Finding Light Within the Darkness

It is not an easy time. I am not well, nor will I pretend to be. Deep deep breath. Holy wow. Shock. Awe. Prayer. I’m doing my absolute best to understand what I can + trust what I don't that there's a greater plan. I haven't stopped crying but I will continue to do my work. I will continue to show up, to my job, my children, my soul, now more than ever. I'm trying to adult, but it's not easy. I'm trying to stop crying but it feels impossible not to feel the pain. I'm also trying to keep in mind that no great change has ever come from comfort.

Sending peace to everyone near + far, black + white, old + young, fortunate + less, educated + less, liberal + conservative. I hope for peace + understanding. I hope for much much more love {not blindly, but with much work + showing up consistently to one another} and for MANY uncomfortable conversations to promote bridging the gap the best we can. Starting now.

All great changes are preceded by chaos." -Deepak Chopra

I’m deeply saddened that hate has been given hope. As Californians and liberals, we live in a bubble that truly isn’t the reality that reflects what the true American values. As a whole, we are not ready. We are not ready to support a female president. We are not ready to let go of prejudice and hate. We are just not all there yet. I feel deeply saddened by the stark realization of this fact. My little angels went with their abba to the polls. They were so excited to vote for the first female president, and I was heartbroken to tell them what our next 4 years will look like now. I can’t even conjure an image in my brain of how this movie will play out. This feels like a nightmare; a bad dream. I wake up every morning hungover with grief.

“Black and brown people have been talking about racism, sexism, white privilege, class and gender inequality for some time now. Black men, boys and women have been getting shot in the street due to fear and stereotypes. Black and brown parents have had to tell their children on the daily exactly what you feared having to tell your kids on November 9th - that things don't always work out in your favor, good doesn't always trump bad, and you will be judged by things other than the content of your character. This is not new information for many of us, nor is the fact that the rust belt and a majority of white men and women voted for a candidate whose campaign overtly endorsed xenophobia and hate.

So what now? We need to start collectively addressing the underlying issues in a real way and not just pay lip service with outrage for a few weeks. Speak up when you see mistreatment of minority groups, get involved in local and state government, get informed on issues that may not directly "affect you," talk to people on a different path than yours, cultivate empathy, teach your children all these things. Wash, lather, rinse, repeat.”

-Priyanka Wolan 

So what can we do? I’m spending a lot of time going inward, and going back to the only thing I know to do: loving my babes and sharing meditation, light & magic with them and my community. Now, more than ever, the world CLEARLY needs light and love. I’m using this sense of defeat and disappointment to fuel my mission. To HELP and LOVE as many people as I can. To positively impact as many people as I can. While it may feel like the rug has been snatched right from under your feet, and like your world has been tipped upside down...I promise it hasn’t. YOU still have control. You have the power and control over the love and light that you spread. We are needed more than ever to do our work. It's even more important now. It's an opportunity to mourn, to see clearly the work to be done + to do it with immense kindness. As people and communities we need to band together+lift each other up+hug one another. Namaste.

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Comments (4):

Kendra (Hypermobile Yogi and Strength/Flexibility/Health/EDS on Instagram) on

I was right there with you. My husband rubbed my head until 5am because I got myself so sick to my stomach and caused a horrid headache, which made me feel sicker. I’m not a political person, nor super involved, but pay attention enough. I don’t like to talk about it but do try to keep up with what’s going on both sides or all sides so that I can make the best-informed decision for me. My parents never told me who they voted, for the most part, growing up. They always encouraged me to do my research on all sides and then make my decision based on what I feel is best, not what they do or believe. I hope I’m raising our kids the same way. How I felt and the reaction my body had was shocking to me. I was legitimately sick not because of who won, for the most part, but of how sad I was for our country. We’ve come so far, to unleash such hate and viciousness. It’s frightening. I struggle to understand how, not matter what you believe and feel inside; a human being could treat another human being, even children, the way we’ve been seeing happening more and more. Bethesda is very much a bubble like CA, and for once, I was happy about that during this election. We live a wonderfully diverse area, that respects and admires people of all cultures, shapes, sizes, colors, and religions, and has a greater overall respect for human beings.

quinnie on

Soph,
You bring so much light to the community, to social media, to everyone you meet. Thank you for your gentle assertiveness, for your peaceful demeanor, and your love that softens the chaos and shines through the darkness; this is what you bring to the table for everyone, no matter the situation. I am so blessed by you, by your brand, and by our tribe. Together, this is what we stand for, this is what we’re about. Love you.

