Finding Light Within the Darkness

It is not an easy time. I am not well, nor will I pretend to be. Deep deep breath. Holy wow. Shock. Awe. Prayer. I’m doing my absolute best to understand what I can + trust what I don't that there's a greater plan. I haven't stopped crying but I will continue to do my work. I will continue to show up, to my job, my children, my soul, now more than ever. I'm trying to adult, but it's not easy. I'm trying to stop crying but it feels impossible not to feel the pain. I'm also trying to keep in mind that no great change has ever come from comfort.

Sending peace to everyone near + far, black + white, old + young, fortunate + less, educated + less, liberal + conservative. I hope for peace + understanding. I hope for much much more love {not blindly, but with much work + showing up consistently to one another} and for MANY uncomfortable conversations to promote bridging the gap the best we can. Starting now.

All great changes are preceded by chaos." -Deepak Chopra

I’m deeply saddened that hate has been given hope. As Californians and liberals, we live in a bubble that truly isn’t the reality that reflects what the true American values. As a whole, we are not ready. We are not ready to support a female president. We are not ready to let go of prejudice and hate. We are just not all there yet. I feel deeply saddened by the stark realization of this fact. My little angels went with their abba to the polls. They were so excited to vote for the first female president, and I was heartbroken to tell them what our next 4 years will look like now. I can’t even conjure an image in my brain of how this movie will play out. This feels like a nightmare; a bad dream. I wake up every morning hungover with grief.

“Black and brown people have been talking about racism, sexism, white privilege, class and gender inequality for some time now. Black men, boys and women have been getting shot in the street due to fear and stereotypes. Black and brown parents have had to tell their children on the daily exactly what you feared having to tell your kids on November 9th - that things don't always work out in your favor, good doesn't always trump bad, and you will be judged by things other than the content of your character. This is not new information for many of us, nor is the fact that the rust belt and a majority of white men and women voted for a candidate whose campaign overtly endorsed xenophobia and hate.

So what now? We need to start collectively addressing the underlying issues in a real way and not just pay lip service with outrage for a few weeks. Speak up when you see mistreatment of minority groups, get involved in local and state government, get informed on issues that may not directly "affect you," talk to people on a different path than yours, cultivate empathy, teach your children all these things. Wash, lather, rinse, repeat.”

-Priyanka Wolan 

So what can we do? I’m spending a lot of time going inward, and going back to the only thing I know to do: loving my babes and sharing meditation, light & magic with them and my community. Now, more than ever, the world CLEARLY needs light and love. I’m using this sense of defeat and disappointment to fuel my mission. To HELP and LOVE as many people as I can. To positively impact as many people as I can. While it may feel like the rug has been snatched right from under your feet, and like your world has been tipped upside down...I promise it hasn’t. YOU still have control. You have the power and control over the love and light that you spread. We are needed more than ever to do our work. It's even more important now. It's an opportunity to mourn, to see clearly the work to be done + to do it with immense kindness. As people and communities we need to band together+lift each other up+hug one another. Namaste.

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Comments (4):

Kendra (Hypermobile Yogi and Strength/Flexibility/Health/EDS on Instagram) on

I was right there with you. My husband rubbed my head until 5am because I got myself so sick to my stomach and caused a horrid headache, which made me feel sicker. I’m not a political person, nor super involved, but pay attention enough. I don’t like to talk about it but do try to keep up with what’s going on both sides or all sides so that I can make the best-informed decision for me. My parents never told me who they voted, for the most part, growing up. They always encouraged me to do my research on all sides and then make my decision based on what I feel is best, not what they do or believe. I hope I’m raising our kids the same way. How I felt and the reaction my body had was shocking to me. I was legitimately sick not because of who won, for the most part, but of how sad I was for our country. We’ve come so far, to unleash such hate and viciousness. It’s frightening. I struggle to understand how, not matter what you believe and feel inside; a human being could treat another human being, even children, the way we’ve been seeing happening more and more. Bethesda is very much a bubble like CA, and for once, I was happy about that during this election. We live a wonderfully diverse area, that respects and admires people of all cultures, shapes, sizes, colors, and religions, and has a greater overall respect for human beings.

quinnie on

Soph,
You bring so much light to the community, to social media, to everyone you meet. Thank you for your gentle assertiveness, for your peaceful demeanor, and your love that softens the chaos and shines through the darkness; this is what you bring to the table for everyone, no matter the situation. I am so blessed by you, by your brand, and by our tribe. Together, this is what we stand for, this is what we’re about. Love you.

