Heart of the Week: Adi, My Love

People often ask me how, after being lied to and manipulated, I found trust again in my relationship with Adi. Trust is not easy to come by and in any relationship it can make or break you. Trusting a friend, family member and partner is even more difficult to achieve when the things creating it have been broken. Difficult, but not impossible.


If you haven’t read about our history, read an article here that recaps most of it.


I wanted to take the time today to share some tangible steps to rekindling your trust and more important, your love.

 

BOUNDARIES. Boundaries are an incredible way to communicate your needs, which also give your partner a chance to prove him/herself. If he/she has cheated or lied to you, they need a safe space to work in. Our boundaries are ever-evolving and changing. In the beginning, boundaries with Adi were very restricted, so much so that he couldn’t speak to other women, have friends that were women or go out for drinks with male friends. Over time, as he proved himself by continuously telling the truth and live within the boundaries made me trust him (slowly) and feel safe. Now you wouldn’t believe the boundaries we have in place and how free we are. It’s truly a miracle, but we continued to show up to each other and the work, and here we are!

COUPLES THERAPY/GROUPS.  I can’t say enough about healing and therapeutic connection. From individual therapy, to couples therapy, to therapy groups, we did it ALL and continue to maintain a healthy attendance. Adi went to a therapist several hours a week when everything first fell apart. We also went to a couples therapist and I saw an individual therapist. Find someone you really love. If you can’t afford therapy, find something in your community that’s more affordable. For the first 4 years we saw a sliding scale therapist and on average we paid about $40 a session (significantly less than most therapists). You can also connect with other people in your community going through similar issues. If you like 12 steps, there are tons of supportive 12 step groups out there. If you don’t, there are tons of other types of amazing groups that will be practically family by the time you’re finished.

 TIME. Time is something we can’t control and always wish we could speed up. Several times in my journey with Adi I would say, “Okay, I trust you! I’m not jealous anymore!” and try and will myself into believing I was okay. I WASN’T OK. I wasn’t ready. And you can’t fake it! Focus on the first two steps, and as you continue to engulf yourself into the work together, you will find that time is passing and you feel slightly better. Week by week, month by month, you will be growing closer and more connected. You will have a new relationship that looks way different than when you started, and that’s a good thing. 

BONUS: ABSOLUTE transparency and willingness from your partner. WHATEVER it TAKES. And I mean, WHATEVER IT TAKES. It may seem insane or crazy but if it makes you feel better and makes you feel like you know deep down what your partner is saying is true, then make it happen. Example: FaceTime set on an iPad when traveling in a hotel room; having locations set on his/her phone so you know their constant whereabouts; telling the other about thoughts as well as real flirtations or encounters with others. This can be really triggering for people initially and feels really scary but I promise you, time after time, it will get easier.


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Green Dream Kelp Noodle Salad Recipe

Summer salads are on the brain. These are the best mid-day nourishments in between a day of meetings, events, outings with the kids, and lazy poolside naps. I love making a bowl of greens, superfoods, fruits and grains for lunch because it makes me feel so good and gives me all the energy I need to carry me through the rest of the day.

Salads are so easy to make in a pinch and you can make a big batch for a family potluck or a single serving for just yourself. This one, in particular, is full of warm, savory flavor and very filling. You won’t suffer from the 3pm lull.

We mixed in our Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend for an extra punch of superfoods with all these amazing veggies. So good!


Gather This:

1 package of kelp noodles

Cashew cheese (recipe below)

Pea shoots

½ cup Kalamata Olives

½ sprouts

1 tbsp Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend

Hemp seeds


Do This:

Take kelp noodles out of the packaging and let them soften in hot water with a squeeze of lemon, for about 30 minutes (you can use a large mixing bowl). Drain the water and add in the cashew cheese mixture, Green Dream Superfood + Protein Blend, hemp seeds, pea shoots, Kalamata olives and sprouts. Mix well with salt and pepper and enjoy!

Follow this recipe here for cashew cheese: https://cleanfooddirtygirl.com/cashew-cheese-easy-recipe/

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Fig + Honey Waffle Toast

As beautiful as these waffle toast creations look, they taste and feel 10x better! We’ve been really digging whipping these up for your #ToastTuesday inspo. Sure, it’s not exactly a piece of bread but that makes it all the more fun. They make such wonderful brunch treats, might I add.

This particular waffle toast takes your morning nut butters to a whole new level. We mixed our fav Cacao Bee Honey with Georgia Grinders Cashew Butter (obsessed!) for this great nutty/chocolate flavor. The cashew butter is made with two ingredients: cashews and sea salt. It’s so clean and good for you. Figs are in season right now so of course we’re putting them on everything. Figs are super rich in fiber making in a great morning treat to help with digestion. It’s a must!