Cheryl G on

I was sad to hear of your extreme devastation with the results of this recent election. Unfortunately Californians do live in a bubble and are oblivious to what is occurring in Main Street America. It’s not about racism, homophobia, misogyny, etc., that liberals erroneously ascribe to conservatives. We all need to be concerned about the unsustainable debt (look at your own State), loss of jobs and personal economic crises, porous borders, and the rise in terrorism that threatens our country, among other things. If these issues aren’t addressed our children may not have a country to enjoy for their future. I can assure you it won’t be global warming that causes our demise. I like your last paragraph as you share what you plan to do. No one can argue with showing love to one another My reason in writing is to encourage you not to be fearful as I believe we all want the same things from life and desire to see our Country flourish.

Gabby on

I certainly understand how you feel. I was born and raised in rural Louisiana, and I have been in Central Florida for 16 years. Unfortunately, I have grown up seeing a lot of hate. My side of the family and my in-laws are very pro-Trump. However, I won’t speak ill of my current home because I live in a truly diverse, accepting area -Orlando. I have raised kind and loving children. We’re going to keep doing what we do and spread love.

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Refusing To Cover Up + Products With A Purpose

As a mama and, truthfully, a woman, I’m told a lot about what I should and shouldn’t be doing in order to have a perfect, healthy life. After years of work in establishing boundaries and leaning in fully to my intuition, I’m not easily swayed by the rules and labels put on women. I’ve created such a strong circle that I barely come across products and stigmas that don’t align with my life. But, I know they exist and my hope is to help other women cut through all that noise and come back to their own body in a beautiful, gentle and loving way. I REFUSE to shrink and label myself to do things that make me look, feel or SMELL better. The second we try to hide what we’re made of is the second we create a toxic cycle within our bodies. 


This is why I’m challenging myself to commit to certain clean, non-toxic products that enhance my natural body’s makeup for the next few months and see how I feel and where I end up. I would love for you to join this movement with me!


Using products made with natural and purposeful ingredients EMBRACES our natural beauty. I am partnering with type:A deodorant for the next few months to see what happens after committing to ONE clean deodorant for several months. I’m so excited to see it all unfold and will update you along the way! 


Deeply connecting to our intuition and focusing on the natural beauty allows us to truly radiate out to the world and we organically look, smell and feel better without harmful chemicals and toxins covering us up. Other ways you can create this natural beauty and glow is through:

Mindful movement: Moving your body in a way that feels good deep within your bones like a morning yoga flow, a midday afternoon jog around the neighborhood or a HITT class at your local gym.

Daily nourishment: Eating lots of fresh fruits + veggies and TONS of superfoods because it gives you long-lasting energy and boosts your body’s nutrients. Eating all the colors because it’s fun, delicious and rewarding.

Conscious consumerism: Using trusted and safe products like type:A to support natural body functions (aka sweat!) makes you GLOW from the inside out.


All type:A deodorants are aluminum-free, paraben-free (needed!) and come in gorgeous scents like The Dreamer which is made of a soft white floral linen scent with hints of ylang ylang and jasmine. It feels super lightweight when I put it on and gentle to my skin. Since it’s cream-based it also moisturizes my skin but dries to the touch. It’s amazing! I’ve never had deodorant in a tube, but I can already tell, I’m a fan.

If you’d like to join me and try type:A for yourself, use my code “SOPHIE20” for 20% off! So excited to see how my body feels after these few months and I’ll continue to update you all throughout this journey!

How To Do It All

In living a life that’s filled up with so much adventure, hard work, joy, love and laughter it’s important that I also live a life of RADICAL TRANSPARENCY. A lot of the good is coupled by a lot of heartache, pain, and struggle. Multiple times a day I’m asked, “How do you do it all?!” and as a mama of 3, an entrepreneur, wife, sister, friend, yoga teacher and wellness advocate—the truth is, I don’t. My loving Philosophie community, I will tell you anything about everything because I WANT to share the things that bring me joy, sanity and peace. So that you can live a life you deserve, too. So when it comes to “doing it all” I’ve learned (the hard way) to ask for help


My support system has been made from years and years of trust, open communication, and growth. From my husband to my business team, my chosen family and other trusted services, my businesses have grown (Philosophie and IGNTD) and my children live a life that supports their nurturing and allows me to show up to them fully as a mother. I have an amazing manager Erin Cutler, founder of Neon Rose Agency (truly amazing if you’re looking for a manager!!) and an incredible personal assistant, Taylor Heinrich

When it comes to my kiddos, we knew a network of babysitters wouldn’t cut it anymore and we couldn’t afford a full-time nanny so we tried out Cultural Care, which is an au pair cultural program bringing amazing humans from other parts of the world to live with you and be a part of your family. Our au pair, Noemii became part of our family. If you’re not ready for an au pair, you can also explore sharing a nanny with another family or swap when you can, meaning you watch a neighbor’s kids and then they watch yours another time. 


