Superfood Pesto Pizza, and let us know what you think!

 

Gather This:
1 Cauliflower crust plain or with toppings on (extra credit for making your own!)
1 batch of roasted cauliflower florets
1 cup sauce of your choice (we love Rao's)
Shredded good quality cheese or a dairy free blend (Daiya makes a great vegan option)
a handful of arugula
Philosophie Green Dream Pesto: recipe
drizzle of Truffle oil (optional)
salt + pepper to taste

 

Do This:
Roast Cauliflower florets on 400 for 15 minutes, take out and set aside once cooked. Cook pizza crust according to directions. Spread on sauce, sprinkle of cheese and cook until melted. While thats in the oven, whip up our favorite Green Dream Pesto recipe found here: Take pizza out of the oven and let it cool for a few minutes. Top with cooked Cauliflower, fresh Arugula, pesto, (optional truffle oil drizzle too for extra noms!) a sprinkling of Green Dream, S+P! enjoy!
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New Moon in Aquarius

We’re anxiously preparing ourselves for the New Moon in Aquarius on February 15th. What will happen?

The moon is born again preparing for her new cycle. It’s a time to set intentions for the next cycle. Each New Moon offers the space to tap into a new version of ourselves and depending on the sign it lies in you can experience different versions of yourself and reach into the dark corners of your soul to better bring them into the light.

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The mission of the New Moon Workbook is to give you a monthly check in, and a reminder that anything you want is possible. The Workbook’s intention is to hold space for the parts of you that need healing and light shone on them. When we can truly witness every part of us, we can love every part of us. With this love, anything is possible and you become the true designer of your destiny.

Set the space and pair this workbook with our Magic Moon Satchels. You can purchase the workbook at: bit.ly/newmoonsophie  

Photo by Spirit Daughter

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Body Bliss Collard Green Wraps Recipe

I’ve been all about self-care lately. Growing little baby girl inside me has offered the space to reflect and take time to care for my body deeply. I want to make the perfect little home for her and that starts with taking the best care of myself. Daily naps, exercising, beauty + skin treatments, and an endless supply of yummy nutritious food.

Philosophie Babe, Amrit-Sadhan from Body Bliss Life created this amazing green recipe, which not only satisfies you, but also includes ingredients that help keep your body moving and glowing on the outside.

Coupling collard wraps with peppers, carrots, tempeh and mint leaves is a perfect lunch when you’re starting to feel a mid-day crash. I love reaching for extra veggies during the day as I’m usually bouncing from place to place and need all that extra fuel. Drizzled on top is a peanut sauce made of organic peanut butter, Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend and Green Bee Honey. Philosophie Green Dream superfoods are made with chlorophyll, which is basically ingesting liquid gold; super good for your digestive system + body.


Gather This:

1 cup quinoa

1 bunch collard greens

1 red, yellow or orange bell pepper

2 carrots

2 handfuls fresh mint leaves

8 oz tempeh

2 T coconut amino acids


GREEN DREAM PEANUT SAUCE:

1/4 cup organic peanut butter

2 T toasted sesame oil

2 T rice wine vinegar

2 T coconut amino acids

1 tsp Green Bee Honey

1 tsp Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend

1 clove of garlic, grated

1 tsp fresh ginger, grated


Do This:

Preheat your oven to 350.. Slice the tempeh into 1/4 inch slices and lie on a parchment lined cookie sheet. Drizzle with coconut amino acids and place in the oven. Bake for 20-25 minutes until golden on the edges.

In a small bowl whisk together all the ingredients for the peanut sauce and set aside. If the peanut sauce is too thick for your liking, add a bit of filtered water.

Wash and dry the collard greens. Take a knife and carefully cut the stem off. Thinly slice the bell pepper and shred the carrots.

To assemble the rolls: lie the collard green out on a clean cutting board. Place a large spoonful of cooked quinoa, 2 sliced of tempeh, a few bell peppers, carrots and mint into the center of the leaf. Tuck both sides over the filling and roll

These can be made several days ahead of time and stored in an airtight container in the refrigerator. If you don’t like tempeh you could use tofu or leave it out completely.


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