Finding Light Within the Darkness

It is not an easy time. I am not well, nor will I pretend to be. Deep deep breath. Holy wow. Shock. Awe. Prayer. I’m doing my absolute best to understand what I can + trust what I don't that there's a greater plan. I haven't stopped crying but I will continue to do my work. I will continue to show up, to my job, my children, my soul, now more than ever. I'm trying to adult, but it's not easy. I'm trying to stop crying but it feels impossible not to feel the pain. I'm also trying to keep in mind that no great change has ever come from comfort.

Sending peace to everyone near + far, black + white, old + young, fortunate + less, educated + less, liberal + conservative. I hope for peace + understanding. I hope for much much more love {not blindly, but with much work + showing up consistently to one another} and for MANY uncomfortable conversations to promote bridging the gap the best we can. Starting now.

All great changes are preceded by chaos." -Deepak Chopra

I’m deeply saddened that hate has been given hope. As Californians and liberals, we live in a bubble that truly isn’t the reality that reflects what the true American values. As a whole, we are not ready. We are not ready to support a female president. We are not ready to let go of prejudice and hate. We are just not all there yet. I feel deeply saddened by the stark realization of this fact. My little angels went with their abba to the polls. They were so excited to vote for the first female president, and I was heartbroken to tell them what our next 4 years will look like now. I can’t even conjure an image in my brain of how this movie will play out. This feels like a nightmare; a bad dream. I wake up every morning hungover with grief.

“Black and brown people have been talking about racism, sexism, white privilege, class and gender inequality for some time now. Black men, boys and women have been getting shot in the street due to fear and stereotypes. Black and brown parents have had to tell their children on the daily exactly what you feared having to tell your kids on November 9th - that things don't always work out in your favor, good doesn't always trump bad, and you will be judged by things other than the content of your character. This is not new information for many of us, nor is the fact that the rust belt and a majority of white men and women voted for a candidate whose campaign overtly endorsed xenophobia and hate.

So what now? We need to start collectively addressing the underlying issues in a real way and not just pay lip service with outrage for a few weeks. Speak up when you see mistreatment of minority groups, get involved in local and state government, get informed on issues that may not directly "affect you," talk to people on a different path than yours, cultivate empathy, teach your children all these things. Wash, lather, rinse, repeat.”

-Priyanka Wolan 

So what can we do? I’m spending a lot of time going inward, and going back to the only thing I know to do: loving my babes and sharing meditation, light & magic with them and my community. Now, more than ever, the world CLEARLY needs light and love. I’m using this sense of defeat and disappointment to fuel my mission. To HELP and LOVE as many people as I can. To positively impact as many people as I can. While it may feel like the rug has been snatched right from under your feet, and like your world has been tipped upside down...I promise it hasn’t. YOU still have control. You have the power and control over the love and light that you spread. We are needed more than ever to do our work. It's even more important now. It's an opportunity to mourn, to see clearly the work to be done + to do it with immense kindness. As people and communities we need to band together+lift each other up+hug one another. Namaste.

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Comments (4):

Kendra (Hypermobile Yogi and Strength/Flexibility/Health/EDS on Instagram) on

I was right there with you. My husband rubbed my head until 5am because I got myself so sick to my stomach and caused a horrid headache, which made me feel sicker. I’m not a political person, nor super involved, but pay attention enough. I don’t like to talk about it but do try to keep up with what’s going on both sides or all sides so that I can make the best-informed decision for me. My parents never told me who they voted, for the most part, growing up. They always encouraged me to do my research on all sides and then make my decision based on what I feel is best, not what they do or believe. I hope I’m raising our kids the same way. How I felt and the reaction my body had was shocking to me. I was legitimately sick not because of who won, for the most part, but of how sad I was for our country. We’ve come so far, to unleash such hate and viciousness. It’s frightening. I struggle to understand how, not matter what you believe and feel inside; a human being could treat another human being, even children, the way we’ve been seeing happening more and more. Bethesda is very much a bubble like CA, and for once, I was happy about that during this election. We live a wonderfully diverse area, that respects and admires people of all cultures, shapes, sizes, colors, and religions, and has a greater overall respect for human beings.

quinnie on

Soph,
You bring so much light to the community, to social media, to everyone you meet. Thank you for your gentle assertiveness, for your peaceful demeanor, and your love that softens the chaos and shines through the darkness; this is what you bring to the table for everyone, no matter the situation. I am so blessed by you, by your brand, and by our tribe. Together, this is what we stand for, this is what we’re about. Love you.