How do you ask for help?

Communication is SO important. While nothing is perfect, a relationship is built on communication, intimacy, vulnerability and trust. It’s knowing that in order to succeed in life you have to delegate and let others step in and pick up the reins when you can’t. It’s knowing that you’re human and you’ll never be perfect but as long as you put in the work, do the research and SHOW UP then life is saner and 100x more enjoyable. 


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Bambino Sitters: I use this especially when I’m traveling because I don’t want to feel trapped because little babe is asleep. I want the freedom to explore.

Kango: A literal lifesaver in navigating my kid’s schedules that are often busier than mine! This reliable car pickup/dropoff service is super safe and I trust them 100% to help get my boys wherever they need to be on any given day.

Washos: Mobile car wash and detailing service that is SUPER helpful when you need a quick wash but can’t leave your home.

Spatial Soulutions: Dany has become part of my family and helps keep my home organized and beautiful. I work with her every few months or so to make sure things stay clean, organized and functional. Highly recommend!!

Find some of my other MOM HACKS in this post and tips for a WORKING MOM here. You can also find some of my favorite beauty tricks and secrets that have become timesavers in this post. Never feel guilty for asking for help and support! Relationships are built on an equal give and take. Know that every problem has a solution once you take yourself out of the “victim” role. You got this!


Anything I’m missing? Anything you use? Share in the comments below!

Cutting Cords Energetically to Align with Your Highest Self

We’re spiritual beings. We share energy on a daily basis with humans, places and things. Most of the time they bring in positivity, joy and love into our lives but there are times when they create low vibrational energy. By sharing energy we create attachments or energy cords to relationships and things that either serve our highest good or block our growth. Like a mother’s bond to a child or a passionate bond to a lover, energy cords are made up of mutual sharing, trust and love. As we are always in a state of growth, bonds have the potential to shift or transform as time comes and goes. It’s our CHOICE to decide when energy shared enhances your life or restricts it. Then you can decide how to move forward from there. 


There are certain people and things you effortlessly align with and keep coming home to over and over and over again. Trust their love for you. Trust the joy they bring you. Anyone who you can pick up exactly where you left off and get DEEP into it—those are your people. Hold them close. 


Decide now to choose YOU. Your joy and happiness. Nobody or nothing can rob you of your joy. Did you know that? If you feel the energy cord inhibiting you from living a life you’re meant to experience, let go. Create more space. More music. More baths. More nature. More breaths. More fun. More nourishment. Cut cords energetically for more love and gratitude to seep in. 

What are some signs of unwanted energy cords?

Obsessive thoughts or behaviors around a person or thing

Negative self-talk or feelings with that relationship

Feeling drained with a person or a thing

You don’t feel like your true self around that person or with that thing

You hold onto to the hurt or pain in a low vibrational way

The relationship makes you physically anxious, tired or sick


The same way we can energetically attach to people, places or things, we can also physically attach. It’s our choice and birthright to cut any forms of an unhealthy attachment. Through connecting to your intuition and maintaining nourishing self-care rituals and practices you’ll recognize where energy cords are strengthening or depleting you.


The best thing you can do is let go of feeding that person, place, trauma or hurt your energy through thought or emotion. Forgive them, forgive yourself and LET GO.

A ritual for energetic cord-cutting

Find a quiet place and light some candles then clear away negative energy with Palo Santo (available here). Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Then perform this visualization exercise:

Picture a thick cord coming from the center of your body, traveling deep into the earth and tying you safely to the core. Grounding you and protecting you.

Now imagine the person, place or thing you wish to let go.

Visualize a physical cord with this relationship and imagine cutting it. Tell this person, place or thing that you love them and are grateful for them but will no longer be tied to them. 

Remove the cords.

Visualize the cord you tied to the earth coming back to your center. 

Bring your awareness back to reality and move your body (try a quick yoga flow or delicious stretch).


Finish by lighting some Sweet Grass (available here) and bring in new, vibrant positive energy into your home and the energy within. 



How do you challenge your growth and reach toward your highest self? Share in the comments below or connect with me on Instagram using #PhilosophieLove.

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Channel all this magical energy through a vibrant yoga flow to help get out of your head and back into your back. I shared a 15 min. HITT Vinyasa Yoga Flow now up on my YouTube channel.



Grab a Magical Moon Satchel or “intuition kit” to help uplift your energy today and every day.

Happy New Moon and Solar Eclipse!