Cheryl G on

I was sad to hear of your extreme devastation with the results of this recent election. Unfortunately Californians do live in a bubble and are oblivious to what is occurring in Main Street America. It’s not about racism, homophobia, misogyny, etc., that liberals erroneously ascribe to conservatives. We all need to be concerned about the unsustainable debt (look at your own State), loss of jobs and personal economic crises, porous borders, and the rise in terrorism that threatens our country, among other things. If these issues aren’t addressed our children may not have a country to enjoy for their future. I can assure you it won’t be global warming that causes our demise. I like your last paragraph as you share what you plan to do. No one can argue with showing love to one another My reason in writing is to encourage you not to be fearful as I believe we all want the same things from life and desire to see our Country flourish.

Gabby on

I certainly understand how you feel. I was born and raised in rural Louisiana, and I have been in Central Florida for 16 years. Unfortunately, I have grown up seeing a lot of hate. My side of the family and my in-laws are very pro-Trump. However, I won’t speak ill of my current home because I live in a truly diverse, accepting area -Orlando. I have raised kind and loving children. We’re going to keep doing what we do and spread love.

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Sophie’s Podcast List

I’ll be the first to admit that I was pretty hesitant to jump on the podcast bandwagon. It wasn’t until I was a guest on some truly amazing podcasts and then took the HUGE leap and started my own with Adi (IGNTD podcast) that I began to truly appreciate the magic of this kind of storytelling. Podcasts have the unique way of bringing people together and sharing stories in an honest, authentic way as long as you come to it with the right intention. It’s incredibly rewarding and I feel so honored to be able to connect with my community in this way.


Now, I look forward to these talks with other women, content creators and entrepreneurs excelling at what they do. The feedback I receive whether it’s from our IGNTD podcasts or a podcast I’m a guest on is amazing and so entirely worth it.


Here’s a little round-up of all the podcasts I’m featured on and how you can tune into the IGNTD podcasts!


Love, Light & Lace with Marissa Lace // Vulnerability, Relationships, Honoring YOURSELF, + being a powerful mama

Listen here


The Alchemized Life with Ava Johanna // Why we all should practice radical transparency, a no BS gratitude practice, and conscious parenting

Listen here


Claim It! Podcast with Your Joyologist // A conversation on balance, living with intention, boundaries, motherhood, becoming an entrepreneur and what ignites joy

Listen here


Healthier Together with Liz Moody // Myself & Courtney Swan on things you’re not supposed to talk about—money, sex, & body image

Listen here


Off the Record // Life as a child, shame, intimacy, a "passion for fashion," and transforming tragedy into triumph

Listen here


Manifest This with Ashley Wood // Manifestation, magic and mindful motherhood

Listen here


Bring Your Own Kombucha // A chat on all things motherhood, balance, and living your best life!

Listen here


The Influencer Podcast with Julie Solomon // The importance of speaking your truth to grow your influence

Listen here


Almost 30 // A conversation about balance, motherhood, and saving a marriage

Listen here


Soul On Fire with The Balanced Blonde // A talk on friendships, balancing it all, motherhood, our food philosophy, life and so much more

Listen here


Dynamic Lifestyle // How to IGNITE your relationships, career, and well-being

Listen here


#Nofilter with Zack Peter // How to overcome cheating & F*ck Shame

Listen here

Adi and I starting IGNTD together, out of our home, was a huge leap for us and our partnership. It was tough in the beginning but now I look forward to every single conversation on our podcast with some amazing guests. We’ve created the space to be deep, vulnerable, honest and intentional.


The IGNTD Relationships podcast is an exploration of all things relationships whether that’s money, family, career, love and more - there’s nothing we won’t shy away from.


