En route to Mexico, to the beautiful city of San Miguel…
Adi and I had just boarded our flight. We were sitting side by side, took our shoes off and ordered some wine, and began to realize how long it had been since we flew alone for complete pleasure, and not for business. SIX years!
Usually, we take mini trips closer to our home in LA. And when we go on staycation adventures, we tend to check into our hotel at the very last minute to make it as easy as possible for my sister or parents (who end up watching our kiddies). That way they don't have as many hours before *the bedtime routine* and their typical 11-12 hours of sleep time. We drop them off right before bed, and quickly go to a dinner, go out dancing, or whatever the plans are without an ounce of wiggle room for RELAXATION and nothingness.
So when Adi and I flew 3 hours away, drove another 1 1/2 hours, changed time zones, went across international territory.... Oh did we feel FAR. And although it was a bit anxiety provoking, the kids were 111% FINE. The thing about young kids is that there really isn't a strong concept of time. A day, an hour, 4 days, it's all just in the moment and pure presentness. (so jealous!)
Once we forgave ourselves and connected to how desperately we needed this, we began to LET GO and sink into each other.
We slept in every morning, we stayed up LATE catching up on tv shows we love but never get to watch, we made love, we read for pleasure side by side, we laughed, we went to long drawn out dinners without having to check our phones every 25 min for the sitter, we were PRESENT.
I also got to connect with my friends in a whole different way. I can’t really remember the last time I had several days to completely unwind WITH my girlfriends, and escape work mode. Sometimes I get a long afternoon or maybe even an "indulgent" full day with them in Venice or at the Korean spa, but to have 24 hours straight of a day to play, laugh, drink, eat, connect, take photos, discuss our lives without child interruptions .... Wow. Again, something you don't have SPACE to miss in a real way when you're in your normal routines. Now that I've done it successfully (with the incredible help of my sister who made the whole thing possible) I'm sure I will be more open to traveling in the future. I look forward to being a "Sophie" again, not just momma Sophie, and wife of Adi, and not just co-parent + roomie for a nice long weekend.
I guess you just don't realize how badly you need something until it's in your lap. Thanks, universe for connecting the dots so I could experience the awe, color and beauty of Mexico with close friends by my side. And and even bigger thank you for reintroducing me to my husband who was there the whole time.
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