Cheryl G on

I was sad to hear of your extreme devastation with the results of this recent election. Unfortunately Californians do live in a bubble and are oblivious to what is occurring in Main Street America. It’s not about racism, homophobia, misogyny, etc., that liberals erroneously ascribe to conservatives. We all need to be concerned about the unsustainable debt (look at your own State), loss of jobs and personal economic crises, porous borders, and the rise in terrorism that threatens our country, among other things. If these issues aren’t addressed our children may not have a country to enjoy for their future. I can assure you it won’t be global warming that causes our demise. I like your last paragraph as you share what you plan to do. No one can argue with showing love to one another My reason in writing is to encourage you not to be fearful as I believe we all want the same things from life and desire to see our Country flourish.

Gabby on

I certainly understand how you feel. I was born and raised in rural Louisiana, and I have been in Central Florida for 16 years. Unfortunately, I have grown up seeing a lot of hate. My side of the family and my in-laws are very pro-Trump. However, I won’t speak ill of my current home because I live in a truly diverse, accepting area -Orlando. I have raised kind and loving children. We’re going to keep doing what we do and spread love.

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Sustainable Goods for ALL Kinds of Messes

As a family of five, we are no stranger to messes and honestly, I wouldn’t have it any other way! Messes are a sign of life being well-lived. A messy home is a happy home. Yet, I do find grounding in having a home that is cleansed and refreshed. One of my big intentions for the new year is making this home the ultimate space of comfort + expansion but also help reduce our footprint as a family and produce less waste at home.


It’s not as difficult as it sounds! The goal is to make lots of little daily changes to be more eco-conscious and truly invest in goods and products with more intention. Not everything I have been given or bought in the past have all been sustainable, but in making the shift now to be more mindful of how I consume I can continue to make my home more sustainable! 


I’ve recently have fallen in love with the zero-waste company, Well Earth Goods and they’ve been HUGE in helping us slowly make the transition to a sustainable home while still maintaining a clean and comfortable space. 

Why zero waste and plastic-free? 

I don’t need to be the first to tell you that climate change is a real + scary. It’s so important now more than ever to be part of the solution and not the problem. I want a world that my children’s children can grow up in and experience the beauty of this planet. 


I love Well Earth Goods because of its mission to offer great plastic-free products and stir up a movement plus all their goods are gorgeous. 


Plastic pollution affects our lives every day and you may not even know it. Plastic is linked to cancers, can impact fertility and kills thousands of marine animals. It’s predicted that by 2050, there will be more plastic than fish in the ocean if we continue our plastic use. 


We can become part of the change by using more reusable products, shopping with reusable bags + totes, refusing bags + utensils if you order takeout, and buying more sustainable products in your home to clean up messes!


Well Earth Goods makes it SO easy to stock up your home with zero waste products and best of all, they’re super affordable (I also included my discount code below!). They have everything from personal care to kitchen goods, cleaning tools, and food storage. 

Here are some of the products I’ve been absolutely loving!

Wood Dish Brush and Copper Scour Pad - Both of these products fit the aesthetic of my home effortlessly, but also plastic-free. I love that the dish brush is also completely recyclable and compostable! 

Storage Produce Bags and Reusable Canvas Tote - The storage bags are so simple and help keep fresh produce for way longer (so needed in my home!). I love the style of the canvas tote, it’s so great for Farmers Markets! 

Wooden Toilet Brush - Love the natural look and is entirely non-plastic and compostable. 


I would love to hear your tips + tools for making a more eco-conscious home! Use the code “SOPHIE10” for 10% off and Well Earth Goods product!!

 

Transitioning to a Nontoxic Home in 2020

Last year, I manifested my dream home and you can read all about THAT journey on my blog and find the big reveal on my YouTube Channel. This year is all about creating the ultimate space of comfort, expansion, and inspiration in this gorgeous home but most importantly, making it clean and toxin-free. 