LISTEN HERE


Recovery Secrets offers an entirely new look at the addiction problem with my husband Adi.


LISTEN HERE


What podcasts do you listen to? Any shows you’d like me to appear on or any guests you’d like to see on the IGNTD podcast? We want to know!!

My Clean and Green Haircare Routine

 

If you know me you know I don’t spend a lot of time on my hair. Whatever I can do to make styling my hair simple, eco-friendly and SAFE then I’m all in. When life is FULL with a business to run and an almost 1-year-old demanding my attention, any care for and styling of my hair is a low priority. I depend on products I trust 100% to keep me looking and feeling my best.


I’ve decided to share my go-to haircare routine for when I have a photo shoot, commercial or event in the hopes to help you find products that you can love and feel so good using!


Seed Phytonutrients hair, face and body products are completely sustainable and made with organic seed oils, the perfect solution for clean beauty that actually works! I love their mission to protect organic farmers and seeds from over-commercialization while promoting natural beauty and healthy living. Living sustainably doesn’t just only mean recycling or minimizing your waste (although, yes!) but also promoting and supporting brands that are fighting to protect Mama Gaia and all her wonders.


My Go-To Styling Routine

When I know I have an upcoming shoot or event I give my hair a bit more extra love and attention than the top knot bun I usually do. I shower with the Seed Phytonutrient’s Anti-Frizz Shampoo and Conditioner made with organic jojoba seed oil rich in vitamins and minerals that nourish and strengthen the hair. My hair always feels so soft and as soon as I’m done using the bottle I can compost it!


If I’m between events, I love to use Seed Phytonutrient’s Hair and Body Oil for an on-the-go frizz touch up. It’s so light and clean! All you do is apply a tiny amount to the place that needs attention and gently massage in. Then you’re ready to go!


I usually switch off between having the Glamsquad come to my home and style my hair. I love this team because I can stay home and work or be with Noa while I’m getting my hair done. Plus, they use all my products like Seed Phytonutrient’s Anti-Frizz Cream. If I don’t use Glamsquad then I’ll get a blowout and all the Seed products actually keep my blowouts longer, which is amazing!


Have you made the switch to cleaner, greener haircare? Let me know in the comments below and connect with me on Instagram!

Don’t Be Afraid to Act Fucking Nice

As I’m out in the world exploring with my kiddos whether it’s on a run in the jogging stroller, walking around the neighborhood to a local ice cream shop or traveling on an airplane with all three littles, time and time again the thing that can INSTANTLY transform my meh into a YEH is kindness from a stranger.


Picture this: three hours into a challenging flight with both boys and baby Noa. My kids and I had just eaten an overly expensive, less-than-average lunch at the airport before boarding, then both boys proclaim they’re “starving” (great, another overly expensive, less-than-average purchase option on flight), Noa is WIDE awake due to her long lunch/airport nap and already OVER IT from a previous flight, and there’s an asshole in the seat in front of me who makes snide comments or shakes his head in disgust every time we move a muscle or Noa makes a sound. I pace the airplane like a psycho praying that somehow Noa will become sleepy during this process, and on my 400th lap up and down the plane, a woman mouths to me,


“You’re a great mom.”  

 


My entire face lit up. I smiled from ear to ear and tears formed in my eyes as I continued my lap to the way back (to bug the flight attendants because there’s literally nowhere to go on a flight with a baby that isn't in someone's way) of the plane.


Now, I’m empowered. I have 2 hours left until LAX and I can DO THIS. Fuck that dude with his negativity in front of me! I’m a great mom! It can’t be a coincidence that 12 seconds later Noa fell asleep in the carrier. I’m sure my energy relaxed her, too!