Sophie’s Podcast List

I’ll be the first to admit that I was pretty hesitant to jump on the podcast bandwagon. It wasn’t until I was a guest on some truly amazing podcasts and then took the HUGE leap and started my own with Adi (IGNTD podcast) that I began to truly appreciate the magic of this kind of storytelling. Podcasts have the unique way of bringing people together and sharing stories in an honest, authentic way as long as you come to it with the right intention. It’s incredibly rewarding and I feel so honored to be able to connect with my community in this way.


Now, I look forward to these talks with other women, content creators and entrepreneurs excelling at what they do. The feedback I receive whether it’s from our IGNTD podcasts or a podcast I’m a guest on is amazing and so entirely worth it.


Here’s a little round-up of all the podcasts I’m featured on and how you can tune into the IGNTD podcasts!


Love, Light & Lace with Marissa Lace // Vulnerability, Relationships, Honoring YOURSELF, + being a powerful mama

Listen here


The Alchemized Life with Ava Johanna // Why we all should practice radical transparency, a no BS gratitude practice, and conscious parenting

Listen here


Claim It! Podcast with Your Joyologist // A conversation on balance, living with intention, boundaries, motherhood, becoming an entrepreneur and what ignites joy

Listen here


Healthier Together with Liz Moody // Myself & Courtney Swan on things you’re not supposed to talk about—money, sex, & body image

Listen here


Off the Record // Life as a child, shame, intimacy, a "passion for fashion," and transforming tragedy into triumph

Listen here


Manifest This with Ashley Wood // Manifestation, magic and mindful motherhood

Listen here


Bring Your Own Kombucha // A chat on all things motherhood, balance, and living your best life!

Listen here


The Influencer Podcast with Julie Solomon // The importance of speaking your truth to grow your influence

Listen here


Almost 30 // A conversation about balance, motherhood, and saving a marriage

Listen here


Soul On Fire with The Balanced Blonde // A talk on friendships, balancing it all, motherhood, our food philosophy, life and so much more

Listen here


Dynamic Lifestyle // How to IGNITE your relationships, career, and well-being

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#Nofilter with Zack Peter // How to overcome cheating & F*ck Shame

Listen here

Adi and I starting IGNTD together, out of our home, was a huge leap for us and our partnership. It was tough in the beginning but now I look forward to every single conversation on our podcast with some amazing guests. We’ve created the space to be deep, vulnerable, honest and intentional.


The IGNTD Relationships podcast is an exploration of all things relationships whether that’s money, family, career, love and more - there’s nothing we won’t shy away from.


LISTEN HERE


Recovery Secrets offers an entirely new look at the addiction problem with my husband Adi.


LISTEN HERE


What podcasts do you listen to? Any shows you’d like me to appear on or any guests you’d like to see on the IGNTD podcast? We want to know!!

My Clean and Green Haircare Routine

 

If you know me you know I don’t spend a lot of time on my hair. Whatever I can do to make styling my hair simple, eco-friendly and SAFE then I’m all in. When life is FULL with a business to run and an almost 1-year-old demanding my attention, any care for and styling of my hair is a low priority. I depend on products I trust 100% to keep me looking and feeling my best.


I’ve decided to share my go-to haircare routine for when I have a photo shoot, commercial or event in the hopes to help you find products that you can love and feel so good using!


Seed Phytonutrients hair, face and body products are completely sustainable and made with organic seed oils, the perfect solution for clean beauty that actually works! I love their mission to protect organic farmers and seeds from over-commercialization while promoting natural beauty and healthy living. Living sustainably doesn’t just only mean recycling or minimizing your waste (although, yes!) but also promoting and supporting brands that are fighting to protect Mama Gaia and all her wonders.


My Go-To Styling Routine

When I know I have an upcoming shoot or event I give my hair a bit more extra love and attention than the top knot bun I usually do. I shower with the Seed Phytonutrient’s Anti-Frizz Shampoo and Conditioner made with organic jojoba seed oil rich in vitamins and minerals that nourish and strengthen the hair. My hair always feels so soft and as soon as I’m done using the bottle I can compost it!


If I’m between events, I love to use Seed Phytonutrient’s Hair and Body Oil for an on-the-go frizz touch up. It’s so light and clean! All you do is apply a tiny amount to the place that needs attention and gently massage in. Then you’re ready to go!


I usually switch off between having the Glamsquad come to my home and style my hair. I love this team because I can stay home and work or be with Noa while I’m getting my hair done. Plus, they use all my products like Seed Phytonutrient’s Anti-Frizz Cream. If I don’t use Glamsquad then I’ll get a blowout and all the Seed products actually keep my blowouts longer, which is amazing!


Have you made the switch to cleaner, greener haircare? Let me know in the comments below and connect with me on Instagram!