The task of moving to an entirely nontoxic home can seem daunting with countless hours of research but it doesn’t have to be. Not if you start small and work with the flow of your life in order to make the transition. Begin with prioritizing important areas to begin making the switch and our bodies is most definitely #1. 


Why nontoxic and clean goods?

As a mindful mama of 3, I care SO much about what goes on my littles’ bodies as well as my own. Clean, non-toxic beauty and skincare products enhance the natural makeup of our body and EMBRACE our natural beauty. 


Everything we interact with on a daily basis can contain toxins that have been shown to affect hormone imbalance, gut issues, and immune dysfunction - to name a few. While our bodies are designed to detox and remove harmful toxins (hello, sickness!) but too much exposure can outweigh our body’s capabilities especially if you’re stressed, tired, not getting the right nutrients and so on. 


That’s why we choose safe, nontoxic products wherever and whenever we can. 


I’ve partnered with typeA: Deodorant in helping to make the switch to clean, aluminum-free deodorant instead of antiperspirant and you can read more about the why behind this particular switch in this article.

Making the switch as a family

I’ve been using type:A Deodorant (they have 5 great scents + 1 unscented and recently released wipes too!) every day for 6 months now and the difference in my entire body is notable and I’m so in love. It’s aluminum-free and entirely non-toxic. It’s also sweat-activated meaning the more you sweat the harder it works to protect against odor. It feels so good and soft going on and I’ve been raving about it so much that Adi made the switch too! Eventually, we’ll get the kiddos + anyone else we love + connect with to make the switch! 


Products like this coupled with using our Liquid Sunshine Chlorophyll Drops at least once a day has made a HUGE difference in helping my internal body odor. I feel better, I smell better and my hubby does too!


Making positive changes like this is a beautiful way to head into the new year. I’m so excited that type:A has recently launched in Target and have continued their expansion in this way. Anyone can now easily purchase non-toxic and aluminum-free deodorants and begin making their own switch to a nontoxic home. I LOVE seeing the brands I’ve loved and supported for years making huge leaps like this and getting in front of many. This is how we make huge impacts on society. We start small. 


If you’d like to join me and try type:A for yourself, use my code “SOPHIE20” for 20% off! So excited for all the major transitions and growth levels we’ll reach in 2020!

Abundance Holiday Gift Guide

I’m so excited to share our ABUNDANCE HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE that gives you a closer look at the love + deeper purposes behind our Philosophie products. Find a little something for everyone on your list that offers more intention and meaning in your gifts this holiday season.


A beautiful way to spread a little more love, intention and compassion this holiday season is to share what has been transformational and meaningful to your life. If you have friends and family that are ready to step into their life, transform their whole health, and elevate their well-being, then we want to help you find the PERFECT Philosophie goodie to gift them. 


Give the gifts that help spread love, wellness and ABUNDANCE this holiday season. 


For the BUSY MAMA//

Superfood Starter Pack to get her started on a lifetime of health and wellness and provide natural, sustaining energy for herself. Coconut Magic Coconut Butter for healthy fats and a snack on-the-go at any time of day!


Share some of your favorite smoothie recipes to the favorite mom in your life - all our superfood + protein blends instantly elevate any smoothie.


For the HEALTH NUT//

Raw, vegan Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend for their daily boost of greens and to sprinkle on everything!!


All our favorite savory dishes like soups, veggies and salads have a boost of Green Dream in them. 


For the MEN in your life//

Cacao Magic Superfood + Protein Blend to add to his coffee and in a post-workout smoothie + Cacao Bee Honey to drizzle on errythang!

For the FOODIE//

Green Dream Savory Blend for all their magical kitchen creations and a go-to seasoning without any hassle. And, Liquid Sunshine Chlorophyll Drops to enjoy during and post-meals for a naturally cleansing reset.


For the FITNESS LOVER//

A Philosophie Reset Program to help set intentions, cultivate clean energy and support their fitness journey. And, our LV Fit + Philosophie bundle with a 12-week workout guide and + vegan protein powders to help support their health! Perfect for the start of a new year and new decade!!


For the BEAUTY BABE//

Chrysalis Detox Bath Soak, Chrysalis Healing Oils and Chrysalis Water which is skin medicine from the most therapeutic, moisturizing and anti-aging ingredients found in nature. 