Once I was on a jog with Noa in the jogging stroller and had Lucca, our pup, too and I only had 20 minutes to get in this tiny bit of exercise before showering and going to speak on a panel. This was it. I had to pump up my energy or else I would not be active that day. As I was jogging along, every step felt next to impossible. While running through one of my fave neighborhoods to jog in, a man is crossing the street and looks at me (I’m expecting an annoying catcall) and says, “Keep going, mama!” It motivated me tenfold. I felt so strong! I told myself, “I can do this, it’s just a few more minutes of effort and I’ll feel so good later!” After a few blocks, I felt my energy drop again and my desire to walk/give up. Someone yelled out of their bedroom upstairs from a beautiful home, “You’re doing great!” Once again, I felt a surge of energy and just what I needed to carry me home. That’s it. TWO. MEASLY. SENTENCES. That transformed my day.



So, my point is this. BE FUCKING NICE. The concept we learned in elementary school, “don’t say anything if you don’t have anything nice to say,” has never been truer than it is right now. In this moment. In this current world. How can your words or actions affect others? You have NO idea unless you give it a try.



 

How can you spread some kindness today? Let me know in the comments below and connect with me on Instagram using #PhilosophieLove!

How to Give Yourself the Space as a Couple to Decompress and Drop In

As parents and entrepreneurs, Adi and I get SO caught up in everything else in life from our children to our work to our friends and everything else we forget where it all began - with us. It’s so important for us to take time away from everything in life and be in it - even if that means having to actually fly on a plane and get the F away from LA and all that we know. But it’s so good, friends. It's so good to be in it with the person you love and reconnect to all you cherish together.


At the end of last month, Adi and I escaped to Sunrise Springs Spa Resort in Santa Fe, New Mexico for a weekend and the vortex was so powerful. The second I got there I felt so nurtured and released so much. The facilities, excursions, and activities gave us a weekend to truly decompress with my partner for life.


It took lots of years of being off balance, unconnected and working through a ton of shit before we as a couple could figure out this way to go off the grid for a day, a night, or a weekend and reconnect to one another. This is a bit of what we did to give you an idea.


Our weekend getaway at Sunrise Springs Spa Resort

When we arrived we both felt completely ungrounded and unsettled from all that we were leaving in our FULL as-can-be lives so we took that first day to decompress and create space for softening. That buffer time is essential to any kind of deep reconnection whether with your partner, parent or spouse.


We spent the first day relaxing and reading on the dock by the water - literally HOURS of reading. Which I haven’t done in such a long time. What a gift it was just to read; so pure, so simple. After hours of reading and a glorious nap we took a soak in their natural mineral spring and dove deeper in the vortex of nature.


By the end of day two, we were so IN it that I was offline for a full day! We went to a yoga class which we haven’t done together since before Noa was born. We lay under the stars. We took lots of naps and ate all the food. We both got CBD massages and had a 90 min. hypnotherapy session where we had the most incredible past-life regression together. We found ourselves several times in past lives and found all the gifts we have brought to our children - such a heart-opening experience. I opened up to it entirely and felt so much appreciation and gratitude for the life Adi and I have created.


We created this magic

I am so appreciative of how open-minded Adi was to the whole weekend. It was very much a spiritually-curated weekend including a healing session with a Shaman which was perfect for me and Adi (surprisingly) was all in.


This time together is so sacred. It reminds us of the magic we have created including our three little love beings full of pure light and wonder. So little we give this time to ourselves. We always have people over or go on double dates or have family events and Sunrise Springs gave us a weekend to pause and remember where it all began.


By Saturday night we were so filled up and ready to see our babies, we left SUPER early Sunday morning. Honest, that’s all we could ever want out of a weekend getaway - the chance to reconnect, recharge and come back excited and ready to embrace our full lives.

What are some of your favorite ways to recharge and drop in? Let me know in the comments below and share with me on Facebook using #PhilosophieLove. 

How I’m Manifesting My Dream Home

I get a lot of questions about manifestation and how to work through it. I don’t believe there’s a step-by-step process to it but while I’m DEEP in it I decided to share the experience, what I’m feeling, and all that’s been going into MANIFESTING my dream home.


Manifestations are the sum of our intentions and aspirations coming into fruition. Manifestations identify goals, aspirations and desires, and are created through pure intention. I’m constantly in awe of the magic of the whole thing and the ability to step outside your ego. When you begin calling out your manifestations into the universe it’s important to be clear on your intentions. You want to make sure you have a clear and concise vision. If you keep flip-flopping on your dream desire the universe won’t know what you’re trying to bring into reality.