Gather This:

1 Kitchfix Grain-free Waffle

1 tbsp Georgia Grinders Cashew Butter mixed with 1 tsp Cacao Bee Honey

2 Figs (sliced in half)

1 tsp Cacao Magic Superfood + Protein Blend

A sprinkling of Kitchfix Cacao Granola


Do This:

Toast waffle. In a bowl mix nut butter + Cacao Bee Honey then spread on the waffle. Slice a fig in half and place on top of the waffle. Sprinkle some granola and Cacao Magic Superfood + Protein Blend on top for an extra protein boost! Enjoy!

Come back next week for more of our waffle toast recipes!


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Sophie’s LA Food Guide

Coming at you with another one of my “Sophie’s Favs” in LA! I don’t even know how I’ve gone this long without sharing my favorite food stops in the city of angels but here we are! I’m constantly sharing what I’m creating, loving and eating in the kitchen it’s only natural that I share my favorite restaurants and cafes to enjoy with friends and the fam.

While you’re here, I want to remind you that I posted a roundup of my favorite yoga studios, my favorite places to hike in LA, and even my favorite spots for the kids. If you want to see more guides for LA comment below or message me with what you want to hear. I want to provide all I can for my beautiful Philosophie tribe.

So here’s a quick look into my favorite go-to food stops.

 

Vegan and Plant-based:

Cafe Gratitude - Beverly Hills and Venice

I’m absolutely obsessed with this cafe stop. I’ve hosted events here and have tried almost everything on the menu. The atmosphere is inspiring and is filled with feel-good energy. I’ve brought my girlfriends here after trips to the beach and know I can count on it for a mid-day lunch that fills me with nutritious, high-vibe foods. I highly recommend one of their salads paired with a matcha latte. To die for!

MAKE OUT - Culver City

This hidden gem in downtown culver city has it all for plant-based foodie lovers. It’s a small business and has a cozy home feel to it. I love stopping here after a morning yoga sesh or after I pick up the boys from school. I love their kelp noodle salads. It’s so delicious and filling.


Sage - Culver City, DTLA, Old Town Pasadena

A completely organic and plant-based eatery with plenty of LA locations to choose.They offer breakfast, brunch, lunch, dinner, and family style meals. They offer it all: nut-free, gluten-free and vegan. Some plant-based/raw food options are limiting and not a wide variety but you can get everything from a taco to a burger here. It’s so good!


Plant Food + Wine (Matthew Kenney Cuisine) - Venice

Matthew Kenney is a beautiful human and his food creations are beyond words. Everything is locally sourced and completely organic. The dishes here are such a treat. I recommend saving an experience here for an anniversary or birthday.


Rahel Ethiopian Vegan Cuisine - Little Ethiopia

Rahel Ethiopian is amazing. I have yet to come across any other place like it. Vegan food can usually be very similar across restaurants (salads, raw, etc.) but here you can find traditional Ethiopian dishes with vegan substitutions. Dishes like the Hudae Special Combo, which is a chickpea stew and split lentil stew with veggies and stuffed peppers. It’s so yummy.


 

Places that offer something for everyone:

Catch - West Hollywood

This place is beautiful! It’s a seafood restaurant so you won’t find all too much variety but they do offer a vegan menu. It’s a tad sceney but really delicious food and clean options. I go here on date nights or nights out with the girls when there’s a reason to celebrate. They also have a really great wine menu.


Gjusta - Venice

Gjusta really has it all. This a great option for some daytime lunch food. They have sandwiches, meats, fish, and salads. It’s a great place to go with the family when no one can decide what they’re in the mood for because you’re bound to find something here. They also offer smoothies, pastries and breads if you need a little pick-me-up.

Photo from LA Weekly

AOC - West LA

Who doesn’t love a good wine bar? AOC does it up right. The place is beautiful and very cozy. I’ve been a fan for years and love the options they offer. They have everything from farm to table dishes and a wide variety of meat and fish dishes. My mouth is watering just thinking about their food! They also have the best dessert menu. A bittersweet chocolate torta is calling my name!


Little Door - West LA

Okay, ladies. Why not take charge and plan date night? This is the PERFECT place. The ambiance is next level and so, so, so romantic. I love going here with Adi. They have small plate options that range from steak, chicken and veggie dishes. It’s upscale so definitely save it for a special night.

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Sqirl - East LA/Silverlake

The thing I love most about dining in LA is the many different types of restaurants available. Whatever you’re in the mood for you can find a place that offers it. I don’t often travel to the eastside but when I’m there I love stopping for a bite at Sqirl. This seasonal kitchen changes up their menu with a wide variety of vegan, plant-based, gluten-free and meat friendly options. Their website is a little funky but trust me, it’s delicious!

 

 

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Tips For Traveling With A Newborn

After a vacation with the family to Tel Aviv, we are FINALLY home and let me tell you, mama is happy! If you follow me on social media you may know that it wasn’t the easiest trip and I think I may have pushed myself too hard to travel with a newborn. I loved getting away with the family and soaking up the sun on the warm beaches, but I definitely learned a lot from this trip.

You may be a new mom facing travel on the horizon so I want to provide you the best tricks + trips for traveling with a newborn and what helped me with baby Noa and our boys.