And, Berry Bee Honey or Green Bee Honey for a DIY natural face mask + to eat!


For the SPIRITUAL ONE//

Sage Smudge Bundle for magic, ceremonial cleansing, and releasing + Sweet Grass for renewing energy and self-love.

These little magical gifts make the perfect present for a coworker, bestie, neighbor, yoga friend, or as a fantastic stocking stuffer!



Why Supplements? How I’m Restoring My Energy with Vitamin Support In Partnership with Paragon Vitamins

With the big move, taking on more work projects, hosting + participating in more events, traveling, caring for my three littles and so on, I felt SO depleted this past year. It also happened that as soon as we moved into our new home my little Noa really started walking and we stopped breastfeeding. All of this hit me hard and my life entered a period of high stress, which took a toll on my body. I tapped into my intuition and recognized that my body needed to slow down. All the energy I had was being used up in creating our new home, working, upleveling my business(es), being a mama, being a wife and a friend. It was a lot of energetic weight to carry which meant more time at home, lots of sleep, self-care non-negotiables and softness in order to balance it all out and ease the stress. 


Because I took the time to prioritize my healing, I’ve been able to tell that my body is ready to get back into my rhythm. To help support my journey in getting back on my fitness routine I’m using supplements and my go-to energy restoration tricks! 


I’ve partnered with Paragon Vitamins to help personalize my journey to restore my energy + stamina which are SUPER important to my lifestyle and how I feel strong in MY body. I had a chat with scientist and Paragon's co-founder, Sam Bock on how to integrate a personal vitamin regiment into my daily routine to help support my current wellness goals. We had an amazing chat on the importance of restoring balance, which you know is HUGE for me and is at the core of Philosophie and what we do here. According to Sam, there is no “perfect” diet (AMEN!) because each person’s biochemistry is different according to their makeup and the way they live, so everyone requires a different combination of nutrients to bring their body back to perfect balance. 


If you’ve been following along my journey with Paragon Vitamins then you know a few weeks back I sent in a small sample of my hair to get tested so I could get a detailed health report and personalized vitamin regimen that is custom based on what my body needs. Sam walked me through the results of my test and let me know that while I am super healthy I could use the vitamin support to help build and restore my energy + hormone levels (hello, 3 kids!). If you’re balanced + fueled internally, your body will be able to energy, detox and heal itself the way it is made to do. 

Why supplements?

As much as we want to believe our bodies can get everything they need from food and food alone, it’s just not true. From stress to toxins and EVERYTHING ELSE, your body goes through strain and we need to find more ways to help support it. I’m all about the magic of superfoods + supplements and making it a priority to incorporate them into my daily life. Finding ways to transform a simple smoothie or a leafy green salad into a high-vibe, potent meal is what I’m all about. It's what keeps me energized and balanced as I try to conquer a million things throughout my day.


Any time I can get an extra boost from a wonderful new supplement I jump on it. I love how they can go hand in hand for a perfect addition to the rest of my holistic lifestyle. I am pretty picky about the quality of Vitamins and was thrilled when I saw my results from Paragon Vitamins and the new regimen they recommend.


My vitamin breakdown

Paragon Vitamins creates a comprehensive and detailed personalized wellness guide AND formulates the purest bio-available combination of nutrients for your body’s recommendation. My DHEA was super low (a hormone produced by your body's adrenal glands) as well as my Boron levels (which help create estrogen) because of how active I’ve been in my everyday life and the stress my body had taken on. I was surprised to see that while I get a good amount of fish, my mercury levels were low. My salt levels were “perfect” because of how much good salt I add to everything (thank you, Green Dream Savory Blend!) but my potassium was low. You need potassium and sodium to work together to build electricity. Our bodies run off electricity too, just like everything else! 


I took a more mid-level regimen (their Optimized plan but tailored to my health needs) which includes: potassium, calcium, magnesium, zinc, copper, iron, vitamin C and vitamin E all to help circulate higher levels of nutrients to enhance healing + recover and build physical + mental performance. I’m also adding their Pro Sport pack to help provide fuel for stronger workouts with more energy. I’m hoping to get in two strong workouts a week. Just what mama needs! 