For manifesting my dream home, I had a very specific vision: 5 bedrooms, a good-sized backyard, a gorgeous kitchen for all my filming and recipe creations, private bedroom for our live-in au pair, room for both Adi and I to work, space for a pool and enough space to entertain and host small events.


With my intention clear and my vision set, it was time to put everything into action and I’m beyond grateful Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties entered my life to help the process truly unfold.


Initial meeting with our broker

Berkshire Hathaway has BLOWN ME AWAY with their professionalism and seamlessness, right from our very first meeting with our broker Yana (@yahahomesla) who is this super sweet and crazy smart human that makes house hunting a joy. Yana and her team were so great at curating the houses we went to and she quickly was able to adapt to us and our lifestyle which is just a tad on the crazy side.

Home hunting and viewings

We’ve gone on several showings with Yana and oftentimes they are all over the place and have to fit between a VERY tight time range. She makes sure to thoughtfully lay out the tours to work in our time frame. Everything has been organized and made sense from a point to point map view. It means so much us to us as we have businesses to run and kiddos + a baby to care for. She always makes sure we end up near our home after showings and adjusts the showings to our specific needs and desires.


All the homes we’ve been shown have been perfect for OUR family. We saw one home that had a wing with 3 bedrooms and a shared bathroom off to one side of the house (perfect for our 3 kiddos) and the master wing was on a different side but still close enough. It also had guest quarters on the outside with a separate entrance (we always have friends and family, and currently our au pair staying with us). She kept in mind that we worked from home and this home had little areas we could insulate for sound for the podcast, a lighted kitchen, spacious rooms for photos and video and, of course, a backyard.


Yana learned quickly what we did and didn’t like, so much so that she adapted in the moment if she realized we wouldn’t like something. We felt like we were really heard on all our desires for a dream home - bringing my manifestation further into reality. It’s been so easy to connect with Yana, whether over text or call, and she continues to make herself readily available to us and always carries a kind, thoughtful demeanor.


Where we’re at now

Originally I wanted a place by this spring but as I’ve learned you have to gracefully move through phases of expansion. Manifestations are the result of aligning with the universe and its divine timing. Our hunt has slowed a bit as we get our financials together for a preapproval. It’s a bit complicated since both Adi and I work for ourselves but Berkshire Hathaway has helped us connect to the right resources to get it all straightened out. The MINUTE that we are all set we know Yana will be ready to jump back in and find the house of our dreams.


The stress + anxiety that goes in a home hunt has been taken off drastically by working with Berkshire Hathaway HomeService California Properties. We’re confident that there will never EVER be a shortage of homes in Los Angeles so I'm not worried. We will find the PERFECT house for our family, possibly brand new or possibly with some love and work needed. No matter the case I know it’ll be just right for our little family.

Thoughts on the home buying process? Share your tips & tools with me below!

Turning 35: Beauty Secrets

I’ll admit that turning 35 doesn’t exactly feel (as Kai and Leo would say) “easy peasy lemon squeezy.” I’m definitely having some *feelings* as I (officially) transition into my mid-thirties. Other birthdays have flown by without even a blink. No biggie.


This one feels bigger, more permanent, and heavier in some ways.


Every year brings new challenges, new wisdom, new love and life. I’ve always felt honored to embrace every new stage of life whether it was 16, 18, 25, 30 and now, 35. In life, I practice transparency and authenticity in everything I do in order to remain completely honest to where I’m at in life, what I’m struggling with, what I’m in love with and finding the courage and determination to fight through the challenges that inhibit my growth.


Challenging and accepting growth also means embracing physical changes. In 35 years of life, I’ve been in both the worst and best shape. I tried extreme veganism, became a plant-based foodie, a hardcore yogi,  had three children and traveled around the world. Childbirth created skin pigmentation and years around the sun meant skin shifting, wrinkles and everything that comes with growing. I am proud of the way I view my body, as a woman, and especially during this age of social media and living in Los Angeles. The healthy, balanced relationship I share with it makes me feel confident but that doesn’t mean I’ve taken all the support I can to keep me feeling vibrant, beautiful and healthy.