I recommend requesting a travel stroller or umbrella stroller from your place of stay. Most hotels offer sitter services and I highly recommend finding one through the hotel. It’s safer and more convenient. Bring activity books for your kids and books for reading with your newborn. Try to keep day-trips (i.e. museums, tourist attractions, etc) to a minimum, maybe 2-3 per week. Save these for when your newborn is older and will remember the trip. Look into a local camp or immersion programs for your kids so you can spend some alone time as parents.Then you’ll feel like you’re really on vacation!

We also practice no more than an hour a day on technology devices which can sometimes include a special movie with the whole family. For jet lag, immediately regulate to the the new time zone. Use holistic sleep aids like melatonin and plan fun activities during the day when you first arrive.

Mamas, YOU CAN TRAVEL WITH KIDS! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Listen to your intuition, be flexible, remain present and practice patience.

Baby Essentials Packing List:

Bassinet (or request one from hotel)

Changing pad (to lay on bassinet and floors)

2-3 swaddles / blankets

Covering BF native wilds

Diapers, wipes (more than you think you need!)

3 changes of clothes (warm with footy)

Hat

Essential oils

High-nutrient snacks for possible layovers or delays (perfect bars, apples, sandwiches)

Accommodations:

Try out Airbnb if you want to live like a local. This way you can also go grocery shopping and make meals at “home” which saves money and is WAY more fun. You also have all the amenities of a home (i.e. access to laundry, cost-effective, and much more space). While we stayed a hotel, we have family that we visited so we had the amenities of home too.

Naps and Bedtime:

These are just as sacred while traveling as they are at home. We do our best to acclimate to the new time zone, and really honor their sleep. Although they are feeling really off kilter with a new time zone we try and keep them awake the first day as long as possible and get them on that time zone. They may still wake up in the middle the night and we just go with the flow - play with them, feed them a snack and then try and get them back to sleep as quickly as possible. It can be hard to honor nap times when you’re on vacation with the baby, but it can also give you some time to rest middle of the day if you do nap them in the hotel or Airbnb. Most of the naps my kids take when traveling are in a stroller or or in the carrier instead of at home so we can continue having adventures.

Traveling + Vaccinations:
We asked our pediatrician about vaccines at Noa’s young age, since I’m spacing out the travel anyway she said it was completely fine to travel without getting vaccines. She advised to be super careful to protect her on the plane from germs and keep her covered up. I kept her in the carrier on my body or in the bassinet as often as possible, or in a blanket wrapped up, and washed my hands often.

Do you have any other tips for traveling with a newborn and young kids? Share with me on Facebook using #MyPhilosophieLove and #PhilosophieLove.

 

Coconut Berry Bee Waffle Toast

It feels so good to be back home in my kitchen surrounded by all the superfoods! We whipped up this sunshine superfood treat for your #ToastTuesday brunch. Enjoy the last few weeks of summer while biting into this delish, high-vibe snack. We’ll be surprsing you all with a new waffle

Is there anything better than my fav Coconut Cult yogurt mixed with our Berry Bee Honey? I think not! We mixed in a little plant-based food coloring to make our morning just a little bit brighter. We deserve it and so do you!

Create and experiment in the kitchen. There’s no other better stage!

Gather This:

1 Kitchfix grain-free waffle

1/4 cup Coconut Cult yogurt

1 tsp Berry Bee Honey

1 tbsp plant-based food coloring (yellow)

1/2 banana

shredded coconut and bee pollen


Do This:

Toast the waffle according to instructions, in a small bowl mix coconut yogurt, 1 tbsp food coloring, and 1 tsp Berry Bee Honey. Spread the mixture on top of toasted waffle, slice a banana and use star+moon cookie cutters to create the fun shapes (optional). Place the shapes on top of the mixture, sprinkle with bee pollen, gold star flakes, and coconut shreds.


Come back next week for another fun Waffle Toast recipe!

What summer superfood snacks do you whip it to make your days brighter? Share with me on Instagram using #PhilosophieSuperfoods or #MakeEveryFoodASuperfood.

Heart of the Week: Luludew Diapers

I love finding new amazing mom tricks to share with my beautiful Philosophie community. If you follow me on social media you know how much I’m obsessed with this Luludew and their products. They have been literal godsends since baby Noa has joined us earthside.

Life gets messy and complicated enough even without a newborn. It helps to rely on products that make life so much easier as a mom. I especially love being able to be sustainable with all the wipes and diapers baby Noa goes through when we’re able to go reusable.

These Luludew CLOTH diapers are absolutely adorable and made of the best material. On a scheduled weekly delivery/pick up date of your choosing they come and pick up the dirty diapers and replace them with clean new ones. It’s so easy!

They also have reusable cloth wipes that I absolutely love and use like crazy! It feels so good helping out Mother Earth and giving the best to our little angel.

Do you know of other must-have sustainable newborn products? Share with me on Twitter using #MyPhilosophie or #PhilosophieLove. I love hearing from you!



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