If I took away one thing from this entire process is that you NEED to listen to your body. Your body and energy levels go through major waves. You’re not supposed to be ON all the time. Even Olympic athletes take breaks throughout the year! Yoga and the working out I’ve done in my life has done me well that I benefited from a bit of a break when I needed it most. I’m so excited to challenge myself in this way now and can’t wait to see how I’ll feel in a month or so with the support of my Paragon Vitamins!

 

 

Use my code “jaffe50” for 50% off your hair test kit! Share your results with me and tag me on Instagram using #ParagonVitamins or #PhilosophieLove!

Conscious Gift Ideas for Kids

As a mindful parent, the holiday season can be especially tough to stay present with your kiddos and show them how to live with intention because all there is are GIFTS. From letters to Santa, sales, shopping lists, ads and so much more - gifts are on the mind! 


Here’s the secret, mama - you can still celebrate the holiday season and give your kiddos the best they deserve without filling their minds with junk! When you shop with the intention you’re more likely to get a gift that enriches your child’s mind, encourages growth and truthfully, lasts way longer! 


My go-to are games and toys that challenge their creativity and thinking or from a small business. Here is my list of CONSCIOUS GIFT IDEAS for the kiddos in your life!


*click on the products to shop directly 

 

Books!!! - you really can’t go wrong with a good book. Buy them your favorite from when you were a kid or a new one you’ve never heard of to read with them. Here are some of the best children's books of 2019: Hello, World Series by Ashley Evanson, I Am Series by Susan Verde + Peter Reynold, What Do You Do With A...Series by Kobi Yamada, and This Little Collection


Wiwiurka Play Gyms - we have two of them for Noa to climb around and play one; great for inside or outside and look beautiful! (use the code “SOPHIEJAFFE15” for 15% off)

Melissa and Doug Fold & Go Dollhouse - is it really a childhood without a dollhouse? I love the look of this dollhouse + the fact that it’s portable! 

Hape Wooden Toys - both Noa and the boys have a TON of these; great for multiple ages and a wide variety to choose from


Mancala - you really can’t go wrong with this one and you can get one almost anywhere; most come in a beautiful wooden case and flat marbles 

Wooden Abacus Toy - you’ve probably have seen this at your local dentist office but it’s such a great toy to have in your home and also is a great education tool


Lovevery Toy Subscription - we’ve had this subscription since Noa was born and have received developmental toys at every stage of her growth; she loves them and I feel so great playing with them with her. Read more in this blog post!

Why and Whale - the cutest figurines and block toys! You can buy boxes based on ages or books, puzzles, games, arts & crafts, dress up, playsets, plush toys and more! Obsessed.


I’ll continue to update as more come to mind!!


What are some of your favorite toys and gifts for kids? Share in the comments below or connect with me on Facebook!

The BIG REVEAL of My New Home

Earlier this year I put up a post on the blog on how I’m manifesting my dream home, speaking it into the universe. And if you follow me on social + simply by reading the title of this post you know - IT HAPPENED. 


This home has been so much more than I could have ever imagined. I’m so honored to be able to share the first BIG REVEAL of our home and all the moving parts that have been a part of this process. My intention for this post is to inspire you and motivate you to continue going after your wildest dreams. Say them out loud. Keep doing the work. Keep showing up. It can happen!! We are so excited to continue making this house into a home that our family will grow + evolve in. Hardcore manifesting works, my loves, AND a whole lot of hard work, grit and passion. 


And with that...here we go!



From renting to owning 

The entire move itself was a whirlwind and if I didn’t have an amazing group of humans supporting me every step of the way I know it wouldn’t be in the current place it is now. Not only was our last place a rental, but it was also very separated so moving from a smaller, rented loft-style home to a casita-style home like this presented its own challenge. It also created a beautiful canvas that fueled so many visions and magical creations. 


I worked with amazing creators, women-founded small businesses and truly fantastic brands to bring this all together. I’m so honored + humbled to be able to share this with this community I call family. If you have any questions, please let me know in the comments below!


First this first, in order to bring this home truly to life from start to finish I brought on my love, Dany from Spatial Soulutions who deeply knows my family + my needs, and also has the ability to take you from liking your space to really falling in love with it. Dany creates cohesive spaces that elevate your lifestyle. Through her collaborative process, she helps bring beauty, functionality, and thoughtful styling to your environment. As a holistic stylist, Dany knows how to see and feel out the space in order to refine it and elevate it.