One thing that’s helping me gracefully move into this next phase is certain beauty regiments that help my aging skin feel more youthful. As it turns out, the majority of my wellness friends have all been using these sorts of services for YEARS — some of them as maintenance in their late 20s, others more recently as they entered their 30s.


I’ve decided to share many of my secrets in this blog post in case you ever have any questions or ponder any of these services for yourself or a friend. I’m always here for open dialogue!


Here are some of my favorite beauty rituals and maintenance practices to keep me feeling confident and in LOVE with the body I’m in:


Shape House - I’m in love with this self-care center and have been going here for lymphatic drainage and a delicious detoxification sweat! Sweating is so healing for the body!


Facials and massages - I routinely get a facial for maintenance and as a general self-care practice. It’s “me” time whenever I go to get a facial or massage. It’s time away from kids, husband, friends and everyone in order to turn inward and reconnect with myself and feel amazing in my skin and body after! I get facials done at Beba Beauty for deeper treatments (mention my name for a discount!), HeyDay for routine maintenance facials and The Now for a 75 min. Massage with extra head focus and CBD cream.


IPL (intense pulsed light) treatment - I’ve been doing IPL (light therapy) for about 6 months now. I decided to omit the numbing cream and daily bleaching cream due to breastfeeding, but I definitely notice a difference each time I go. The results are quite mind-blowing, to be honest! I went to Lasky Aesthetics in Beverly Hills and was blown away by the center itself, care, concern, professionalism and RESULTS.

Eyelash extensions - I’ve been doing eyelash extensions for YEARS now and I love that I can wake up feeling put together with no makeup on. I go to Beba Beauty in Westwood and I really focus on the lashes feeling as organic as possible. I also go back and forth between eyelash extensions and keratin lash lift to give my eyelashes a break. Day to day my skincare routine is so vital to feeling bright and fresh. My favorite brands are AHAVA, Boscia and True Botanicals.


Endermologie and IV - I go to my girl at Embody Esthetics in Beverly Hills for Endermologie on my entire body. They also do IV which helps with hydration and vitamin C. I’ve noticed amazing changes particularly to my c-section scar with Endermologie. Highly recommend Embody!!


Glamsquad and Dry Bar - When it comes to getting ready for shootings, events, etc. I rely on the Glamsquad team to come help get me “camera ready.” They come to your home and give you the full treatment which is so great for a mama with a baby at home! When I can I also love getting a blow out done at Dry Bar. It’s such a relaxing and beautiful salon and the team really knows what they’re doing.

3 months ago I got my first ever Botox treatment (!!!!) with Dr. Rovelo and I honestly don’t know where I’ve been. Friends several years younger than me have been doing it and we just never talked about it because it wasn’t in my awareness of possibility. I did a little Botox around my eyes and forehead, where my smile lines and concentration lines form. Already, after 3 months, it’s almost completely gone but I like that because it gives me a chance to check in with my skin and face to see what level I actually want to continue at, if any.


I pumped and dumped all weekend after getting Botox on a Friday afternoon. I can’t believe how terrified I was and it honestly just felt like little teeny pinches and nothing more. The IPL was way worse. Within 7 days I saw the Botox completely show up - AKA all my teeny wrinkles were gone and the muscles in my forehead weren’t being used anymore when I frowned or concentrated in a yoga class.


Once I’m done breastfeeding Noa, I’ll be working with Dr. Rovelo for pigmentation and more treatments including bleaching creams, etc. I highly recommend her if you’re also experiencing these kinds of “growing pains”! She works with you and makes sure you feel comfortable and confident in any kind of treatment you pick!



So, here I am, approaching this new phase of my life journey EMBRACING my new growth edges and sitting in the magic of all I have created up to this point. I am abundant. My children are happy and that’s what matters.

 

What are some of your favorite beauty maintenance rituals and self-care splurges? I'd love to know! It's so important to stay open on this and share these conversations. Comment below or connect with me on Instagram!