Because of the size of this project, we also brought in Elsa from Composed Living to help us create the space of my dreams. Elsa is a GEM of a human who worked with Dany to streamline spaces in our home. I also got a TON of support and ideas from my friend and designer, Aisling of ALM Curation Studio. She helped put Noa’s nursery together in both our old place and this home - It was really nice to get consultation from an expert who knew my tastes so well.


Main living areas

The second you walk in I wanted to immediately evoke a feeling of openness + welcoming. We used many of the larger furniture pieces from our old home in new, reimagined ways in this home like the entry table which is now a place for our most used everyday items. This works so effortlessly for my family of 5 and all our friends + family that come to visit on a daily basis. 


My largest investment for this home was our two Southern Loom rugs (use the code “ruglove”) that completely upleveled this home. They’re absolutely stunning and entirely transformed the look and energy of our home. Throughout the main living areas, we mixed texture and elements keeping it effortless and allowing it to change and transform to our needs. 

My obsession with Rove Concepts (use the code “SOPHIE20” for 20% off) has traveled with us from home to home. We kept our blue velvet sectional and repurposed it in our “formal” living room and also got a new gorgeous white sectional, as well as a dining table and dining chairs. We also got two perfect rugs from Ruggable - one for the dining room and one for the playroom. We discovered that you can wash the top layer in the washing machine which is a game changer for my family and helping to maintain our home. The living room to dining area to kitchen follows the same flow as our last home which works well for me whether it’s moving from family time in the living room, to work at the dining table with my Philosophie team, or cooking in the kitchen. 


As mentioned, this home follows a casita layout in which everything leads to the backyard and to the communal areas. I’m so in love with this and the concept of integration. In the future, I’d love to create one large window that leads directly to the backyard. 

Kitchen

This was the first room that felt fully finished and the one that took the longest! From creating recipes for Philosophie, feeding the family and hosting guests this room is so important to my way of doing life. 


I worked closely with Blisshaus to help bring my organization to another LEVEL. They created beautiful labeled jars (she even made Philosophie ones for each blend!). Sustainability is a major focus in this home and bringing in products like Blisshaus that look just as beautiful as they are sustainable is perfection. We also got a gorgeous collection of plates, bowls and mugs from Rwood Studio Pottery. We can’t stop using them! 


I worked with mDesign to bring functional pieces to my pantry and kitchen tools. Brands like these helped us to maximize storage whenever possible and were so important to a smooth transition into a home. It isn’t just about the organization. It is SO much more than that. It is about cultivating a more intentional way of life (bulk bags, recipe cards, customized glass jars with labels) are amazing for anyone who wants to change the way the cook AND shop for food.

This stage of “home creating, integrating and styling”

At this current stage, there’s still a lot of moving pieces and I know it’s not completely in the place I’ve envisioned but it’s close and it’s beautiful. In moving to a larger home and doubling the payment of our mortgage I didn’t want to invest in all-new pieces, so the items that I did choose were carefully chosen and brands I’ve known for a long time I wanted to work with. 


For anyone moving, you DON’T need to invest in all new furniture. Reuse items in your new home. Create options for change and fluidity. So many of the items we used are things we’ve had for YEARS that have just been repurposed so it feels new again. 


At this stage, we’re still moving things every day to find their perfect spot and see what works best for my + my family’s needs. We’re focused on creating an experience in each room. In each room I’m asking, what experience do I envision happening? What emotions do I want to create? 

All of my FAVS

Rove Concepts (white sectional, dining room table + chairs, various rugs throughout our home)

The Southern Loom (runner and living room rugs)

Framebridge (user-friendly way to get the art you love framed)

Kardiel Modern (white couch in the “formal” living room)

mDesign (for all things organization)

Blisshaus (gorgeous glass jars + kitchen/pantry magic)

Bloomscape (plants everywhere)

Black Sheep Goods (gorgeous woven tapestry, all handmade)

Saffron + Poe (kitchen stools)

Blinds Galore and Everhem Shades 

Yamazaki Home (maximize storage + functional pieces)


Stay tuned for ROUND TWO! Let me know what you love, if you have any questions and what you want to see in the comments below. Thank you for allowing me to share this with you!!

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